It comes when you least expect it… Midnight. 2am. You pick up the phone and there’s your ex, talking as loudly and obnoxiously as if it’s 2 O’Clock in the afternoon.
Drunk dialing is one of the bigger faux pas you can encounter. But after a breakup? Well, when your ex calls you up it’s not only because he or she is totally inebriated.
Often, a drunk phone call actually means something.
In some cases, it even means a lot.
Look, in the everyday world your ex is strong. He or she broke up with you, and intends on going their own way. But after a few drinks (or a lot of drinks), suddenly the inhibitions are lowered. Obstacles disappear.
What might seem like a really bad idea when sober becomes an awesome idea when your ex is drunk. And why?
Well, because your ex still has feelings for you in one way or another. Because he or she could’ve called anyone in their entire phone – in the entire world even – but in that exact moment of vulnerability and weakness your ex actually called YOU.
Why Alcohol is Usually the Best Truth Serum
Alcohol makes people crazy, happy, silly, stupid, violent, and a whole bunch of other things, depending upon the person. But the one thing it does universally, to everyone, is bring out the truth.
So if your ex managed to call or text you at their weakest moment? It’s almost always an indication that they still love you, or still need you in some way.
In some cases, your ex might even want you back. They could be working up the courage to tell you this, or even to admit it to themselves. But once under the influence of alcohol? Their feelings become a lot more obvious as their inhibitions melt away.
Face it, every relationship – no matter how it ended – leaves residual feelings behind. Whatever emotional bonds the two of you shared don’t just disappear the second you break up.
In fact, very often? These feelings are buried. If you want your ex back, it’s up to you to unbury them… or even better, get your ex boyfriend or girlfriend to unbury those feelings themselves.
Buttons You Can Push to Expose Your Ex’s Feelings
There are three major emotional reconnection techniques you can utilize when you want to fix your breakup. These are designed to instantly stop your ex from thinking bad things about you, and help them remember the good.
Once you master how to push these emotional hot buttons, you gain quick control over how your ex views you. Essentially, you can change their mind without them even knowing that you changed it. Almost like the Jedi Mind trick, but with a little less Force.
Understanding exactly how to tug on your ex’s heartstrings is more of an art than anything else. You can’t pull too hard, or you run the risk of scaring them away. But you also can’t sit back and do nothing, because eventually those feelings will fade.
What to Do When Your Ex Drunk Dials You
The very best thing to do when you get that drunken phone call is try to be understanding about it. Don’t get grumpy, or bitter, or launch into a lecture… these things will only make you come off like a jerk. Your ex will remember you being an asshole to them, and that’s pretty much all they’ll remember.
Instead, be cool. Realize this is something that can happen to all of us. If you’re still in love with this person, let them talk. See if you can read some of the bigger signs that your ex still loves you, or at least, still has feelings.
Whatever you do, don’t push. You can’t get answers right now, and even if you could, you wouldn’t want them. This isn’t the time for serious conversation, but if you still want this person in your life it’s a good time to have a fun conversation, laugh a bit, and maybe even bring up some of the cooler moments of your past relationship. Because when your ex wakes up? THAT’S what he or she will remember.
In the end, drunk dialing is always a sign of interest. You should be flattered, not pissed. You should see it as a compliment, even if it cost you some sleep. And in the grand scheme of things? This type of phone call can put you one step closer to reconciliation.Share this: