Ex Back Review: Breakup Reversed

There’s a reason Breakup Reversed is the single most popular, most downloaded guide to fixing a broken relationship. And maybe that’s because of two simple words: it works.

This expansive, step-by-step system boasts an incredible 94.7% success rate, backed up by hundreds of testimonials over the course of more than a decade. It contains the most concise, detailed blueprint to getting back together ever assembled, guiding you through the entire process of winning your ex girlfriend or boyfriend BACK.


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As you can see, this isn’t a single book. It’s a multi-volume download containing several key guidebooks to understanding and reversing ANY breakup. And it’s not just written. There are audio files too, each of them giving you specific, hand-held guidance on how to turn your ex’s current view of your relationship completely around, bringing it back to the irresistible beginning when they first fell in love with you.

Included within the package, you get the following bonuses:

  • Breakup Reversed: A quick reference guide – An easy access, fast reference containing all the major steps needed to undo your breakup.
  • Instant Heartache Relief – Vital opening information on how to STOP the heartache, ease the pain of your breakup, and get your head straight… so you can start thinking clearly and making the correct moves toward positive contact with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend. A must-read before you do anything else.
  • The Secrets to Saving Any Marriage – It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been married or how bad things have gotten, relationship expert Robert Parsons shows you exactly what needs to happen in order to quickly put your marriage back on the right track. Even in the face of separation or divorce.
  • Let the Love Last – Your education doesn’t stop after you get your ex back! Learn exactly how to keep things fresh and exciting after your reconciliation, and what steps you can take to ensure a happy, healthy relationship free from future breakups.

Relationship expert and breakup master Robert Parsons has one simple motto:

THERE ARE NO HOPELESS SITUATIONS!

He goes about attacking your breakup situation with a counter-intuitive, aggressive stance that will immediately grab your ex’s attention and force them to face the issues that broke your relationship up. His logic makes incredible sense, and best of all, it usually goes in directions you’ve never thought to go.

And this is exactly why it works.

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See, we all know people who’ve gotten back together. Certain emotional attachments and psychological triggers make people want to be together again, even after some of the worst breakups. Hell, even after infidelity, or cheating.

Parsons focuses on what makes people change their minds after going their separate ways. He shows how you can manipulate your ex’s current mindset so that they start missing you and needing you in their life again. After that, taking you back is the only real option.

As the name suggests, the system also concentrates on reversing things. First and foremost? How your ex feels about you, or even views you as a potential mate. Odds are that view has changed a bit (or a lot) since they first started dating you. Breakup Reversed shows you why that is, and what you can do to go about correcting it.

Highlights of the system include just some of the following:

  • 7 must-know tricks you can start using immediately, to turn your ex around
  • 12 huge mistakes every person makes after getting dumped (and how avoiding them can sometimes end your breakup in just hours rather than days or weeks)
  • How to uncover your ex’s true feelings for you, and which methods you can use to strengthen those bonds so that they miss you more quickly
  • An extremely sneaky trick that gives you a “clean slate” with your ex, even if your breakup involved betrayal or cheating
  • Instant attraction techniques designed to bring your relationship back to its original ‘honeymoon’ phase, when your ex couldn’t even keep their hands off you
  • One very top-secret technique that puts you immediately back in your ex’s head again, regardless of the last time you made contact

Obviously there’s a lot more to the system, including a step-by-step analysis of ALL the phases of your breakup. Robert Parsons stresses that it doesn’t matter where you are, or what you’ve done so far; there’s always a way back to your prior relationship, as long as you haven’t slammed shut the window of opportunity by making too many of those early breakup mistakes.

Also, there’s special advice on how to contact your ex after the breakup. Because although the system is geared toward making your ex miss you so much that they’re the one contacting you, there’s always the possibility you need to reach out and open a new connection with your former boyfriend or girlfriend. Positive contact is one of the more tricky aspects of undoing a breakup, and Parsons handles it with laser-precision and great advice.

In the end this guide is perfect for all levels of breakups. Whether your breakup just happened and you’re looking to avoid pushing your ex further away, or if you’ve been broken up a few weeks now and are looking for a fresh approach to contacting and communicating with your ex, you won’t want to miss the guaranteed advice contained within this very powerful system.

Download Breakup Reversed Here

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What Does it Mean When My Ex Drunk Dials Me?

It comes when you least expect it… Midnight. 2am. You pick up the phone and there’s your ex, talking as loudly and obnoxiously as if it’s 2 O’Clock in the afternoon.

Drunk dialing is one of the bigger faux pas you can encounter. But after a breakup? Well, when your ex calls you up it’s not only because he or she is totally inebriated.

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Often, a drunk phone call actually means something.

In some cases, it even means a lot.

Look, in the everyday world your ex is strong. He or she broke up with you, and intends on going their own way. But after a few drinks (or a lot of drinks), suddenly the inhibitions are lowered. Obstacles disappear.

What might seem like a really bad idea when sober becomes an awesome idea when your ex is drunk. And why?

Well, because your ex still has feelings for you in one way or another. Because he or she could’ve called anyone in their entire phone – in the entire world even – but in that exact moment of vulnerability and weakness your ex actually called YOU.

Why Alcohol is Usually the Best Truth Serum

Alcohol makes people crazy, happy, silly, stupid, violent, and a whole bunch of other things, depending upon the person. But the one thing it does universally, to everyone, is bring out the truth.

So if your ex managed to call or text you at their weakest moment? It’s almost always an indication that they still love you, or still need you in some way.

In some cases, your ex might even want you back. They could be working up the courage to tell you this, or even to admit it to themselves. But once under the influence of alcohol? Their feelings become a lot more obvious as their inhibitions melt away.

Face it, every relationship – no matter how it ended – leaves residual feelings behind. Whatever emotional bonds the two of you shared don’t just disappear the second you break up.

In fact, very often? These feelings are buried. If you want your ex back, it’s up to you to unbury them… or even better, get your ex boyfriend or girlfriend to unbury those feelings themselves.

Buttons You Can Push to Expose Your Ex’s Feelings

There are three major emotional reconnection techniques you can utilize when you want to fix your breakup. These are designed to instantly stop your ex from thinking bad things about you, and help them remember the good.

Once you master how to push these emotional hot buttons, you gain quick control over how your ex views you. Essentially, you can change their mind without them even knowing that you changed it. Almost like the Jedi Mind trick, but with a little less Force.

Understanding exactly how to tug on your ex’s heartstrings is more of an art than anything else. You can’t pull too hard, or you run the risk of scaring them away. But you also can’t sit back and do nothing, because eventually those feelings will fade.

What to Do When Your Ex Drunk Dials You

The very best thing to do when you get that drunken phone call is try to be understanding about it. Don’t get grumpy, or bitter, or launch into a lecture… these things will only make you come off like a jerk. Your ex will remember you being an asshole to them, and that’s pretty much all they’ll remember.

Instead, be cool. Realize this is something that can happen to all of us. If you’re still in love with this person, let them talk. See if you can read some of the bigger signs that your ex still loves you, or at least, still has feelings.

Whatever you do, don’t push. You can’t get answers right now, and even if you could, you wouldn’t want them. This isn’t the time for serious conversation, but if you still want this person in your life it’s a good time to have a fun conversation, laugh a bit, and maybe even bring up some of the cooler moments of your past relationship. Because when your ex wakes up? THAT’S what he or she will remember.

In the end, drunk dialing is always a sign of interest. You should be flattered, not pissed. You should see it as a compliment, even if it cost you some sleep. And in the grand scheme of things? This type of phone call can put you one step closer to reconciliation.

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The ONE Thing You Must Do When She Just Wants to Be Friends

For every guy in a relationship there are three in the FRIEND ZONE. Three lost souls stuck in a hopeless limbo, unable to escape to that one magical place they never stop fantasizing about: the position of actually being the boyfriend.

For some people, the Friend Zone can come after a relationship. You’re dating some girl, things are going great (or so you think), and all of a sudden she hits you with those horrible, dreaded words:

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“I think we’d be better off as friends

Your heart sinks. Your mouth tastes like you just swallowed a bottle of glue.

FRIENDS? REALLY?

So how’d it happen? Could it be that all of a sudden she doesn’t ‘like’ you like that?

Were you boring? Were you lame? Was the sex not good? Exactly how the hell did you manage to get demoted from boyfriend status to someone who’s now “just a friend”?

The Two Main Reasons a Girl Will Friend-Zone You

Truth be told, there are only two big reasons a girl will pick you up and hurl you into the Friend Zone. The first one is obvious: she’s into someone else. There’s some other guy she’d like to date, or potentially like to try to date, and in order to do that she needs to be free of you.

“Friending” you could easily be a way for her to let you down easy. However, it could also be a way of keeping you ‘around’. It’s always nice to know someone still likes you, wants you, and would come back to you at any time. This gives her freedom. Choices. She can try to do something (or someone) better than you, and if it doesn’t work out? Well, there you are. That happy little “friend” she kept on the back burner for that rainy day.

The other reason a girl you’re dating will suddenly want friendship over a relationship is because you’re not being assertive as her boyfriend. In this case she’s friending you because you’re acting like a friend. You’re too passive, too wishy-washy. You’re acting less like her man and more like her ‘buddy’.

Check out this list and see if any of these things sound familiar:

  • You’re doting on her. Constantly. To the point of being annoying.
  • You tell your girlfriend how much you love her WAYYYY more than she tells you.
  • You’ve put her up on a pedestal. To the point where you’re worshipping her as a princess rather than dating her as an equal.
  • You say you’re “sorry” all of the time. Which is weak. Very weak.
  • You buy her stuff consistently, almost to where it feels like (on her end) a payment plan for going out with you.
  • You don’t take the lead. You’re always asking her what “she wants to do”, rather than planning things yourself and actually taking her out.
  • Your dates aren’t very romantic. You take her mundane places and/or hang out with groups of people rather than wine and dine her alone.
  • You’re never assertive. You never grab her and kiss her, or initiate getting physical. Rather you wait for her to do these things, thinking it’s ‘gentlemanly’ to do so.

All of these activities will get you Spartan-kicked into the Friend Zone. FAST. Girls won’t hang with guys like this, and certainly won’t stay with them. They don’t make them feel safe and protected. They don’t make them feel desired in the ways a woman wants a man to desire them. And that’s because your actions are more friendly than romantic.

If you’ve never dated this girl before, here are 3 big ways you can instantly escape the Friend Zone. And hey, you’re welcome.

But if you’re already in a relationship, and your girlfriend suddenly thinks you’d be “better off as friends”? Immediate and decisive action is necessary.

The only way to keep her is to turn her around. Change how she sees you, or how she thinks she sees you. So stop her mid-sentence. Grab her, kiss her, and tell her:

“I don’t want a friend. I want YOU. We’re good together, and there’s no planet in the universe where I can see us being ‘just friends’ with each other.”

It’s firm. It’s assertive. It’s a strong counter to what she’s trying to do. And if she persists? Tell her:

“I’m not going to apologize for wanting you as my girlfriend. You’re awesome. Too awesome to just be my friend. So either we date or we don’t date, and both options are cool with me. But I’m flat out telling you, there’s no middle ground.”

In most cases, your girlfriend won’t be ready for this. She’s looking to “try” the breakup out, almost like a gift she can return if she’s not happy with it. Instead, you’re giving her a no refunds policy. You’re telling her (not asking her) in no uncertain terms what’s going to happen next. In short, you’re taking the reins.

From there, you have your work cut out for you. Start being the guy she WANTS and not the all-too accommodating, girlfriend-worshipping pushover you have been. Step up your game. Take her places that give her no doubt in her mind that you are her boyfriend and nothing else.

Check out this list of traits women find attractive in men. As you start to exhibit them, you’ll find yourself much more successful – both in life, your job, and also with women – than you’ve ever been before.

And if you’re already ‘on a break’ or you’ve already agreed to be friends with your girlfriend? Check out this complete 6-step process on How to Win Her Back.

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My Ex Hasn’t Responded for 2 Weeks – What Can I Do?

Hi Anthony!

My name is Sharon and I have been reading your relationship articles for a while now and they seem to help, but I am in a very strange situation with my ex and I was wondering if you can help me out.In the beginning of July my ex broke up with me because he told me that it was the right time to move on and to just remain friends. A week after he broke up with me I had sex with another guy.

A couple of days after my ex broke up with me he would still text me everyday and remained contact. A couple of weeks later we began to hang out a lot and started to discuss getting back together. I told him about the other guy that I hooked up with and he started crying and was very upset the next day he told me he was shocked and confused and very hurt because he told me he still had feelings for me when we broke up. Then he told me that he’s giving me the total green light to move on and that this would be the last time we were gunna talk.

I haven’t heard from him since then which was two weeks ago. I just shot him a text a couple of hours ago saying hey and he hasn’t responded. He’s a sensitive guy and I want to know from a guy’s pov how he is feeling and if I still have a chance. I still love him and I want him back terribly .. We been together for two and a half years on and off.

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Hi Sharon!

Sorry to hear about the problems you’ve been having. Your situation is fairly common, and your boyfriend is having some serious remorse over his stupid “move on and be friends” move, which backfired so hard it came back to bite him in the ass just a few weeks later.

“move on and to just remain friends” – The ‘just be friends’ part of this statement should’ve clued you in on his true intentions: he wanted you to wait around. Not saying you had any responsibility to sit back and wait around for him… you were certainly allowed to do whatever you wanted at that point. But what your boyfriend *expected* and what you actually *did* turned out to be two very different things.

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This guy wasn’t ready to let you go (and still might not be). He was having a “single moment”, where he wanted to see what else was out there for him. At the same time of course, he wanted you to stick around. Staying friends was his way of keeping tabs on you, so he’d know how hung up on him you might still be… and how much time he has to do what he wants. Ideally, he wanted you to stick by and twiddle your thumbs while he made some moves. And if those moves failed? There you were, all ready to take him back.

Instead, you went out and made you own moves. Your only mistake – in my opinion – was telling him about them. When you met up again and started discussing getting back together, you probably should’ve omitted the fact that you slept with another guy. Maybe you did it out of loneliness, a rebound fling, even a little bit of getting back at him for the breakup… whatever it was, you should’ve probably kept it to yourself. If he found out later, you could always tell him you lied to spare his feelings, and that the one-time sex meant nothing. And if he never found out? No harm done.

I don’t usually advocate lying about a relationship, but in truth you weren’t together at that point. What you did was YOUR business, not his. And yes, he might even have asked if you’d been with someone else, but you know what? It’s not his place to break up with you and then demand do know what you were doing while you were rejected, hurt, and alone.

Okay, I guess you want a solution. :) At this point it’s tough, because he’s not going to get over the sex you had with this guy anytime soon. Your boyfriend is going to drill you for details (give him as little as possible), and re-hash the affair in his head over and over again. It’ll drive him crazy with jealousy, and it will make him bitter and angry. But at the same time, in the back of his mind he’ll know he brought this on himself for pulling the “let’s go on a break” stunt back at the beginning of July. Maybe you acted more quickly than most, but in the end, you really didn’t do anything wrong.

From a guy’s point of view, he CAN forgive you. It’s going to take him longer to forget. What you need to do is blow this whole thing off as almost meaningless whenever he brings it up. Tell him it was a one-shot deal, it wasn’t even that good, and you thought of him the whole time (even if you didn’t). Tell him this guy means nothing, and that if he wants to get back together you’re willing to give it a shot… but ONLY if he’s willing to forget what happened and NOT continually punish you for what he might consider cheating on him.

The worst thing you can do right now is apologize… even for ‘hurting him’. He hurt himself. You need to maintain a strong and firm stance on this, but at the same time be appreciative and gentle with his feelings. Tell him you totally understand how he’s feeling, and that you’d feel badly in the same scenario. But tell him at the time YOU were hurt, YOU were confused, and YOU sought some comfort in another guy’s arms during a very hard time. It had nothing to do with him, your relationship, or your future together.

That’s the best you can do, I’m afraid. If he hasn’t contacted you by now, I’d suggest you *completely* eliminate all calls, texts, emails, etc… He needs to wrap his head around what happened, but he also needs to realize he’s losing you if he doesn’t take a step forward in your direction. Chase him, and he’ll think he’s right and you’re wrong. But let him chase you, and it will be like he’s trying to get back something special he’s on the verge of losing – and this is what you want.

Also, there are ways of getting your ex boyfriend to call you. Check these out, some of them might help in getting him to make that first contact.

Good luck, and let me know how it turns out for you, okay?

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Hey Anthony, just wanted to thank you so much for the advice! Its now going on three weeks with still no contact and I’m doing my absolute best by sticking strong to your disappearing from his radar method .. He still hasn’t contacted me either ..

I guess I shouldn’t worry because it has only been three weeks. I had been reading in one of your articles that usually it takes a good six weeks for them to possibly contact. What really scares me though is when the last time I herd from him he told me that he was giving me the total green light to move on and that he is really serious about never speaking to me again. I don’t know if he is just saying that because he was hurt or if he was really serious.

He is a pretty sensitive guy so I don’t really know how to take that statement it could probably go either way. I totally agree that I shouldn’t have told him about the sex with the other guy because it was my business only. I will totally keep you updated and let you know what goes on! Thanks again and keep safe from the hurricane, us long islanders are strong though well make it through LOL 😉

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Haha!!! A fellow Long Islander? NICE. Enjoy the Hurricane and stay indoors!

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My Ex Still Answers My Texts – What Does it Mean?

One of the more confusing aspects of breaking up is an ex who keeps in touch with you afterward. Especially when that person acts as if it’s perfectly normal to stay in touch, keep up past levels of communication, or even ‘stay friends’ afterward.

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For your ex, this is a comfortable situation. He or she still gets the security of still talking to you, which is an advantage when it comes to letting go. It always hurts less to let someone go over a longer period of time rather than just cut ties all at once, which is why most people will keep up some level of contact even after breaking up.

So what does it mean when your ex is still texting you?

Are they just looking out for you? Trying to be friendly?

Or is there some other underlying reason for them to keep texting you after breaking things off?

Well first, a lot can be said by the way the two of you broke up. In the case where the breakup was mutual (or at least you agreed that it was), texting each other might be an extension of habit. You’ve been talking all through your relationship, and since you parted ways with no really bad feelings, staying in contact seems fairly natural.

In other cases though, when an ex is still texting you? It’s probably because he or she has some unfinished business.

How to Use Text Messages to Get Your Ex Back

If you’re the one who got dumped, obviously you’d like to fix the situation. Getting back together with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend might prompt you to continue texting with them purely for your own interests. You want to keep talking with them. You don’t want them to lose interest. You love them, and would hate to lose them, so you’re willing to hang on to any last scrap of the former relationship no matter how big or small.

In truth however, constantly texting with your ex is counterproductive to getting them back. Because you can’t fix your breakup until:

  • Your ex misses you.
  • Your ex needs you.
  • Your ex sees you as attractive again.

Those three things. That’s it. That’s all it takes to get back together again.

Now getting your ex to miss you, right off the bat, is a huge problem if you’re still carrying on a textual relationship. By not taking yourself out of his or her life, you’re not creating a hole where you used to be. You’re still there. You’re only a few buttons away at any given time, and that knowledge gives your ex the security to continue being without you. Because in many ways, they still have you.

If your ex doesn’t miss you, they’ll never need you back. If you never go away, they never have to experience a life without you in it. So right away you’ve got two strikes going for you.

Finally, your ex broke up with you for a reason. Maybe even a few reasons. But whatever those were, they added up to the same thing: the romance lost something along the way. Whatever attracted your boyfriend or girlfriend to you in the first place wore off, and this was a combination of physical looks, emotional attachments, and personality traits that made them interested in you.

When you keep texting with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, they’ll see it as needy. They’ll see it as a sign that you need them more than they need you. Especially if you’re answering the texts very quickly, or flirting with your responses.

Think of it this way; we all want someone desirable. Someone who’s cool and attractive to the point where they’re almost unattainable. Capturing that person’s interest is a huge part of the courtship process. Getting them to like and appreciate you is your ultimate goal.

So when you’re already doing these things? When your ex already has your undivided attention? There’s no chase. You’ve eliminated the courtship process and gone straight to “hey, here I am, take me when you want me”, and at the same time, you’ve given your ex no particular reason to still want you back. Nothing has really changed. Even the texts have been the same.

To win your ex back, you need to break this cycle. You need to withdraw, shake things up, and let your ex know he or she stands to really lose you – and for good too – if they don’t immediately start chasing you again.

Your first step? Taking Away your Ex’s Safety Net. Because once you do this, the breakup roles are entirely reversed. The power your ex took when they broke things off shifts back to you, and you can then use that power to make them want you again.

You also learn tons more about texing your ex (and how you can use text-messages to lure them back), by watching this video. It’s a great tool for those trying to re-attract an ex boyfriend or girlfriend strictly using text messages.

But for now, stop texting your ex. Don’t answer for a while and see what happens. Some of the best advice you can get involves turning your phone off, putting it in a drawer, and going out and having a great time WITHOUT your ex (and without your cellphone). Your LIFE is the thing that makes you attractive to someone. Not your text-messages.

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3 Simple Tricks That Will Make Your ExGirlfriend Come Running Back

When it comes to fixing a breakup, a lot of guys think they know what they’re doing. They see the problem as a matter of cause and effect: first you find out what the problem is, and then you come up with a solution.

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Ah, if only girls were really that easy.

In truth, a girl will not always list the REAL problems she has with you. By the time she’s fed up enough to break things off, she might just want you to go away.

If this is the case, she’ll do anything just to shove you aside. She’ll bruise your ego. Tell you things that aren’t necessarily true. She might even take all the blame on herself, giving you the “it’s not you, it’s me” speech. Even when you know the problem is most likely YOU.

So how do you fix a breakup like this? When your girlfriend is being stingy with the information, and stubborn to the point of ignoring you completely?

Well, that’s when it’s time to take back CONTROL.

Acting from a position of weakness will always fail. This is exactly what happens to most people; they fail to get back together because they couldn’t stop doing “stuff”. What stuff? Well, it didn’t matter. They felt their ex slipping away, so they started doing anything and everything to get them back.

The problem with that outlook is that it ends up destroying your chances. You’re acting irrationally, and without any strength. Your ex isn’t receptive to hearing from you, so anything you do only pisses her off. And as you do more and more of it? She begins to ignore your every move. You’ve become nothing but a nuisance to her.

He Who Controls the Breakup Controls What Happens Next

Read that headline again. Whether or not you fix things and get back with your ex is determined by ONE person, not the both of you. And in every case, it’s determined by the person who has the control.

When your girl broke up with you, she seized all the control. It’s up to you to wrest it back from her, and to do that, you need to be very indifferent as to whether you get back together or not. You have to be smooth. You have to be particular. You have to demonstrate only the best and most attractive qualities, while suppressing the qualities that always drive women away.

1)   Control Yourself

To win back the interest of anyone who dumped you, you need to be on your best behavior. So eliminate anything and everything that might make you feel negative, or sad, or sulking.

Neediness is disgustingly unmanly. Clinginess is a death-sentence. Acting bitter or pissed about the relationship ending will make you seem like the world’s biggest sore loser, and will only make your girlfriend feel more secure that her decision was the right one.

Eliminate ALL of these behaviors. No matter how you feel on the inside, on the outside you have to be stone cold. And believe it or not? By not acting this way you’re going to find yourself in a much better mood. A much more positive frame of mind, from which it becomes a lot easier to re-attract your ex.

2)   Control How Your Ex Girlfriend Sees You

You have full control over how your ex sees you, so take advantage of that fact. When she looks back to see how you’re doing, you must be doing absolutely awesome.

This means you need to be happy. Excited. Exciting. You should be active and energetic and full of charisma. Instead of being alone and lonely, you should be surrounded by friends. Your social calendar should keep you so busy it’s hard to find time for anything negative in your life, and this is exactly the sort of thing that will make your girl wonder why she dumped you in the first place.

3)   Control How Much Contact You Have With Your Ex

As you already should no, there’s a No Contact Phase to every breakup. This is when you shouldn’t be talking to or texting your ex, no matter how hard that might seem, and no matter whether or not you told her you’d still “remain friends” with her.

YOU are the only person who has control over whether you reach out to your ex or not. And if she calls or contacts you? Well, that’s even better because the control then shifts to you. Each phone call, each text message your girlfriend sends after dumping you – no matter what the subject or what it’s about – erodes away just a little more of her own power. And it gives that power back to you.

So when your girl calls? Ignore it for a day before calling her back. When she texts you? Wait several hours before responding. Remember: CONTROL. You’re keeping up the appearance that you don’t need her, or desire to hear from her, even though inwardly you’re working to get her back.

There are 6 Individual Steps to getting your girlfriend back, so learn every single one of them. Every breakup has a reconciliation window, but no window stays open forever.

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Take the Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Quiz

Does he still love you? Sometimes it’s not easy to tell. Guys can send very mixed feelings your way after a breakup, and their intentions are never 100% clear.

To understand whether or not you’ve still got a shot, you need to know how your ex really feels. You have to dig deep, to where unresolved emotional bonds are still tying him to you in one way or another. And more often than not, this is not something your ex is going to be open about, or disclose willingly.

Get Your Ex Back Quiz

The following Quiz can tell you a whole bunch of stuff about your ex boyfriend. Answering honestly, you’ll learn:

  • What it means when he’s still calling you, and how you can get your ex to call.
  • How much you should read into it when your boyfriend keeps ‘running into’ you.
  • What the type of contact your ex makes says about his future intentions.
  • How the way he broke up with you can affect whether or not he still sees the two of you together.
  • How any communication he has with your family and friends can be a big sign he’s ready to take you back.
  • Why the excuses he gives for calling you can hint at the possibility of an apology or reconciliation.
  • The true reason(s) he may have broken up with you (which are not always what he originally told you).
  • Why your ex bringing up the past can be a big tell when it comes to getting back together.
  • Exactly what it means when you have intimacy after the breakup (sex with your ex).

These are only a few of the areas covered by this 18-question quiz. At the end the quiz is fully scored, and points tallied to give a total. The higher your score, the greater the chance your boyfriend still wants you back. From there recommendations are made, based upon how you scored and which questions received stronger answers.

The entire Get Your Ex Back Quiz can be found here. Check it out, and see how high a score you get.

Connecting With Your Ex Boyfriend After the Breakup

In some cases you’ll want to walk away from a bad relationship. But in others? You’ll feel like the whole thing is unfinished. As if you really could be good together, if only the two of you could get past a few hurdles.

Knowing what those hurdles are is usually difficult. Many relationships end with a bunch of fighting or bad feelings, and others just end with two people shutting up and walking away. Getting back in touch after that can be difficult. Contacting your ex is like putting yourself out there, setting yourself up for rejection, if the type of contact you make with him is unwanted.

If your ex hasn’t called or contacted you at all, calling him isn’t the answer. Not now, while he still hasn’t had time to miss you. But then many times, an ex boyfriend will want to stay in touch with you after breaking things off. He’ll send text messages, or even encourage you to do the same. He might even suggest staying friends with him, but if you want him back? This type of arrangement will only lessen your chances at ever being his girlfriend again… and for a good many reasons.

Remember: you can’t force someone to be with you. You can only make them see what they’ll be missing, and to do that, you need to go away for a while. In cutting yourself entirely from your boyfriend’s life you can play upon the existing emotional bonds he’s currently trying to bury. And if those bonds are strong enough? He’ll miss you enough that he’ll need you back, or at least need to start hearing from you again… and this is when he’ll make that call.

Learn the best methods to accelerate your ex missing you, and use them to speed up the process of fixing your breakup. These work more efficiently when you employ them closest to your breakup date, so don’t wait forever.

And in the meantime? Take the quiz to see exactly where you stand on the path to getting back together.

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How to Keep Your Break From Becoming a Breakup

So you’re on a ‘break’… or you took ‘time off’ from the relationship. Or maybe your partner just needed ‘space’, or even ‘time to think’.

Sound familiar? That’s because your boyfriend or girlfriend is unhappy. They’re putting your relationship in a holding pattern, while you sit there doing nothing and hoping that somehow, someway, things will get miraculously better.

Stop Break From Becoming Breakup

Are you all ready to do that?

Of course not.

Because right here, right now, I’m going to show you how to stop and reverse your breakup. And make no mistake about it, that’s exactly what this is; a breakup just waiting to be finalized, and through no fault or control of your own.

Putting any relationship on the back burner is always a bad idea. That’s because ‘taking time off’ is usually the first step toward a much larger and more permanent problem; breaking up for good.

Why Does My Lover Want to Take a Break?

Whatever vague, bullshit reason your boyfriend or girlfriend gave you for needing a break, the first thing you should acknowledge is how lame it is. No one needs “space” from someone they love to the point of excluding them from their lives. Nobody needs to “work on themselves for a while” unless they’re training for the Olympics, and for God’s sake nobody needs time apart “to see just how much we really love each other” when that time could be spent, oh, I don’t know, actually trying to love each other.

The fact is, your partner wants something entirely different. Let me translate it for you:

“Hey, listen. I was thinking of seeing other people. Or maybe even trying to date other people, and you know, see if that works out for me”.

“But just in case it doesn’t? I’d like you to still be around waiting for me.
So let’s call it a ‘break’ instead of a ‘breakup”.

“Of course this means I get to do whatever the hell I want, and you get to sit here and wait for me under the guise of ‘I need some space’.”

In other words: “Don’t call me, I’ll call you.”

Obviously, none of this is fair. Your partner is exploiting his or her sense of power. They realize that you want or need them just a little bit more than they need you, and they’re using that little fact to test the boundaries of your relationship.

Most people, unfortunately, go along with the break. They see no alternative because they’re too afraid of losing their lover for good. This might be where you are now, having lowered your head and agreed to whatever obscure terms your now exboyfriend or exgirlfriend laid out when they semi-dumped you. You hope they’ll come to their senses and return, but in the back of your mind you’re terrified that they won’t.

What to Do When You’re ‘On a Break’

Oddly enough, rocking the boat is exactly what you need to do if you want any chance of being with this person again. Going along with the break will almost certainly lead to the end of your relationship, because even if this person does come back they’re only going to abuse their sense of power again and again until the two of you finally break up.

A relationship should be EQUAL. The love you give should be the same as the love you receive. The best partnerships are built on trust and respect, not on forced commitment and the constant fear of being left alone.

So what should you do when your boyfriend or girlfriend wants ‘time apart’ or ‘space’ or some other nonsense? Easy. You walk in the opposite direction.

Rather than meekly going along with whatever vague terms are set as far as hanging out, contacting them, etc… you smirk back at your boyfriend or girlfriend and say:

“Yeah… thanks but no thanks. I stopped doing the whole
‘we’re on a break’ thing back in the 7th grade.”

Sneer at it. Make fun of it. Make sure your lover realizes how stupid they ought to feel, asking you to take something as important as your relationship and relegate it to some weird limbo.

When they try to reword things or push the issue, tell them:

“If you don’t want to date me, fine. Let’s break up. We can both do our own thing and both go off and see other people. But I’m sure as hell not
doing this ‘take time apart’ crap.”

Say this, and you’ll find your lover picking his or her jaw up off the floor. Why? Because it’s totally not what they expected. You’re doing the exact opposite of what they thought you would do, which was jumping through hoops in order to keep them.

In truth? Your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t want to break up right now. If that was their intention, they would’ve put it a lot differently. Instead, they wanted a ‘break’ because it allowed them time to test the waters. To jump on over the fence and check if the grass was really greener, with the comfort and knowledge you’d let them jump back to YOU if the grass on the other side of the fence totally sucked.

Instead, you’re telling them no. You’re telling them you won’t be there when they get back. You’re also letting them know you’re ready to ‘do your own thing’ as soon as possible, which will make your partner – who is still very attached to you – ten times more upset than anything else.

Learn the rest of these Counter-Rejection Techniques if you feel your relationship is threatened by an unwanted break. They’re are an amazing way to stop and reverse the detachment process, by forcing your boyfriend or girlfriend to completely reevaluate how they feel about you.

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3 Surefire Ways to Escape the FRIEND ZONE

The Friend Zone… we’ve all been there. We’ve all dreaded it, and we’ve all tried to escape.

Fact is, very few guys have escaped. Most of them get stuck there forever, drifting further and further away from ever dating this girl who considers them nothing more than a ‘friend’.

Friend Zone

Others botch the situation to the point where it’s almost painful. They do everything for these girls. They take them places, they buy them expensive things. They do more for them than even their boyfriends do, and yet these girls still see them as nothing more than “just a friend”.

If you’re in the Friend Zone right now, it’s time to get out. It’s time to sack up and actually do something. You want to date this girl? DO IT. Don’t deliver some lame excuse such as being “afraid of losing the friendship” when in actuality you want her as a girlfriend more than anything else in the world.

The following three methods will get you out of the Friend Zone. Read them, study them, and then pick the one that’s right for you. But first? Read these 8 Things All Women Are Attracted To and make sure you’re exhibiting at least six or more of these qualities.

Okay, now let’s break out of the Friend Zone once and for all:

Ask Her Out. On a DATE. Yes. An Actual DATE.

Most guys stuck as “just a friend” don’t realize they’re the ones keeping themselves from succeeding. Because to break out of the Friend Zone? You actually have to take that giant leap forward and ask this girl out.

No, ‘going out’ with her places doesn’t count. All those movies, dinners, long drives or walks together… none of that means Jack Squat. You did those things as her FRIEND. You were stuck in a place where none of that stuff earned you any potential boyfriend credit.

Here’s what you do. Next time you’re with this girl, and the weekend is coming up, you tell her:

“Hey. I’m taking you out this Saturday. ON A DATE. Yes, a DATE date.
And no, you can’t say no. The only thing you can tell me right now is
what time I’m picking you up.”

At this point your ‘friend’ will act dismayed. Is she really? Hell no. Because 100% of the girls who say stuff like “I can’t believe he asked me out! I had no idea he really liked me as more than a friend!” are flat out lying about it.

GIRLS KNOW. They ALWAYS know. There’s not a girl on this planet who can’t tell whether you’re into her or not, especially after having spent so much time with you. So as she acts all taken aback and pretends to pick her jaw up off the floor? You tell her:

“Please, spare it. You KNOW I like you. And you know what? You like me too.
We’ve hung out enough and gotten along so well it’s way past time we
at LEAST gave something like this a shot.”

And there it is. Your cards are out on the table. Rather than pretending to be this girl’s good buddy for the next several years, you’ve flat out admitted that you like her.

The trick here is to do this CONFIDENTLY. If you do it in a sheepish way, she’s gonna balk. If you do it weakly, or if you ask her lamely “do you like me the way I like you?” you come across as a total pushover wuss. Which is certainly not attractive, when it comes to being her possible BOYFRIEND.

Asking a girl out that you’ve known for a long time is flattering. She’s going to appreciate that. Doing it like this makes her rethink your friendship. She’s already classified you as “just a friend”, and now suddenly you’re going to be re-classified… hopefully into a potential boyfriend.

Withdraw the Friendship – Disappear From Her Life and Let Her See That She Needs You

This method stands on its own. But it can also be particularly successful if you’ve already tried method #1 and she failed to go out with you.

Here, you’re going to capitalize on the fact that this girl relies on you. She’s leaned on you for friendship (and companionship and advice) for so long, she’s developed a sort of dependency. And the best thing to do in that case? Is to take yourself away.

Stop responding to her. Don’t answer her calls, don’t reply to her text messages. When your friend finally gets back in touch with you and asks what’s up? Tell her “Listen, let’s meet up, we have to talk.”

Eventually, sit her down face to face (don’t do it over text or something stupid like that) and tell her:

“Look. I LIKE you. As a friend, sure, but also as much more than a friend.
You’d have to be crazy not to see it by now.”

She’ll get quiet. Most girls do. Or maybe she’ll even say something, but whatever it is you continue with:

“I can’t be ‘just friends’ with you anymore. It’s too hard. You’re too fucking awesome and we get along too ridiculously well for us not to at least TRY to date each other.
We would be stupid not to.”

Your goal here is to convince her to give things a shot. To reconsider and reclassify you based on how well you’ve gotten along as friends. If she’s dated a bunch of jerks, mention that. If she’s never happy with the guys she picks, point it out. Then point out how you’ve gotten along so well for so long, and how dumb it would be not to try and take things to the next level.

If she doesn’t agree to go out with you, she’ll probably counter with “I don’t want to risk our friendship.” And here’s where you have to get hard. It’s a tough thing to do, but here’s where you tell her:

“Well that’s the thing – I can’t be friends with you anymore. I feel too close to you. It’s not friendship for me anymore, and if I told you it was I’d only be pretending.”

After that, walk away. Wish her well. Don’t cry or pout or act all bitter about it – do it as if it’s the most matter-of-fact thing in the world. By ripping the Band-Aid off quickly, you’re giving her a shock. She has to decide whether not seeing you at all is something she can cope with, or if maybe, just maybe she should be viewing you in a different way.

Again, you need to do this with an air of cool confidence. You CANNOT be weak. You CANNOT go for the ‘pity’ date, or you’ll just look like an asshole. Remember: either she dates you or she doesn’t date you, but there’s no middle ground. There’s no going back to “just friends” because it’s a convenient, safe place for her.

The Big Commitment: Go in for the Kiss

This method is the ballsiest, but it also provides the most instant reward. You’re going to go full-out here, balls to the wall. Sink or swim.

Next time you’re supposed to hang out with this girl, make sure you look and feel your absolute best. Take her somewhere cool. Somewhere that could even be considered romantic, like a beach, or a quiet, darkened restaurant. Talk her up, and no matter what you have to do, make her laugh. And just as she’s finished laughing?

Lean in and plant one on her lips.

DON’T do it hesitantly. DON’T pull back. Kiss her like you really mean it. Like you’ve been kissing her for years and years.

One of two things will happen here. Either she’ll go with it – in which case you’re on the final rung of the ladder leading out of the Friend Zone – or she’ll pull away from you. No matter what happens though, make no apologies for what you did.

“Look, you’re awesome. I’m tired of pretending you’re not. I’m sick of being the ‘friend’ to such an amazing, cool girl. I want to be something more, and I want you to want that too.”

The worst thing you can do is berate yourself, or say “I’m sorry I did that…” or any of that kind of stuff. BE A MAN. Make no bones about the fact that you’re attracted to this girl, and make no excuses for wanting to be with her. She may not have been ready for you to kiss her like that, but she certainly has to see you differently. You’re out of the Friend Zone one way or the other, and that’s always a good thing. A girl will let you sit in the Friend Zone forever if you don’t do something to help yourself out.

Understand something: discomfort or embarrassment are fleeting. REGRET IS FOREVER. You’re far better off giving things a try than just sitting there acting like a goofball “friend” to this girl when you really want something more.

And to be honest? Some of these girls are waiting for you to make the first move. Imagine how hard you’ll kick yourself 5, 10, 15 years down the line when you run into this girl again and playfully say “I wonder why we never dated?” only to hear her reply “Well, probably because you never actually asked me out!”

NEVER feel ashamed that you tried to be with someone. NEVER feel bad about opening up and telling them your feelings. The worst that can happen is you go home alone. The best that could happen is you go home together.

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Your ExBoyfriend Wants to Stay Friends – Why It’s a Great Sign

Going through a breakup is confusing. Sometimes a guy will ask to stay friends with you afterward, but not really mean it. But other guys will actually want to keep in contact with you, and expect you to stay in touch with them as well.

Boyfriend Wants to Be Friends

If this is the scenario you’re going through, it’s usually a good sign. Because when you’ve had a close relationship with somebody, it’s not always easy to sever every last attachment… especially in the case where your ex boyfriend still hasn’t fully resolved his feelings for you.

Being friends with your ex might seem like a great idea. In reality though, there’s a good chance of you getting hurt.

Sure, you’ll still get to keep in touch with and even see your ex. But as he starts doing new things (without you) and eventually begins dating other people? Your heart will break twice as hard because you’ll have to watch the whole thing from a front-row seat… as his “good friend”.

By the same token, think about when you possibly meet someone else. Think your new guy is going to be cool with you staying in touch and constantly contacting your ex boyfriend?

Of course not. There will be jealousy, there will be envy, and there will be fights over the whole thing.

Being Friends With Your Ex to Get Him Back

A lot of women think that by staying friendly with an ex boyfriend, they’re maximizing their chances of getting back together. As if always being around, in plain sight, and keeping up communication with their ex will suddenly make him realize he still loves you.

The reality is that just the opposite will happen.

First of all, you’re giving your ex boyfriend all the things that he needs from you. Love, attention, friendship… and probably even sex. Lots of exes that hang out together end up sleeping together in a type of friends-with-benefits arrangement. And while that’s fine if you have no romantic attachments, it’s going to break your heart if you still love your exboyfriend and want him back.

In this scenario, your ex never feels compelled to ask you to be his girlfriend again. Why? Because has has everything already. You’ve made him comfortable. You’ve made him content. And you’ve done this all without the added pressure of being girlfriend/boyfriend; he doesn’t really have to answer to you about anything because he’s not truly your boyfriend.

The Good Thing About Your Ex Wanting to Be Friends

Now there’s still a silver lining here. Because if your boyfriend asked to remain friends even after dumping you, it’s because he still isn’t ready to let you go.

To him, it would be better if you were waiting around, just in CASE he decides he wants you back. And many girls are okay with this, hanging in the wings while their exboyfriends go out and do whatever they want to do, including dating other people, and are still willing to eventually take them back.

But if you don’t WANT your ex to date anyone else? If you actually want him back now instead of later? Well, then that’s easy. You have to refuse to be friends with him.

“Listen, I love you… but I can’t be friends with you. Friendship isn’t what I want from you, so I think it would be better if we both just went our separate ways.”

This is just one of four different counter-rejection techniques you need to learn if you want to get your boyfriend back. Rather than going along with what your boyfriend wants (and expects) from you, you’re pushing him out of his comfort zone by going in the opposite direction.

See, your boyfriend doesn’t want to lose you completely. Not now. Not all at once. He expected to let go of you gradually, so that it didn’t bother him as much. Kind of like peeling a Band-Aid off slowly rather than quickly, to minimize the pain.

And of course, as we all know, that never works. So what you’re doing here is telling him “hey, I’m not going to wait around for you while you do that”. This forces your ex to make hard choices about losing you for good. Which is something he never has to do if you’re sitting there smiling back at him from a role of “friendship”.

In the end, don’t settle for just being friends. Not if what you REALLY want is your boyfriend back. The road to reconciliation doesn’t lead through friendship. It’s an entirely different path you need to take that will rebuild your relationship rather than forge some kind of pseudo one-sided friendship.

There are 6 Individual Steps needed to get him back, so find out what they are! The sooner you get started on winning his heart, the easier it will be to call yourself his girlfriend again.

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