Losing a relationship is like losing a part of yourself. Especially if you’ve been dating for a while, and the two of you became entwined in each others’ lives.
Still, a lot of people go through a breakup alone. They withdraw, and will often stick to themselves. Some even reach dangerous levels of depression.
But just like there are good relationships and bad ones, there are healthy and unhealthy ways to let go of someone even when you still love them. Learning how to break up is sometimes just as important as learning to fall in love, because very few of us find our soulmates the first time around.
Below is a list of ways you can help get over your ex. Learning these tactics will not only help you snap out of a bad breakup, they’ll actually help you be more attractive to everyone else, including the boyfriend or girlfriend who just dumped you.
The first thing you want to do, right off the bat, is to get rid of anything that will remind you of your past relationship. This includes photos, pictures, gifts, music… basically anything that you could glance at and your ex would suddenly spring to mind.
Now I know it’s not easy to just throw things things away – especially early on. This is why it’s good to just box everything up, tape the box tightly shut, and put it somewhere you won’t be tempted to look at or open it. This way you still have that stuff (on the off chance you can reverse your breakup), and a year or two from now you can deal with it much easier once any residual feelings have gone away.
It’s natural to become sullen and withdrawn during a breakup. After all, a breakup is a rejection, and such a thing never makes anyone feel particularly good.
But you know what? The more you stay inside, the worse you’ll feel. The more you withdraw from friends and family, the more isolated and lost you’ll become.
So go outside, and get in the sun. Even if you just read a book or play some music, breathing in some fresh air will actually make you feel better. And if you have friends or family you can turn to? Go hang out with them. Staying busy is the purest and most effective way to get your mind off your breakup.
Want to clear your head, and everything in it? Hands down, NOTHING is better than exercise.
It doesn’t matter how you do it, but working out and getting your blood pumping will release natural endorphins that will always make you feel better. And no matter what thoughts are spinning through your head right now, a good run or a tough workout will eradicate every last one of them.
Exercise is good for your mind, body, and soul. You’ll feel better and look better, and with every drop of sweat your problems will seem to melt away. The best part of all? It’s free. It’s awesome. And you can do it every single day.
So join a gym, or go back to the one you stopped going to while you were busy dating your ex. Get involved in a spin class, a yoga class, or do Zumba, or kickboxing, or cardio.
Even better, go one step further and start doing 5k runs. Even if you can’t run fast you’ll find yourself next to hundreds of other people who simply walk them. You’ll meet new faces, start new conversations, and enjoy just being outdoors. Your ex? Your ex who?
This is a good one to do with friends. Basically, pick something wild you’ve always SAID you were going to do. Maybe it’s scuba diving. Maybe it’s skydiving. Maybe it’s as simple as joining a team sport, or trying martial arts. Doesn’t matter really, just DO it.
You can also pick up new hobbies. Try something you’ve never done before, and take a few classes on it. Cooking classes are popular, or do pottery, or join a book club… whatever gets you out of the house and into a group setting is totally perfect for getting your mind off breaking up.
Yes, believe it or not, you CAN see other people. NO, it’s not “too soon”. NO, you don’t need some lame ‘mourning period’ to get over your ex.
Mourning periods suck, actually. They’re nothing more than a downgraded pity party you’ve somehow convinced yourself you’re entitled to. I’m not saying you should go out with just anyone, but you should be more than open to the idea.
And hey, you don’t have to fall in love either. Right now it’s about getting out and doing things. Having fun. Whomever makes you happiest, roll with that person, even if the relationship isn’t going anywhere serious. And if it is? Roll with that too. And try not to focus on your ex (or compare this new person to them). That will only make both of you miserable.
Other Ways to Get Over Your Breakup
If you’ve already tried the 6 Step to Get Back With Your Ex, and nothing’s worked? Well, it might be time to let go. But you want to let go the right way, otherwise you’ll be stuck in the past for a very long time.
First, try the Clear Mind Technique. The Free Video is Here. This is an amazing tool for relieving the pain of a breakup, and creating a calm place in your mind where you don’t have to feel sick, or anxious, or sad about losing your relationship anymore. Do it one time and you’ll see exactly what I mean.
Beyond that, you might be tempted to become “friends” with your ex. If that’s the case, make sure you read up on: What to Do When Your Ex Just Wants to Be Friends.
In any case, all breakups take time to heal. Emotional bonds don’t just dissolve overnight, and if its any comfort at all, your ex is going through many of the same symptoms of relationship withdrawal you are.
Ultimately however, it’ll all be okay. So chin up, get outside, and get OVER your ex!Share this: