Category Archives: Get Boyfriend

Boyfriend Wants Space? Here are 3 Things You MUST DO

“I just want some space…”

Is that what he said? Or maybe he worded it differently. “Maybe we should take some time apart?” Or the dreaded: “I just need time to think?”

boyfriend-wants-space

It doesn’t matter how your boyfriend said it, he always means the same thing: we’re about to break up.

Unless, of course, you know EXACTLY what to do.

Right here, right now, your boyfriend has just checked you into relationship limbo. He’s effectively saying “Don’t call me, I’ll call you.”

So you begged. You pleaded. You told him you’d “change”. In the end you let him know that you really don’t want time apart, but if he really needs it, you’ll give it to him. Right?

Well, that’s about the worst possible thing you could’ve done.

Understand something: when a guy asks for “space” what he really wants is permission to date other girls. What he’s really saying here is “hey, stick around for a while and don’t go anywhere… but at the same time, I’m free to look for other people.”

If you’re not looking to break up with your boyfriend, and you want to get your relationship back on track? You’re going to need to do three things. Here they are:

Refuse the Whole “Time Apart” Bullshit

Your boyfriend offers a time-out from your relationship, or needs space, or wants time to think… but rather than be the good little girlfriend who’s going to give him exactly that, you’re going to do the opposite. You tell him:

“No, sorry. I don’t do ‘space’. If you want to break up, fine, we’ll break up. But I’m not half-assing it, and I’m not waiting around.”

This is exactly what your guy doesn’t want to hear. The fact that he might lose you during the whole “time off” thing is going to freak him out, mainly because he thinks he can control you during this temporary breakup.

Putting your boyfriend on his back foot is the best way to make him realize you as VALUABLE. He’ll never be forced to really see you that way unless you respect yourself enough not to fall for this crap when he first pulls it.

Pre-Emptively Break Up with Him

At this point, the best thing to do is get pissed. Turn to him and say:

“Know what? If you’re really not sure about this whole thing, then I’m not either. Maybe we should just put an end to it completely, and both move on with our lives.”

This is going to scare your boyfriend right down to his balls. Why? Because he DOESN’T WANT THIS. He wanted a nice cushy little “break” where you kept calling and kept texting and kept telling him you loved him. Instead, you just broke up with him… throwing him for a complete loop.

Walk Away While You Have the Upper Hand

And after you tell him you want a breakup? WALK AWAY. Don’t look back, don’t answer your phone, and don’t respond to his text messages.

Your boyfriend will be left with the feeling that he really messed up. He screwed things big time, and he got exactly the opposite of what he wanted.

Most of all, he now stands to actually LOSE you. The fact that you’re not going to be his girlfriend anymore and he might lose you to someone else is going to create instant value in his eyes. Suddenly you’re a commodity he stands to be without, and he’s not going to want that.

Remember: your boyfriend doesn’t want a breakup. He wants a “temporary break”. This is a cowardly way of trying to keep stringing you along (which is what he wants), and now it just backfired in his face.

Now, if the whole “I need some space” thing already happened, and you missed your chance to do these three things? That’s okay. There’s still a backup plan.

First, look for the 7 signs he still loves you. These are easy-to-spot signals your boyfriend will give off when he’s really not ready to lose you.

Beyond that, there’s this One Opening Move guaranteed to make your ex almost immediately want you back! Make sure you do this one early though, because the longer you wait the harder it will be to pull it off.

In the end, NEVER accept the whole “I need space” excuse. Sitting around and waiting for your boyfriend to get back to you is almost always going to lead to a permanent breakup.

Share this:
facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedinmail

3 Things to Say (and NOT Say) When Talking to Your EX

Nervous around your ex? Not sure how to talk to them?

talking-to-your-ex

Not knowing what to say – and how to act – around your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is a very common thing. And if you’re still trying to repair your broken relationship? It’s especially critical that you know EXACTLY what to say (and not say!)

Think about how awkward this is. One minute you’re totally in love and able to say or do anything to each other… and the next minute it’s totally hands off. You go from being lovers to being nothing. You go from being best friends to being nothing more than casual acquaintances.

In some cases you might even be avoiding your ex because you don’t know how to act around them. And this can lead to even more awkwardness. More distance between you.

First, understand that your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is just as uncomfortable as you are. Stop putting them up on some pedestal where they’re in total control and you’re nothing but an emotional wreck. Do that, and you will be nothing but an emotional wreck, because you’re psyching yourself out before you even get started.

To win back the respect – and ultimately the love – of your ex, you’ll need to do one thing: make yourself desirable again in their eyes. Because at one time? They were head-over-heels ready to date you. And now they’re not.

You do this by maintaining CONTROL. I can’t express this enough: if you give control over to your former boyfriend or girlfriend, then they – and they alone – are the one who’s responsible for whether or not you get back together again.

Be Sure to Hype Yourself Up

When seeing your ex again for the first time, you should seem absolutely excited. No, not excited to see them. Excited for your life in general.

The more fun you seem to be having, the more jealous your boyfriend or girlfriend will be of you. That’s because it’s human nature to want to see you NOT having fun without them.

Making sure you’re totally pumped and doing great and having a kickass time WITHOUT THEM is the perfect way to set your ex on his or her back foot. Right off the bat they’ll feel uncomfortable – especially if they’re the one who initiated the breakup – simply because you seem to be doing so well without them.

Talk About What You’re Doing – But Be Mysterious

Chances are your ex will ask you how you’re doing, what you’ve been up to, etc… That’s normal. But what your ex is really doing is trying to gauge just how much you really miss them.

Your former boyfriend or girlfriend wants to see you upset, mopey, distraught… so make sure you talk about all the cool things you’ve been up to, even if you have to embellish a bit. Go places and do things that are fun to talk about, so the next time you see or talk to or even text-message with your ex, you can mention these things to make them jealous.

At the same time however, never give them too much information. The more details that are left out, the more that’s left to your ex’s imagination. Remember: you want to create longing and desire again. You need to be cool, fun, hip and mysterious. They should want to know more about you, which will lead them to want you again.

Tell Your Ex it’s Good to See Them Again

Most people avoid their exes like the plague after a breakup. And when they do see them? They avoid eye contact and try not to converse at all.

To win back this person’s admiration and respect, you need to face up to them. Smile. Laugh. Put your hand on their shoulder and tell them it’s good to see them again. And then?

Walk away.

To make someone need you back in their life, you have to create a void where they used to be. By going away – even if it’s by not answering the phone or text-messages – you’re creating a giant gap in this person’s life where they’re used to hearing from you.

Believe it or not, your ex relies on you, even after the breakup. By taking away that safety net, you’re causing them to doubt their decision to break up with you in the first place — especially if you’re smiling and saying “hey, how are you?” when you see them rather than avoid eye contact and slink away.

Three Things NOT to Say to Your Ex

In talking with your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend, there are 7 common mistakes that will always drive them away. LEARN WHAT THESE ARE! Because if you commit more than two or three of them, you might as well not even try to win them back at all.

That said, there are three things to NEVER do when talking about things with your ex:

• DON’T BE MISERABLE. Your ex won’t feel pity for you. In fact, seeing you miserable is the one thing that will make them realize they did the right thing in breaking up. And that’s because it certainly seems like you need them a lot more than they need you.

• DON’T TALK ABOUT THE BREAK. Nothing says desperation like constantly bringing up the breakup. Whether you’re trying to reverse the breakup or play the blame game, you can’t gain any ground this way.

• DON’T APOLOGIZE. Yes, even if you’re the one who was wrong! Apologizing once again ratifies that your ex is right and you’re wrong. Which makes staying broken up a forgone conclusion!

If you want to learn the complete, step by step process to getting back together, make sure you read it through completely before trying anything. That’s because usually? You only get one good shot at a reconciliation. One good “listen” on your ex’s part.

Everything after that is an uphill climb.

Share this:
facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedinmail

The REAL Reason He’s Still Texting You After the Breakup

Confused by the fact your ex boyfriend still texts you? Don’t be. This is one of the most common things that can happen after a breakup.

texting-after-breakup

And it’s also very, very telling.

Look at it this way: if your ex is still sending texts beyond the day he broke up with you, chances are good he’s not 100% ready to let you go.

Any guy looking to ditch you forever is never going to do something that might be construed as leading you on.

Why? Because, to be brutally honest, he’s trying to get rid of you.

That’s why texting after a breakup is so important. It tells a lot about how your exboyfriend feels. It can also be a big indication as to whether or not he wants you back.

The first thing to look for are the 7 Signs He’s Still Interested. If you spot more than 3 of these, your relationship might be salvageable purely on the basis that you ex isn’t ready to move on.

It’s All About Control

First and foremost, text-messaging you is one way for your ex boyfriend to maintain control.

Yes, he broke up with you. Yes, you can “technically” do whatever you want. But as long as YOU think there’s still a chance of getting back together (and hell, you still want to get back together), you’re not going to screw that up by going out and dating someone else.

Your ex knows this. That’s why he’ll use text-messages as a method of control. A way of showing you just enough interest to keep stringing you along… but not enough interest that you’re back together as a couple.

It’s All About Spying on You

Texting you is also a way for your ex to keep you from seeing other people. Simple, seemingly-innocent texts such as “hey, what did you do today?” are actually your exboyfriend’s way of spying on you. He’s going to know if you’re out doing something he doesn’t want you to do. He’ll even use guilt texts to keep you from doing stuff, with the vague promise of “maybe one day… someday… we’ll get back together”.

Think about it. Has your ex said stuff like:

“I’ll always love you”

and

“We’re definitely meant to be together… maybe just not right now.”

This is because he’s stringing you along. He wants you to stay away so he can do what he wants (and possibly date other girls), but at the same time, he doesn’t want you to go away entirely.

In short, he wants to keep an eye on you. You know, just in case his next relationship fails… or he gets lovesick about your previous romance and suddenly wants you back.

What Does it Mean When he Drunk Texts You

There are two times when your former boyfriend is at his weakest: late at night when he’s alone, and when he’s drunk.

At night, being lonely, your ex will start reminiscing about the good times you shared together. He might send you a “hey” text message, or something more meaningful (and honest) like “thinking about you”. Either way, he is thinking about you. And if you want him back, that’s a good thing.

Drunk texts are a similar matter. When your ex is inebriated his guard is down. This allows his true feelings to come out; often he’ll suppress his real feelings and/or love for you because he’s trying to be “tough” or keep the breakup going. But when he’s drunk? That wall falls away, and his heart is a lot more exposed.

How to Handle it When Your Ex Boyfriend Texts You

If you don’t want your ex back? DON’T ANSWER HIM. Anything you do or say — no matter how innocent — will be construed as interest.

If you actually do want your ex back? DON’T ANSWER HIM! At least not right away. Creating space and unavailability is the first step in creating longing again. And you can’t get him back until he actually longs for an needs you.

Now, there’s also a step-by-step blueprint for Texting Your Ex Back. This is basically a series of text-messages you can send him that will, if you time it right, actually make him want YOU.

Learn about these texts if you’re interested in reversing your breakup. And remember, no matter what: texting after the breakup ALWAYS means something!

Share this:
facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedinmail

5 Signs Your Breakup Might Only Be Temporary

Breaking up can sometimes seem like the end of the world. You don’t eat, you don’t sleep… you can’t even get out of bed because you miss your ex so much!

5-signs-breakup-might-be-temporary

But then, only a few days or a week later? WHAM! You’re suddenly back together. All of that pain and drama was for nothing, and everything is right with the world again.

So how can you tell when your breakup is real?

Are there signs that your ex is really over you for good?

How can you spot the signals given off when your breakup is only going to be a temporary thing?

Below you’ll find 5 big signs that your ex isn’t truly finished with dating you. Recognizing and exploiting these signals can actually help you get back together sooner, rather than later, and reduce the risk of a permanent breakup.

1. Your Ex Keeps Texting You

Text-messaging shouldn’t just drop off after a breakup, it should end entirely. Because if your boyfriend or girlfriend is truly no longer interested? They’ll realize that texting you would only give you false hope.

Any kind of post-breakup contact is an indication of one or two things: interest or regret. Either your ex is still interested in what you’re doing (who you’re with, whether you’re going to start seeing other people, etc…) or they’re showing some regret for leaving you behind.

This goes no matter what your ex says in the text messages. They can claim the messages are innocent and mean nothing, but should know that they don’t.

2. Your Ex Wants to See You

Breaking up correctly is like ripping off a band-aid; it hurts a lot to do it quickly, but at least the pain is over fast. But an exboyfriend or exgirlfriend who insists on still seeing you, or even better, running into you by ‘accident’? That person is reconsidering the breakup altogether.

Long-term relationships can leave mental, emotional, and even physical connections behind. There is usually a NEED for that person, a void that’s left after they’re gone.

Even if they’re the one who initiated the break, your ex might be addicted to contact with you, in one form or another. Keep in mind that needing to see you is a definite sign that they’re not yet ready to call it quits.

3. Your Ex Wants to be Friends

Does your ex really want you as a friend? No. What they want is to continue part of the relationship; ideally, the part where they get to see what you’re doing and keep tabs on you while the decide whether or not they want you back.

Agreeing to be friends with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend will NEVER get them back. In fact, the best thing to do in such a situation is refuse to remain friends at all… then pull out these 3 amazing moves that will make your ex miss you – and need you back – almost immediately.

Friendship is always a bad choice. Stick around as ‘friends’ for too long and your ex will never get to see you as a potential partner again, eliminating any possible chance of reversing your breakup and getting back together. The LAST thing you want is to fall into the Friend Zone. Especially if you’re trying to fix things and win your lover back.

4. Your Ex is Trying to Make You Jealous

When you see your former boyfriend or girlfriend out partying, whooping it up, or even grinding up against someone new for your benefit? It’s because they know you’re going to get jealous and they WANT you to feel that emotion.

Jealousy is your ex’s way of sticking it to you. It’s his or her way of making you want to chase them. Taking you back is one thing. Getting you to come crawling back is quite another. Because if you do that? They can restart the relationship on their terms, which usually means they’re going to abuse your love for them.

5. Your Ex is Suddenly Nice to You Again

One of the biggest signs that a breakup might be a mistake is when your ex boyfriend or girlfriend starts acting the way they did at the beginning. You know what I’m talking about: back to right before you were dating, when the two of you were still trying to woo or impress each other.

Being apart can also offer clarity. You’ll see things differently when you’re apart than when you’re together every day. You’ll start to miss things. Regret things you might’ve said or done. This will lead you to want to be nice to your ex, which in turn, can get your head spinning with the idea of wanting to date them again.

“Wow, I forgot it could be this good. Maybe it could be this good again.” – That sort of thing.

What to Do if You Want Your Ex Back

Getting back together after an unwanted breakup is nothing more than a series of taking the right steps. The only problem? All too often, most people make all the wrong moves.

They do this out of frustration, out of anger, and out of loneliness. Worst of all, they do it without realizing it’s having exactly the opposite effect: it’s driving an ex away rather than drawing them closer.

First, make sure you’re not making any of the 7 Biggest Breakup Mistakes. Commit even a few of these, and you can kiss your relationship goodbye forever.

Second, check out the amazing guide The Magic of Making Up. Author and relationship expert T.W. Jackson gives you a step-by-step, foolproof plan for making an ex need you back in their life again, no matter how long it’s been since the breakup.

Share this:
facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedinmail

16 Signs You Just Weren’t Meant to Be Together

Ever break up with someone over and over again, but keep trying to stay in the relationship? Well you’re not alone. Everyone does this at one time or another, struggling to keep a romance alive that just doesn’t… well… fit.

The following is a big list of red flags. The more of these that apply to your current (or past) relationship? The more you probably would be better off apart.

signs-you-werent-meant-to-be-together

1. Your Partner Makes You Feel Guilty All The Time

Ever feel guilty just taking time for yourself? Even doing little things with friends and family? That’s the type of guilt a relationship really doesn’t need. This is a huge sign of an overprotective, needy lover.

2. The Love Feels… One-Sided

A good relationship is a 50/50 partnership; both people love and respect each other as equals. So when you start feeling as if you love your boyfriend or girlfriend a little bit more than they love you? The balance of power shifts, and you start getting taken advantage of.

Keep in mind, this can go two ways. If your partner loves you more than you love them, you’ll feel as if they’re being clingy or needy and this can also be a huge turnoff.

3. Your Lover is Never Happy For Your Successes

Healthy couples lift each other up rather than tear each other down. So if your boyfriend or girlfriend seems constantly ‘annoyed’ when you get a promotion, succeed at something, or get good news? It’s because he or she is jealous – and insecure – of your success.

4. You Stopped Hanging Out with Your Friends During the Course of Your Relationship

This is a common one. It’s okay – and inevitable – to spend less time with friends once you get a new boyfriend or girlfriend. That said, if your partner is making you feel guilty about seeing your friends at all? This is toxic, unhealthy thing… and it will eventually cause resentment on your part, leading to the demise of your relationship.

5. Your Ex Held You to Double-Standards

Was he allowed to go out with his friends, but you weren’t? Was she allowed to take trips without you, but you were forbidden to do the same? These kinds of double-standards are a sign of unhealthy jealousy. Your lover is personifying their insecurities through control, trying to keep you from doing things they themselves see no problem with doing.

6. You Argued Over Nothing. Literally.

Big fights over important stuff are one thing. But big fights spawned from little arguments over the most insignificant bullshit? That’s a sign of resentment. You and your partner are bickering over little tiny things because you resent each other for bigger, underlying reasons. The thing you’re arguing about is not the actual problem.

7. You’re Looking For Reasons to NOT See Each Other

When you start avoiding your boyfriend or girlfriend because hanging out with them seems like a ‘chore’, it’s a sure sign you’re losing interest. Either that, or you’re hanging out too much and need to back off a little and give each other some breathing room.

8. Your Relationship is Consumed by Jealousy

The most powerful and ugly of all emotions is jealousy. If you or your partner are constantly jealous of each other, especially in situations where things are nothing more than totally innocent, it’s another sign that the relationship has gone toxic.

A good, healthy relationship allows for TRUST and FREEDOMS. If you don’t have those things, jealousy will run your romance straight into the ground.

9. You Just Can’t See a Future Together

A strong relationship allows you to see long term. You and your partner get so close that you can’t imagine a life without each other, and that’s when you start planning for your future.

If you’ve been dating for a significant amount of time (more than 6 months) and you still can’t see a future with this person? It’s a sure indication that the relationship might be more of a temporary dalliance, or fling.

10. You’re Always Longing for the ‘Good Old Days’, or Wishing Things Could Be Like the Past

If you’re wishing things could be like they were “in the beginning”, it’s a sign that your relationship has devolved. Maybe it’s fighting, or arguing, or jealousy, or just plain boredom. But no matter what it is, something’s very, very wrong.

Here are 4 big signs your partner boyfriend or girlfriend loves you. If you’re still seeing some of these signs, there might be hope to save the relationship.

11. You’re Looking For Reasons to Be Mad

When being ‘right’ about something becomes more important than actually loving and caring for someone, it easily leads to picking fights. In this type of relationship you’re always chasing after that “Ah ha!” moment, to prove your lover is wrong about something. Seeking an apology all the time is another bad sign. This means you’re constantly playing the victim, looking for negative attention just so you can be ‘right’ and your lover can be ‘wrong’. That’s not a relationship anymore. It’s something worse.

12. You’re Always Trying to Outdo Each Other

A good romance is a partnership; you succeed together, and you build each other up. In short, it should feel like it’s the two of you against the rest of the world! And nothing can stop you.

So if you feel like you’re actually competing with your partner? That’s bad. It’s a sign of resentment toward each other when you’re always trying to one-up your boyfriend or girlfriend, or prove that you’re ‘better’ than they are.

13. Your Relationship is a Constant Power-Struggle

Who’s right? Who’s wrong? It doesn’t make a difference, because you’re too busy fighting. When your romance devolves into an eternal power-struggle to see who’s right and who’s wrong, there’s no time left to love or respect each other. You have to stop trying to be the victor and start trying to be a partner.

14. You’re Constantly Lying About Things

If you have to lie to your boyfriend or girlfriend all the time, it’s because there’s something very, very wrong. Either they’re overly jealous, or controlling, or whatever… but something is making you fabricate lies as to where you went, who you’ve been with, and what you’ve been doing without them… even if those things are completely innocent.

15. Your Friends and Family Don’t Approve of the Relationship

We all bring home people our parents (or friends) don’t like. That said, when you look around and suddenly you’re the only one who thinks your lover is a good person? Chances are he or she might be not so great a match for you. This could include all types of abuse; physical, emotional, verbal, mental… make sure this person loves you for who you are and isn’t trying to mold you into something they desire.

16. None of the Time You Spend is Quality Time

Just hanging out? Not really going anywhere or doing anything? That’s fine, as long as you’re having fun and loving the time you spend with your partner.

However, if you look back over the last half-dozen times you spent together and can only see the fights and arguments? That’s because you’re either spending too much time together, or you’re too busy resenting each other to spend that time doing quality things.

What to Do if Your Relationship is Toxic

If you find your romance has changed from something loving and great into something toxic, there might still be time to save it. Check out these two articles that give you step by step instructions on how to fix things between you, and put you back on the right track:

For girls: How to Rekindle the Romance with your Boyfriend

For guys: How to Make Your Girlfriend Fall Back in Love With You Again

Share this:
facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedinmail

8 Mindblowing Types of Sex You Should Have With Your EX

At one time or another we’re all guilty of it… having sex after the breakup.

So hey, if falling back into bed with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is in the cards? You might as well make it as explosively awesome as you possibly can.

sex-to-have-with-your-ex

Below you’ll find a list of ways to make the post-breakup sex so hot, so memorable, that the very act will be forever emblazoned upon yours and your ex lover’s mind.

In other words, here’s how you can make it count!

“The First Time All Over Again” Sex

This is the type of sex you have when you and your ex haven’t been with each other for months straight. When you finally do go at it, it’s like you’ve never slept together at all. Everything is suddenly new and exciting. Like you’re exploring each other for the very first time.

In some aspects it is the first time, because in many ways you’re marking a new beginning. Whether the sex is nothing more than a one-time fling or something you’ll continue to do for a while, either way, you’ll still never forget your (second) first time!

“Getting Out All Those Pent-Up Frustrations” Sex

Remember how heartbroken you were when you and your ex broke up? And how that heartbreak turned to longing, and then misery, and then finally, anger?

Well after running that full gauntlet of very powerful emotions, having sex again is like coming full circle. You screw like you’re still angry at your ex lover – and that’s because you are still angry!

Whether you’re hurt, frustrated, full of rage or even sad; you’ll take all of those things out on your partner, orgasm by orgasm. It’s like saying “Hey, I’m still really really pissed at you! Now lay back and let me show you just how much!”

This kind of sex can get violent, but in a sort of useful way. And when both partners are equally annoyed with each other over the breakup? That’s when the furniture doesn’t stand a chance!

“Cheating on Your New Partner” Sex

This is where you already have a new boyfriend or girlfriend, but you backslide. Maybe you ran into your ex by accident, or maybe you sought them out on purpose. A lonely evening. A late night text-message. The lure of having sex with your ex is just too great… and then it happens.

sex-with-your-ex

Cheating can make you feel guilty afterward. But during the sex? It can actually be a thrill.

A lot of times this will happen when you’re not sure about the person you’re with. Either you’re ready to break with them, or maybe you’re just stringing them along (you could even be hooked on your ex!). But sometimes, of course, cheating just happens. Especially if the relationship you had with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend was hotter, better, and more desirable than what you have right now.

And let’s be honest: some people cheat for the pure adrenaline rush of doing something this wrong.

Whenever you cheat on someone with your ex, the sex will always have a forbidden element to it. It’ll feel nasty. Dirty. And if you’ve already committed to cheating? As evil as it sounds, you may as well revel in these things for maximum enjoyment!

“Getting Your Ex to Cheat With You” Sex

In this scenario, your ex already has a new lover… but you sleep with them anyway. Maybe your ex sought you out, but more likely you seduced them… and probably for your own selfish reasons.

Getting an ex to sleep with you (when they’re cheating) is a lot like victory. It’s like they chose you over this new person they started dating. You’ll feel like you’ve won something, even just for the night. And again, since cheating is involved the sex will have a thrilling, forbidden edge to it. An almost dangerous, “we really can’t be doing this” feel.

If your ex boyfriend or girlfriend left you for this person, you’ll definitely feel like you’ve won. In a way you’re taking back what’s yours, and you’re screwing them over in the process. Kinda like screwing two people at once!

Now if you’re trying to sleep with your ex to get them back, that can be tricky. In that case make sure you avoid these 6 huge breakup mistakes that can quickly sabotage any chance of you actually fixing your breakup. (HINT: If you’re making more than 3 of these, you might be screwed)

“Let’s Do Something I Learned From Someone Else” Sex

Been apart a while? Had some fresh new sexual experiences, and/or tried things you really liked?

Falling back into bed with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend can be fun, but showing them stuff you learned ‘while they were gone’ can be even better. One of the cool perks to sleeping with other people is that you often find things, acts, positions, etc, that you really, really like.

When it comes to sex, it’s hot to teach. It’s equally hot to be taught. So when you sleep with an ex after being apart for a long time (and maybe had few past lovers in between)? Make sure you enjoy being the teacher as well as the student.

“Let’s Do Something We Never Did Before” Sex

And speaking of hot, one of the best things about having sex with your ex is being able to do all the stuff you never got to try.

While broken up, you’ll both be a lot more open to new sexual experiences. This is mainly because you’re now trying to please each other again, but it’s also because because some of the emotional attachment is gone. Because you’re not ‘bound’ to each other anymore, you’re not bound to the same rules of your past relationship.

What’s this mean? Threesomes, foursomes, moresomes – pretty much anything goes. Because the inhibitions are gone, you can try all sorts of sex that would normally be forbidden while you’re in an established relationship. Best of all, there’s no pressure. No awkward morning afters. Since you’re not with each other, relationship-wise anyway, most of the jealousy will no longer be present.

“Oh My God We Never Should’ve Broken Up” Sex

Everyone who’s ever tried to get back together with someone has dreamed of this type of sex. It happens when you’ve been apart a while, see each other, and then magnetically come together again.

The sex in this scenario is so wild, so uninhibited, it makes you both wonder why you broke up in the first place. It supersedes all the bullshit that caused you to drift apart, cutting through all the fighting and arguing and bringing things back to a place that’s ferociously primal and intimate.

If you’re looking to initiate this type of sex, you’d better be ready. You can screw someone’s socks off, and it’s so much fun to try!

“After This You’ll Want Me Back” Sex

This is exboyfriend/exgirlfriend sex with a goal in mind: getting back together. You’re trying to impress your former lover with sex that’s soooooo good, they can’t help but fall back in love with you.

Well, maybe not love. Not right away, anyway. Lust would be a better word, at least for now. But when you’re trying to have such great sex that your partner actually forgets why they stopped dating you? You’ll need to pull out all the stops.

Keep in mind, there are strong, often unbreakable emotional connections that ALWAYS occur whenever two people have slept together. You may be able to win this person back physically – if only for a night or two – but to win them back heart and soul? You’ll need to push on some other emotional hot buttons as well. Buttons that play upon your shared history together, and use the very best memories of your past relationship fully to your advantage.

The following two downloadable guides contain powerful reconnection techniques. They’re also individually tailored to be gender-specific, as both men and women respond to their own unique (and very different!) approaches, when it comes to needing you back in their lives again.

For Girls:  The Ex Factor Guide

Ex Factor ExBoyfriend Guide

If you’re looking for instant results? Your best bet is to spend the next few precious minutes watching this incredible free video.

Brad Browning’s ultimate guide to fixing an unwanted breakup gives you a complete, step-by-step breakdown of how you can not only win back your ex boyfriend’s heart, but INSTANTLY grab his attention through a series of emotional reconnection techniques.

The Ex Factor Guide is a system of written guidelines and video instruction that show you EXACTLY what to do next.

Whether you’re already in the reconciliation stages and need to know how to handle the reunion date, or whether you’ve had zero to no contact with your ex boyfriend, Brad takes you by the hand and leads you through the heartbreak and into the light.

Find out why he’s ignoring you. Learn the 3 simple things you can do to make your ex call you. And when you get him back? Brad Browning also shows you how to keep him. By learning how to throw out the bad and keep the good, you and your boyfriend can start a NEW relationship with a fresh, clean slate and none of the usual fighting and arguing.

For Guys:  How to Get Her Back For Good

Get Her Back For Good

Stuck on what to do next? Need expert advice on getting your girlfriend back, especially when she’s not responding?

Get Her Back For Good is an amazingly successful guide to fixing a breakup, geared entirely toward MEN. For years Dr. George Karanastasis has been demonstrating the most effective techniques for regaining your ex girlfriend’s attention and admiration through proven, solid techniques.

Ploys, tricks, mind games, mental manipulation… learn why all these approaches to fixing a breakup just don’t work. Because to get your girlfriend back and actually keep her interested? You’ll need to identify and fix the root cause of your breakup.

Within the pages of this guide you’ll learn the 5 most effective approaches to getting a girl back. Even when you think you’ve failed, and even when the situation seems absolutely hopeless? Dr. K. shows you counter-intuitive methods and techniques that will get you past ANY sticking point or hurdle.

  • Learn how to reignite the original sparks of your early relationship in your ex girlfriend’s mind.
  • Find out how you can shift the balance of power back in your favor, getting her to want you again.
  • Understand the 4 MAJOR mistakes men make that will always prevent getting back together.
  • Read real-life examples of popular breakup situations, and what needs to be done to repair them.

Get Her Back For Good is an instant download, and the methods and ideas within can be applied right away to your own situation. STOP making mistakes, and start making the right moves to get your girlfriend back, before it’s too late.

Share this:
facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedinmail

8 Totally Evil Ways You Can Make Your Ex Jealous

I get it… you’ve been trying all these things to get your boyfriend back and so far he hasn’t responded. You’re at the end of your rope. You don’t know what else to do…

tricks-to-make-ex-jealous

Relax. I got you.

Jealousy is the most powerful of all human emotions. It’s caused murders. It’s driven wars. And when it comes to grabbing your former boyfriend’s attention? Jealousy can be an invaluable tool… one you can use deviously, and with instant results.

Below is a list that’s not exactly for the faint of heart. If you’re not ready for some more radical moves that might win him back, maybe you should move on. But if you’re ready to try something new – and you’re brave enough to pull it off? Many of these techniques can put you back in the driver’s seat when it comes to making him DESIRE you again. And best of all, this will happen VERY quickly.

1. Look Wickedly Amazing

It should stand without reason that in order to get your boyfriend back, he needs to be physically and emotionally attracted to you. The physical part you can work at at the gym; no matter what shape you might be in right now, there’s always room for improvement.

Mentally, emotionally – chances are that right now at least, you aren’t in tip top shape. Getting into physical shape will boost your confidence, especially if you drop a few sizes and pick up some new clothes. This will improve your emotional state as well, as all these things tend to have cascading benefits.

When your ex sees you for the first time after the breakup, his tongue should hit the floor. If it doesn’t, you haven’t worked hard enough to make him jealous.

2. Hit Him in Places He Knows

No, not physically hit him. But you can emotionally hit him – or at least push him out of his comfort zone – by showing up in all the places he usually haunts. See, your boyfriend is expecting you to avoid him. He’s expecting that you’re so crushed, so upset, that just seeing him will make you a teary-eyed, emotional wreck.

This is where you prove him wrong. By being totally unafraid to face him, and by showing up with a big grin on your face? You’re showing your ex that NOTHING he did to you really matters. Your life is going on as normal, and if anything, he’s the one who should feel uncomfortable.

3. Smile, Nod, Laugh, Have Fun

Know what gives your ex the confidence to STAY broken up with you? Seeing you miserable. Not because he’s sadistic or anything, but seeing you miserable without him gives him the sense that HE was the important person in the relationship. That you needed him a whole lot more than he needed you.

So when he sees you laughing and smiling and having a great time WITHOUT him even in the picture? Well, this is where he starts questioning himself. He just dumped a girl who doesn’t seem to care that he’s gone, and not only that, she looks like she’s having the time of her life. This girl is FUN. This girl is LAUGHING. She also looks ten times more amazing than the last time he saw her! So what gives? Why isn’t he back with you? Maybe he should scoop you up quickly before someone else does…

Additionally, you might want to try these instant re-connection techniques the first time you run into your ex boyfriend. But read about them thoroughly before using them, because unless you execute them correctly they could possibly backfire.

4. Hang out With People Your Ex Doesn’t Like

Yeah, that’s right. Find the people your boyfriend always hated, and start going to the places he never wanted to take you to. This is a double-whammy, because it’s flaunting your happiness in the face of his misery.

It doesn’t matter if these people are men or women. All that matters is that you’re suddenly their ally, which will throw your ex boyfriend completely off his game. Remember: getting him to want you back is all about pushing him out of his comfort zone. He’d love nothing more for you to be sitting at home crying at the loss of the relationship rather than out doing things he would’ve traditionally been pissed about you doing.

5. Grab His Friends in the Divorce

Think just because your ex dumped you that you have to stop talking to, messaging with, or seeing his friends? Hell no. Because chances are, during the course of your relationship, HIS friends became YOUR friends.

Show your boyfriend you’re completely unafraid by getting all nice and cozy with the people he usually hangs out with. You don’t have to be obnoxious about it – in fact, you should be careful not to overdo it or he’ll realize why you’re doing it. However, there’s nothing keeping you from enjoying the same relationships with these people (or to make him REALLY jealous, even CLOSER relationships!) even after the two of you have broken up.

There are 3 more ultra-sneaky tricks that will make your ex jealous, but some of them are borderline criminal! Read them if you like, but use them with extreme caution…

Share this:
facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedinmail

10 Big Signs He’s Ready to Come Back

So you broke up… and you’re totally confused. Your ex boyfriend is sending mixed signals about how he feels, and whether or not he wants the relationship to continue. Knowing what he’s thinking is impossible. And knowing when it’s okay to move on? Well, that’s even harder.

So how do you know when he’s ready to come back? The following are 10 big signs that your ex is rethinking the breakup, and might be ready to make a move in your direction:

10 Signs Ex Boyfriend Wants You Back

1. He Still Wants to Be Friends

Believe it or not, this happens out of insecurity. Your boyfriend isn’t looking for another ‘friend’. He’s looking to keep tabs on you during the breakup, just in case he wants you back.

Think of it this way: the friendship is his insurance policy. Because as long as you’re still buddies? He can talk to you, keep track of you, and even ask about your dating life. Being friends grants him all of those things, which is like an inside look into what you’re doing.

Be if he truly wanted to be broken up for good? Being friends with you would be uncomfortable for him. It simply wouldn’t be something he wants.

2. Your Ex Boyfriend is Still Texting You

Once again, this serves as an umbilical cord, connecting the two of you while your boyfriend tests out the breakup. Because if he’s still texting you even after he dumped you? There are only two main reasons for that: to keep stringing you along, and for sex.

Stringing you along isn’t malicious, by the way. He’s doing it selfishly, and because it makes him feel secure that you still want him. The more you text with each other, the more ‘normal’ things seem for him, even though you’re no longer together. Normalcy = comfort, and if there’s one thing you don’t want your ex boyfriend to be right now, it’s comfortable with the breakup.

Texting you for sex is another option. Many guys will keep you at their fingertips for whenever they’re feeling lonely, or horny, or both. Your boyfriend knows you still love him, and that you probably want him back. He knows you’ll come running if he texts you, yet after the deed is done he might have different feelings. Keep this in mind. Be careful with how you handle such contact, because you don’t want to get hurt.

3. He’s Still Following You on Social Media

This is a big one these days. A guy who’s totally done with dating you will want to eradicate all trace of you as soon as possible, and he’ll do that by unfollowing you and unfriending you on every one of his accounts.

Moreover, he’ll do this for another reason: he doesn’t want to see what you might be doing. Seeing you dating someone else could be hurtful, or to be honest, maybe he simply doesn’t care anymore. Losing you as a Facebook friend or Instagram follower means nothing in this case, so he’ll simplify his life by cutting you off.

So yes, if he’s still following you? It could be a sign he wants you back. At the very least, it’s definitely a sign of interest. So be very careful about what you put on your social media accounts, and no matter what you do, never look as if you’re needy.

In most cases, you can even use social media to get your boyfriend back. There are lots of tips and tricks to try out in that link, so make sure you learn what they are!

4. Your Ex is Asking Your Friends About You

When your exboyfriend is getting ready to come back to you, he’ll send out certain feelers. One of the bigger ones? He’ll want to know how your friends feel about the two of you, and also, how you’re doing without him.

If an ex starts asking around for you, it’s crucial your friends know what to say. Telling him you’ve been lonely and miss him is a HUGE mistake! Even if you are lonely and do miss your ex, the last thing you want to do is let him know it. It’s always best for your ex to think you’re doing better without him than with him, which will make him feel like the loser of the breakup and create an actual NEED to have you in his life again.

5. Your Ex Boyfriend is Talking About the Past

Nostalgia is a powerful motivator. During a breakup – any breakup, no matter who you are – you’ll replay certain aspects of the relationship in your mind. Over and over you’ll go over the good times; the trips you took, the great memories you made, the best sex you had… all of those things become glorified and promoted as the best aspects of dating YOU.

Now, if an ex sees more bad times than good? He’s not going to talk about the past. In fact he’s going to avoid speaking about it entirely. So if he’s speaking about your past, especially in fond terms? It’s a tremendous sign he might be ready to give things a second shot.

6. Your Ex Calls You Out of the Blue

Ever get that phone call or text message? It might be something heartfelt, such as “I was thinking about you” or “I was missing you today”, or it might be as simple as the word “Hey”. The truth however, is that your ex is obviously thinking about you. He got caught up in a moment of weakness, and he went out on a limb to put the ball in your court.

Whenever your ex contacts you from out of the clear blue sky it’s one of the biggest signs of weakness in the world. He’s definitely reconsidering the breakup, or at the very least, is trying to figure things out. This is the point where he’ll try to see you again, even if he attempts to downplay it as a casual hangout.

Make sure you know exactly what to say when your ex boyfriend calls you! If you know which topics to bring up, and which to avoid, you can advance the reconciliation process to mere days or even hours rather than wait weeks or months to see if he wants you back.

7. Your Boyfriend Wants to Exchange ‘Things’ With You

Ever break up, trade eachother’s things back, and then get a phone call weeks later? “Oh hey, I found some of your DVD’s… maybe I could swing by and drop them off?”

Well that phone call is bullshit. It’s your ex’s way of trying to physically see you, and that’s a good sign. Anything important that he needed from your place would’ve been taken care of long before now, so if it’s weeks after the breakup and he’s still trying to exchange stuff with you, it’s merely a smokescreen for trying to see you again.

8. Your Ex Wants to Meet Up with You

This is it. The big one. Your boyfriend broke up with you, told you to go your own way, and now for some reason or another, he wants to see you again.

It doesn’t matter what reason he gives. It could sound legitimate, or it could be totally lame. The best thing to do is accept it for what it is, and allow him to pick a time and place. The worst thing to do would be to interrogate him with “What? Why? What do you want to say to me?” because this will embarrass him and turn him off to the whole thing.

When you DO go to see your ex for the first time after the breakup, you should know exactly how to handle it. Read this complete guide on how to handle the reunion date in such a way it’ll make your ex boyfriend want to see you again and again and again.

9. Your Ex Wants to Have Sex With You

Yup. It happens all the time, and especially if you’ve both been lonely. Sex with your ex might seem like a good idea, and it’s certainly something you’ll want, but in the long run, you need to be careful with how much, ummm… physical ‘access’ you give to your ex boyfriend.

There are times when having sex with an ex is okay. But if you want him back as a boyfriend again? You’ll need to manipulate the situation down some constructive avenues before any of the clothes come flying off.

Learn exactly when it’s okay to sleep with him, and when it’s better to withhold physical contact. Sex should never be used as a weapon, but you also can’t use it as a reward or lure to falsely win him back.

10. Your Ex Boyfriend Stays Connected with Your Family or Friends

Someone who’s looking to break ties with you is going to break them all. He’ll stop calling, texting, emailing… he’ll drop you on Facebook or Instagram, etc.. etc… etc…

That said, an ex boyfriend will have to leave your friends and family alone as well, especially if he wants to move on. So even if he’s close with your friends, or best pals with your brother? Steering clear of these people is always a sign that your ex doesn’t see himself having any kind of future with you.

The opposite, of course, is always true: an ex who keeps in touch with the closest people in your life is an ex who isn’t ready to lose you entirely. Every tiny piece of contact or commitment that he can keep going is just one more thread tying him to you, and in the long run, makes it just that much easier to re-insert himself in your life again.

Share this:
facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedinmail

Ex Back Review: The Magic of Making Up

You’ve heard of it. You’ve read about it. Maybe you’ve even seen one or more of T.W. Jackson’s absolutely infamous free opening moves videos in regards to breaking up.

Either way, The Magic of Making Up has been THE go-to guide for more than a decade when people are going through the very worst case scenario: an unwanted breakup.

Magic of Making Up EBook

The thing about Magic is that it’s more than just a collection of advice on what you can do to get your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back. It’s a STEP-BY-STEP SYSTEM that shows you exactly where you stand with your ex, where you need to be in the long run… and then it maps out an exact plan of attack showing you precisely how to get there.

And if you’re like most people? You want to get there in the shortest period of time possible. You don’t want to wait months before talking to your ex again, or risk losing your former boyfriend or girlfriend to the next person who comes along.

Relationship MASTER T.W. Jackson understands that your ex isn’t going to wait around forever, which is why he cuts through the bullshit and shows you some of the most down and dirty tricks and secrets you can use to mentally and emotionally manipulate your ex into not only wanting you back, but even BEGGING your forgiveness for leaving in the first place.

The Secrets of The Magic of Making Up EBook

One of the biggest concepts you’ll learn about in Magic is the idea that the more mistakes you make early on in your breakup? The harder it will always be to get your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend back. This is because you change the very way they see you; their opinion drops from a high level to a low one, simply because you’re doing EXACTLY the wrong things to make them see in you a favorable light.

For this reason, Jackson came up with The Calm Mind Technique. Watch this simple video and in just minutes you can learn how to clear your head of all the drama, pain, anxiety, and insecurity that’s associated with being dumped.

And once your mind is clear? You follow a much more logical – and attractive – overall thought process. Instead of being needy, you become independent. Instead of seeming insecure, you appear confident and even indifferent toward the breakup. Best of all, your heart will stop hurting.

Once you’ve stopped doing things that will drive your ex screaming in the opposite direction (i.e. constantly calling, excessively texting, acting bitter, acting angry, acting hurt, etc…) T.W. Jackson starts showing you the right things to do. And this is where the step-by-step process comes into play, because not everyone is in the same initial place when they arrive at this book.

The Magic of Making Up Videos

The videos of T.W. Jackson are a crucial part of the overall Magic process. Face to face, “T-Dub” explains the ins and outs of what your ex is going through after they disconnect from your relationship. You’ll learn which things to stay away from, and which things to focus on.

You’ll learn which reconnection techniques will be successful in making your ex come BACK to you, even getting them to call or text you within only hours or days.

You’ll find out why it’s so important to keep your emotions in check. To keep your true feelings for your ex guarded – at least for now – before you’re able to draw them toward you again. Coming on too strong, or not seeming as if you’re “accepting” of the breakup will keep your ex at an uncomfortable distance. Jackson shows you how to get past all that, and to make it so things aren’t so very weird between the two of you.

Things You’ll Learn Within the Magic of Making Up System

  • How to figure out why your ex really ended the relationship (it’s never exactly what your boyfriend or girlfriend actually tells you)
  • The best ways to get back on neutral ground, especially if you feel like everything you’re doing is pushing your ex away (because you’re working from a position of disadvantage)
  • Why NOT apologizing is probably your best course of action in getting your ex to feel like they need YOU back (rather than the other way around)
  • The 7 biggest signs your ex is still in love with you, and what you can do to use those feelings as leverage in getting them back.
  • The fastest way to make your ex miss you again (which is almost exactly the opposite of what you’re probably doing right now)
  • One very powerful bonding secret that will put your boyfriend or girlfriend instantly on your side again.
  • How to steal your ex back EVEN if they’re dating another person. Find out which nostagia tactics will rip your ex from the arms of their new lover and send them running back to you.
  • T.W. Jackson’s patented “fast-forward technique”, which can bypass the entire opening phase of the breakup and move you straight to where the healing – and reconciliation – begins

Of course there’s much more involved – too much to list here – but these are touchpoints on some of the bigger issues. Once you recognize that fixing your breakup is not about brute force and more about finesse, you’ll be able to use the above tactics to finesse your ex into wanting and needing that very magical, original relationship you once had together.

If you do nothing else, at least watch this opening moves video. It shows you the FIRST thing you need to do right after getting dumped, even if you happened to get dumped days or even weeks ago.

Share this:
facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedinmail

5 Things You MUST DO Immediately After Getting Dumped

When a relationship ends, one of two things can happen. Either you both walk your separate ways, or the two of you eventually decide give the romance a second chance.

Getting Dumped Anthony Malibu

Now we all know people who have gotten back together. Couples who’ve broken up, missed each other, and ended up dating each other again.

When this happens, the reason is always the same: these people are still attracted to each other. They’d rather be together than apart, but most of all they still see value in each other.

Value in the relationship.

For this reason, what you do immediately AFTER your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you is the single most important factor in deciding whether or not they’ll want you back. Your actions, your attitude – these are things your ex is paying VERY close attention to, as they help them determine whether or not dumping you was the right decision.

The Main Reasons People Don’t Get Back Together

When people don’t get back together it’s usually because the ‘dumper’ is totally turned off by the ‘dumpee’. They do and say things that end up driving their partner away, even while they believe these actions will make their ex miss, love, and need them again.

In truth, it’s very easy to drive your ex away. The days and weeks after any breakup are a very fragile time, and the very things you’re doing to try and get back together can often be responsible for making sure your ex NEVER wants to date you again.

So what actions are good? Which ones are bad?

How can you bring your ex back to you – physically and emotionally – without destroying their opinion of you and making it so that they don’t really want you back?

Below you’ll find five post-breakup moves that are not only safe, they’re actually CRUCIAL to reversing your breakup. Stick to these and you’ll never push your ex away; in fact, you’ll actually be drawing them emotionally closer by making them need you again, in many of the original ways you first fell in love.

#1) Don’t Fight Your Ex’s Decision to Break Up

It’s the first thing that happens after you get dumped; you FIGHT.

You fight against the breakup. You fight to “save the relationship”. You even fight to find out why your boyfriend or girlfriend suddenly decided to end things, even though their decision was probably not that sudden at all.

All this fighting is something your lover expects. They came totally prepared for it. They have an answer for just about every one of your questions, and the ones they don’t have an answer for just make them clam up and say nothing.

And as you continue demanding explanations and begging them to reconsider? You devalue yourself. As a person, a partner, a potential boyfriend or girlfriend… you’re showing your ex that no matter what happens from this point out, YOU need them a whole lot more than THEY need you.

NEWSFLASH: You’ll never convince your ex not to break up with you during the initial ‘break up’ speech. At best you’re delaying the inevitable. At worst you’re forcing them to see you in the worst possible light, at your worst possible moment.

#2) Show Willingness to Walk Away From the Relationship

Instead of fighting, you need to demonstrate STRENGTH. This is what your partner secretly wants anyway, and it may very well be the reason they’re no longer into you.

So DON’T fight. DON’T argue. DON’T throw yourself at your ex’s feet, promise to ‘change’, beg or plead for them to reconsider… instead of doing all those pitiful, awful things, get up and JUST WALK AWAY.

That’s it. It’s really that simple. By walking away after your ex dumps you you’re refusing to show your cards. In a way, your refusal to argue is actually the same as counter-rejecting them. And this puts you in a much better position later on.

EVERY SINGLE MINUTE that you fight the breakup slips you one step further AWAY from reconciliation. The longer you take to accept and agree, the further you slide down that slippery slope. With each second that ticks by you’re giving your ex that much more power over you. And this is power you’ll need later on, when it’s time to use these reconnection techniques to draw your ex back into a relationship again.

#3) Refuse to Chase After Your Ex

Once you walk away? That’s IT. You’re done with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, at least for now.

Most people who get rejected end up chasing their ex in one way or the other. Whether it’s phone calls, text messages, or even just stalking your ex on their Instagram or Facebook accounts, this is probably the biggest of all possible blunders you can make (see this list of the 12 biggest breakup mistakes).

Chasing your ex looks desperate. It displays weakness, at a time when you need to be strong. It makes you seem needy, but more than that, it puts your ex up on a pedestal where even they start thinking they’re too good for you.

In addition, right after the breakup is when your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to see you the LEAST. Let’s face it, they dumped you because they’re sick of you, at least for now. So running after them at this point is only going to make them run harder, and since they’re the one with the head start you’re never going to catch them.

Eventually, if you do leave your ex alone for a while? They slowly begin to miss you again. They think about you MORE when you’re not around, and LESS when you’re constantly trying to get in touch with them. So by not chasing your ex you’re actually getting closer to catching them again. Just like by not chasing after a lost dog (which will only make it run away even faster) you can stop, kneel down, and let the puppy come to you.

#4) Disappear Like a GHOST

Want your ex to really miss you? Well then you’ve got to totally disappear.

When I say totally, I mean just that. It’s not enough that you don’t call or text message your ex. You have to disappear from the world of social media as well.

Think about it; if your ex dumped you, they’re going to look back at you to see what you do. They want to know how you’re handling it, and checking your Facebook and Twitter and Instagram accounts is a very good, very secretive way of checking up on you.

Now imagine your ex goes to look at these things and they see nothing. No updates. No activity at all. Suddenly, they begin to worry. Because instead of running home to change your status or throwing up sappy song lyrics all over your page, you haven’t done ANYTHING at all.

To your ex, this can only mean one thing: you’re out with someone else. You’re doing other things, and you’re having fun and living your life without them. This is exactly the opposite of what your boyfriend or girlfriend wants. They expect you to be doing the same old thing, so when you’re not, it puts them out of their comfort zone.

#5) Immediately Move on With Your Life

And speaking of being out with someone else? This is the BEST time in the world to do just that.

When your ex dumps you, the greatest revenge is living well. This means going out, having fun, and most important of all, being seen with OTHER people.

So go out on dates. Enjoy yourself. Don’t even hesitate for a second thinking you ‘need time’ or that it’s simply ‘too soon’ after your last relationship ended. Remember: you got DUMPED. Which means that you’re the “loser” of the relationship and your ex (for now at least) is the “winner”. To reverse those roles, you’ve got to show your former boyfriend or girlfriend that you don’t care at all about them anymore. Even if you totally do.

And no, going out with someone doesn’t mean you have to marry them. You’re simply having fun; taking a few dates here and there to get back on the proverbial horse. There’s nothing at all wrong with seeing someone else, and it’s a great way to make your ex totally jealous. In some cases it can jar your ex into taking action, because until you actually start dating again your breakup might not be final in your ex’s eyes.

So to know how they really feel about you? Let your boyfriend or girlfriend see you with your arm around someone else. If that’s not going to prompt a phone call or text message, nothing else will.

There are a list of signs and signals your ex will give off when he or she wants you back. Look out for them, and make sure you’re doing the right thing immediately after the breakup.

Share this:
facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedinmail