When people get dumped, the only thing they can focus on is reversing the situation. They work night and day, they send text after text, make call after call… they do anything and everything to make their relationship right again, even if the things they are doing are all wrong.
The problem is exactly that; everyone moves too quickly. They’re so desperate to get back together they don’t stop to recognize that the mistakes they’re making are killing their chances.
In the early stages, it’s often better to do nothing at all. Because when you’re committing some of the 12 biggest blunders that will drive your ex away, you would’ve been better off just sitting there and not doing anything.
That said, what about getting your ex back FAST?
Are there ways you can speed up the process of making your ex miss you? Make them need you back sooner, rather than later on?
Maybe even skip the whole No Contact phase?
Well, no. Unfortunately for everyone, No Contact is a necessary step in creating need for you again. But that’s not to say you have to sit there and do nothing during this crucial time. Because there are actions you can take – moves you can make – that will accelerate the later on phases of fixing your breakup.
The things you do NOW, immediately after your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you, can affect the speed at which you get back together when your ex finally does come around. For this reason, it’s important to learn exactly what to do, as well as what NOT to do, while working to make your lover want and need you back.
The following 7 actions will help you through the No Contact phase, and at the same time, create an environment where your ex starts itching to see or hear from you again. The more of these moves you can make, the quicker things will come together when it’s time to get back in touch with and finally contact your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend.
Agreeing With and Accepting The Breakup
Think you can “fight for” your relationship? Change your ex’s mind? Wrong. You can’t do either of those things, at least right now.
In the very beginning, the only thing you can do is ACCEPT the breakup. The sooner you do this the better off you’ll be, because you’ll look a lot less needy and desperate later on.
Nothing is going to fix your romance right away. 99% of the time, your ex wants to stew for a while. Either they’re mad at you, or disappointed, or whatever it is, but the hard truth of things is this: they no longer see you as valuable anymore.
Before they’ll even think of taking you back, you’ve got to prove them wrong. So arguing and fighting against the break right now is only going to make things worse. The best thing to do? Agree with it. And the best way to agree is to watch this opening moves video and follow these instructions exactly.
Removing Yourself From Social Media
Know what happens right after your ex dumps you? He or she looks back over their shoulder. They want to see where you go, what you do. How you handle things, or even better, mishandle them.
How are they going to do this? Facebook. Instagram. Texts from friends. Your ex is going to look at your photos and your updates and your status changes and he or she is going to gauge your reaction by watching what you do next.
The best thing to do here is absolutely nothing at all. Don’t even bother logging into social media for the first few days. If this is hard for you, TOUGH. You’ll need to make hard choices like this if you want to win your ex back.
Think about what happens when you completely disappear like this. Your ex has NO IDEA where you went. In vanishing, you create a void in your ex’s life where you used to be. They begin to bug out because they can’t find you; they don’t know where you are, who you’re with, or what you’re doing.
All of these thing will help spark renewed interest in you on your ex’s part. And this is exactly what you want at this stage of the game.
Rebuilding Yourself in Your Own Best Image
Let’s go back to when your ex first fell in love with you. What did you look like? How did you act?
Were you a lot cooler around your boyfriend or girlfriend? Did you act more confident? Did you enjoy yourself more, and by default, were you happier and more optimistic than you were at the end?
All relationships go through changes, and many of them are for the worse. When the honeymoon phase is over and the ‘glow’ wears off, people will often begin taking each other for granted. They begin fighting over stupid crap. They begin harboring jealousy over the dumbest of shit.
What you need to do is remember the beginning again. Recall how you were, and how you acted (and reacted) around your ex. Your probably laughed more, the both of you. You had more fun. The relationship was still young, and you were still out to impress each other.
These things are absolutely crucial to making your ex want you again. Later on during the process of getting back together, you’ll use nostalgia triggers to bring your boyfriend or girlfriend mentally – and emotionally – back to the beginning of your relationship. So when that finally happens? You’ll need to know exactly how to act.
Preparing Mentally For Your Reconciliation
There’s no hope for you if you’re a crying, sobbing wreck. Your lover isn’t going to take you back out of pity, or guilt, or any of those things, so dry your eyes and start getting yourself together emotionally for when you start communicating with your ex again.
Likewise, don’t be angry. No one likes a sarcastic, biting person who drops passive-aggressive comments because he or she still feels bitter about the breakup. No matter what happened to end your relationship, you need to get past it if you want any chance at all at getting back together. And yes, this even includes cheating.
So clear your mind. Mentally prepare yourself for the day you talk to your ex again. You’ll need to be cheerful and you’ll need to be optimistic. Maybe even forgiving too, if you were the person who got wronged.
Preparing Physically For Your Reconciliation
And how about physically? Were you in better shape when you first started going out? Did you dress better, look better, even smell better? If so, it’s time to get those things in order as well. Because the better you look, act, and feel, the greater your chances of keeping your ex attracted to you.
We all know looks aren’t everything. But when it comes to first impressions, you’ll need to do your best. At one time, before you even spoke to each other, you and your partner sized each other up physically. So if you want the best chance of getting back together again, make sure your ex likes what they see.
Yes, this means hitting the gym. It also means hitting the mall. Get new clothes, a new outfit, new shoes, new glasses. Grab a new tan. When these things start coming together, you’ll feel better about yourself. This will of course translate into renewed confidence, which is another big trigger in making your lover want you again.
Rebuilding Your Social Life in Fantastic Ways
At first, your ex will watch you disappear. They’ll wonder where you went. You’ll be a mystery for a while, and this is a good thing.
When you finally reappear? Things need to be AWESOME. No matter what you do, or where you go, it’s got to be the best thing and the best place ever.
At this point you’ll come back to social media. When your ex sees your posts, he or she will see you surrounded by friends and family. They’ll see you doing amazing things, going really cool places, and in every single picture, smiling like there’s no tomorrow. And this is because you’re not just ‘good’ after the breakup. You’re totally great.
Again, every ex on the planet wants to see their former lover fail. This isn’t because they’re hateful, it’s because we all like to think people are better off WITH us. So when your ex sees you having the time of your life without them? Two things happen.
One, your ex becomes jealous. After all, why weren’t you doing all these amazing things while you were together with them? Were they not worth it?
Two, your ex starts questioning the breakup. And this is because you seem to be needing them a LOT less than they think you did… which starts them along the path of “hey, maybe I actually needed this person MORE than they needed me.”
Allowing Your Ex to See You Out With Other People
This one is huge. Because as much as you probably think you’ll scare your ex away once they think you’ve started dating again, actually just the opposite happens.
When your ex sees you with someone else, they always want you more. This is because you’ve suddenly proved value. The person they dumped so callously is now on someone else’s arm, which makes them question whether they actually had something GOOD when they were with you.
And if you followed the other six moves? They will think that. All of a sudden your ex will be wracked with indecision. Haunted by regret over having let you go when someone else scooped you up so quickly.
And hey, you don’t need to ‘date’ date this person. All you need to do is go out with them. Even if it’s a casual acquaintance, your former boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t know that. Even if it’s nothing more than a platonic or practice date, it’s still something that will set your ex’s teeth on edge.
Other Ways to Get Your Ex to Want You Again
Fixing ANY breakup is essential about the same thing: reversing your current situation.
You want to reverse how your boyfriend or girlfriend sees you right now. You want to reverse the decision they made to end things. Ultimately, you want to reverse the steps that got you here. Walk backwards, up along the path that leads back into the really cool relationship you once had.
This is where Breakup Reversed takes over.
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When it comes to breaking up, and making up, you only get one REAL shot at it. It’s not something you can keep trying over and over again when you get it wrong, because very quickly you’ll find that you’ve driven your partner away.
For this reason alone, you want to arm yourself with all possible knowledge before making a single move. And reading Breakup Reversed is like loading yourself to the max, and then approaching your breakup with all guns blazing.