“I need some space…” he said, or maybe “some time to myself.” Only that time must have included some other people, because all of a sudden your ex boyfriend is DATING AGAIN.
It hits you like a ton of bricks; that gut feeling of hopelessness. All those beautiful plans you made, the time you spent together – all of it gone – lost, forever, in the blink of an eye.
And if you tried to get him back? Obviously you failed. Your boyfriend is dating someone else now, and he has a new girlfriend. Someone else is kissing him. Someone else is in his bed.
Some other girl is making him happy, which means there’s no longer a shot at ever fixing your breakup and getting back together, like you one day somehow planned to do with him.
Or is there???
Want the truth? EVERY breakup has a path to reversal. Even the ones that led your boyfriend in another direction, to where he suddenly took up with someone new.
Keeping this in mind, if you’re not ready to give up on your boyfriend just yet, there’s still hope. Because there are lots of ways to get him back, even when he’s currently in the arms of another woman. Especially if he’s in the arms of another woman, actually, because right now, as his exgirlfriend? You’re working from a position where you now have certain advantages that you never had before.
Steps to Get Your Boyfriend Back From His New Girlfriend
Regardless of how long it’s been since you broke up, the important thing here is timing. Because there’s a certain time period (the honeymoon stage) where you’ll NEVER be able to win your boyfriend back from his new relationship… but there’s also a window of opportunity where it actually becomes easier to change his mind and make him fall back in love with you again.
It’s during that later stage that you need to strike. That’s when you need to make your move, and not a second before. Because if you act too soon? You’ll push him in the other direction. If you wait too long? You run the risk of losing his interest.
Getting your boyfriend back is a balancing act. Especially so when he’s already in a new relationship with some other girl. Here are the steps you’ll need to steal him away from his new girlfriend, and bring him back to you again:
Step 1 – Acceptance and Withdrawal
Your first move is always the same; you must accept and agree with your ex’s decision to break up. This means you MUST stop fighting it, no matter how much you still love him, and you MUST stop trying to get him back.
Calling, texting, emailing, Instagram, Facebook; if you’re doing these things you’re still chasing him, even if you say that you’re not. Only once you’ve agreed that yes, you should probably be apart from one another, will your ex start to see you as an ally (i.e. someone he can talk to and confide in) rather than a crazy exgirlfriend who still isn’t over him for one reason or another.
Step 2 – Waiting Out the Honeymoon Phase of his Rebound Relationship
If your boyfriend started dating this new girl almost immediately after breaking up with you, you’re probably pissed off. In reality however, this is a pretty good thing. Here’s why:
Right now, your ex is in a rebound relationship. He’s enjoying the comfort and companionship (and let’s be honest, the attraction and the sex) of a new romance, and everything is exciting to him. There’s NOTHING you can do right now… NOTHING you can say to stop him, or her, or their budding new affair.
In fact, your boyfriend is going to see any resistance on your part as jealousy. He’ll pay no mind to it. He’ll chalk it up to you still wanting him back, which defeats the purpose of step 1.
However, your ex is on a rebound right now, and this is good news. Why? Because the roller coaster of a rebound won’t last forever. It’ll only last until he gets bored of this new girl, or tired of her crap, or sick of something she does that’s different from what you did for him.
In other words, he’s going to be comparing this girl to YOU. Why? Because he just dated you. He’ll take the bad things this new girl does and hold them up to the candle of all the cool things you did well. This glorifies you in his eyes, and the first major fight the two of them have? That’ll be the first time your ex calls or texts or reaches out to you in the middle of the night, possibly to get your opinion on things, and definitely because he misses you.
Once again, this won’t happen if you haven’t fulfilled step one. Learn how to agree with the breakup (even if the breakup already happened) by watching this free opening moves video and understanding there’s a right and wrong way to do this important step.
Step 3 – Contacting or Reconnecting With Your Ex
When the time is right, your boyfriend will call you. Or maybe he’ll text you, just to test the waters. When this happens, you need to be COOL. And to be cool, that means you need to shed all of the anger, hate, bitterness, or sorrow you might have been feeling toward him all these last weeks.
Yes, he left you. Yes, he has a new girlfriend. And yes, as much as this pisses you off, you’re going to need to put all that aside in order to be COOL with him. Know why? Because a cool exgirlfriend is a SAFE ex girlfriend.
You need your ex to feel safe in talking to you. In confiding things to you. If he suspects you’re going to rat him out or go running to his new girlfriend with any info he might give you your boyfriend will clam up and never call you again.
So LISTEN to him. Be understanding, even if it hurts. Basically, you want to establish a neutral, almost “friendly” trust with him. That way you can seek out and make note of the problems within his new relationship, so that later on, you can use those problems as leverage to get him back.
Look at it this way; every relationship has chinks in its armor – even the best ones. By studying the weaknesses of your exboyfriend’s new romance, you can put yourself in prime position to strike when the iron is hot. Which will usually be after a major fight, when your boyfriend is emotionally at his weakest and most vulnerable. This is when he’ll be most nostalgic about your past relationship. This is always when he’ll be most susceptible to wanting you back.
Other Steps to Getting Him Back From His New Girlfriend
You’ve read three big steps so far that will help pry your man back from the arms of another woman. But guess what? There are 5 more.
There is a full 8 Step Process To Stealing Your Boyfriend Back from his new girlfriend, so make sure you learn ALL of them! Having a plan will always give you the best possible chance for success.Share this: