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5 Signs Your Breakup Might Only Be Temporary

Breaking up can sometimes seem like the end of the world. You don’t eat, you don’t sleep… you can’t even get out of bed because you miss your ex so much!

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But then, only a few days or a week later? WHAM! You’re suddenly back together. All of that pain and drama was for nothing, and everything is right with the world again.

So how can you tell when your breakup is real?

Are there signs that your ex is really over you for good?

How can you spot the signals given off when your breakup is only going to be a temporary thing?

Below you’ll find 5 big signs that your ex isn’t truly finished with dating you. Recognizing and exploiting these signals can actually help you get back together sooner, rather than later, and reduce the risk of a permanent breakup.

1. Your Ex Keeps Texting You

Text-messaging shouldn’t just drop off after a breakup, it should end entirely. Because if your boyfriend or girlfriend is truly no longer interested? They’ll realize that texting you would only give you false hope.

Any kind of post-breakup contact is an indication of one or two things: interest or regret. Either your ex is still interested in what you’re doing (who you’re with, whether you’re going to start seeing other people, etc…) or they’re showing some regret for leaving you behind.

This goes no matter what your ex says in the text messages. They can claim the messages are innocent and mean nothing, but should know that they don’t.

2. Your Ex Wants to See You

Breaking up correctly is like ripping off a band-aid; it hurts a lot to do it quickly, but at least the pain is over fast. But an exboyfriend or exgirlfriend who insists on still seeing you, or even better, running into you by ‘accident’? That person is reconsidering the breakup altogether.

Long-term relationships can leave mental, emotional, and even physical connections behind. There is usually a NEED for that person, a void that’s left after they’re gone.

Even if they’re the one who initiated the break, your ex might be addicted to contact with you, in one form or another. Keep in mind that needing to see you is a definite sign that they’re not yet ready to call it quits.

3. Your Ex Wants to be Friends

Does your ex really want you as a friend? No. What they want is to continue part of the relationship; ideally, the part where they get to see what you’re doing and keep tabs on you while the decide whether or not they want you back.

Agreeing to be friends with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend will NEVER get them back. In fact, the best thing to do in such a situation is refuse to remain friends at all… then pull out these 3 amazing moves that will make your ex miss you – and need you back – almost immediately.

Friendship is always a bad choice. Stick around as ‘friends’ for too long and your ex will never get to see you as a potential partner again, eliminating any possible chance of reversing your breakup and getting back together. The LAST thing you want is to fall into the Friend Zone. Especially if you’re trying to fix things and win your lover back.

4. Your Ex is Trying to Make You Jealous

When you see your former boyfriend or girlfriend out partying, whooping it up, or even grinding up against someone new for your benefit? It’s because they know you’re going to get jealous and they WANT you to feel that emotion.

Jealousy is your ex’s way of sticking it to you. It’s his or her way of making you want to chase them. Taking you back is one thing. Getting you to come crawling back is quite another. Because if you do that? They can restart the relationship on their terms, which usually means they’re going to abuse your love for them.

5. Your Ex is Suddenly Nice to You Again

One of the biggest signs that a breakup might be a mistake is when your ex boyfriend or girlfriend starts acting the way they did at the beginning. You know what I’m talking about: back to right before you were dating, when the two of you were still trying to woo or impress each other.

Being apart can also offer clarity. You’ll see things differently when you’re apart than when you’re together every day. You’ll start to miss things. Regret things you might’ve said or done. This will lead you to want to be nice to your ex, which in turn, can get your head spinning with the idea of wanting to date them again.

“Wow, I forgot it could be this good. Maybe it could be this good again.” – That sort of thing.

What to Do if You Want Your Ex Back

Getting back together after an unwanted breakup is nothing more than a series of taking the right steps. The only problem? All too often, most people make all the wrong moves.

They do this out of frustration, out of anger, and out of loneliness. Worst of all, they do it without realizing it’s having exactly the opposite effect: it’s driving an ex away rather than drawing them closer.

First, make sure you’re not making any of the 7 Biggest Breakup Mistakes. Commit even a few of these, and you can kiss your relationship goodbye forever.

Second, check out the amazing guide The Magic of Making Up. Author and relationship expert T.W. Jackson gives you a step-by-step, foolproof plan for making an ex need you back in their life again, no matter how long it’s been since the breakup.

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8 Mindblowing Types of Sex You Should Have With Your EX

At one time or another we’re all guilty of it… having sex after the breakup.

So hey, if falling back into bed with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is in the cards? You might as well make it as explosively awesome as you possibly can.

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Below you’ll find a list of ways to make the post-breakup sex so hot, so memorable, that the very act will be forever emblazoned upon yours and your ex lover’s mind.

In other words, here’s how you can make it count!

“The First Time All Over Again” Sex

This is the type of sex you have when you and your ex haven’t been with each other for months straight. When you finally do go at it, it’s like you’ve never slept together at all. Everything is suddenly new and exciting. Like you’re exploring each other for the very first time.

In some aspects it is the first time, because in many ways you’re marking a new beginning. Whether the sex is nothing more than a one-time fling or something you’ll continue to do for a while, either way, you’ll still never forget your (second) first time!

“Getting Out All Those Pent-Up Frustrations” Sex

Remember how heartbroken you were when you and your ex broke up? And how that heartbreak turned to longing, and then misery, and then finally, anger?

Well after running that full gauntlet of very powerful emotions, having sex again is like coming full circle. You screw like you’re still angry at your ex lover – and that’s because you are still angry!

Whether you’re hurt, frustrated, full of rage or even sad; you’ll take all of those things out on your partner, orgasm by orgasm. It’s like saying “Hey, I’m still really really pissed at you! Now lay back and let me show you just how much!”

This kind of sex can get violent, but in a sort of useful way. And when both partners are equally annoyed with each other over the breakup? That’s when the furniture doesn’t stand a chance!

“Cheating on Your New Partner” Sex

This is where you already have a new boyfriend or girlfriend, but you backslide. Maybe you ran into your ex by accident, or maybe you sought them out on purpose. A lonely evening. A late night text-message. The lure of having sex with your ex is just too great… and then it happens.

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Cheating can make you feel guilty afterward. But during the sex? It can actually be a thrill.

A lot of times this will happen when you’re not sure about the person you’re with. Either you’re ready to break with them, or maybe you’re just stringing them along (you could even be hooked on your ex!). But sometimes, of course, cheating just happens. Especially if the relationship you had with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend was hotter, better, and more desirable than what you have right now.

And let’s be honest: some people cheat for the pure adrenaline rush of doing something this wrong.

Whenever you cheat on someone with your ex, the sex will always have a forbidden element to it. It’ll feel nasty. Dirty. And if you’ve already committed to cheating? As evil as it sounds, you may as well revel in these things for maximum enjoyment!

“Getting Your Ex to Cheat With You” Sex

In this scenario, your ex already has a new lover… but you sleep with them anyway. Maybe your ex sought you out, but more likely you seduced them… and probably for your own selfish reasons.

Getting an ex to sleep with you (when they’re cheating) is a lot like victory. It’s like they chose you over this new person they started dating. You’ll feel like you’ve won something, even just for the night. And again, since cheating is involved the sex will have a thrilling, forbidden edge to it. An almost dangerous, “we really can’t be doing this” feel.

If your ex boyfriend or girlfriend left you for this person, you’ll definitely feel like you’ve won. In a way you’re taking back what’s yours, and you’re screwing them over in the process. Kinda like screwing two people at once!

Now if you’re trying to sleep with your ex to get them back, that can be tricky. In that case make sure you avoid these 6 huge breakup mistakes that can quickly sabotage any chance of you actually fixing your breakup. (HINT: If you’re making more than 3 of these, you might be screwed)

“Let’s Do Something I Learned From Someone Else” Sex

Been apart a while? Had some fresh new sexual experiences, and/or tried things you really liked?

Falling back into bed with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend can be fun, but showing them stuff you learned ‘while they were gone’ can be even better. One of the cool perks to sleeping with other people is that you often find things, acts, positions, etc, that you really, really like.

When it comes to sex, it’s hot to teach. It’s equally hot to be taught. So when you sleep with an ex after being apart for a long time (and maybe had few past lovers in between)? Make sure you enjoy being the teacher as well as the student.

“Let’s Do Something We Never Did Before” Sex

And speaking of hot, one of the best things about having sex with your ex is being able to do all the stuff you never got to try.

While broken up, you’ll both be a lot more open to new sexual experiences. This is mainly because you’re now trying to please each other again, but it’s also because because some of the emotional attachment is gone. Because you’re not ‘bound’ to each other anymore, you’re not bound to the same rules of your past relationship.

What’s this mean? Threesomes, foursomes, moresomes – pretty much anything goes. Because the inhibitions are gone, you can try all sorts of sex that would normally be forbidden while you’re in an established relationship. Best of all, there’s no pressure. No awkward morning afters. Since you’re not with each other, relationship-wise anyway, most of the jealousy will no longer be present.

“Oh My God We Never Should’ve Broken Up” Sex

Everyone who’s ever tried to get back together with someone has dreamed of this type of sex. It happens when you’ve been apart a while, see each other, and then magnetically come together again.

The sex in this scenario is so wild, so uninhibited, it makes you both wonder why you broke up in the first place. It supersedes all the bullshit that caused you to drift apart, cutting through all the fighting and arguing and bringing things back to a place that’s ferociously primal and intimate.

If you’re looking to initiate this type of sex, you’d better be ready. You can screw someone’s socks off, and it’s so much fun to try!

“After This You’ll Want Me Back” Sex

This is exboyfriend/exgirlfriend sex with a goal in mind: getting back together. You’re trying to impress your former lover with sex that’s soooooo good, they can’t help but fall back in love with you.

Well, maybe not love. Not right away, anyway. Lust would be a better word, at least for now. But when you’re trying to have such great sex that your partner actually forgets why they stopped dating you? You’ll need to pull out all the stops.

Keep in mind, there are strong, often unbreakable emotional connections that ALWAYS occur whenever two people have slept together. You may be able to win this person back physically – if only for a night or two – but to win them back heart and soul? You’ll need to push on some other emotional hot buttons as well. Buttons that play upon your shared history together, and use the very best memories of your past relationship fully to your advantage.

The following two downloadable guides contain powerful reconnection techniques. They’re also individually tailored to be gender-specific, as both men and women respond to their own unique (and very different!) approaches, when it comes to needing you back in their lives again.

For Girls:  The Ex Factor Guide

Ex Factor ExBoyfriend Guide

If you’re looking for instant results? Your best bet is to spend the next few precious minutes watching this incredible free video.

Brad Browning’s ultimate guide to fixing an unwanted breakup gives you a complete, step-by-step breakdown of how you can not only win back your ex boyfriend’s heart, but INSTANTLY grab his attention through a series of emotional reconnection techniques.

The Ex Factor Guide is a system of written guidelines and video instruction that show you EXACTLY what to do next.

Whether you’re already in the reconciliation stages and need to know how to handle the reunion date, or whether you’ve had zero to no contact with your ex boyfriend, Brad takes you by the hand and leads you through the heartbreak and into the light.

Find out why he’s ignoring you. Learn the 3 simple things you can do to make your ex call you. And when you get him back? Brad Browning also shows you how to keep him. By learning how to throw out the bad and keep the good, you and your boyfriend can start a NEW relationship with a fresh, clean slate and none of the usual fighting and arguing.

For Guys:  How to Get Her Back For Good

Get Her Back For Good

Stuck on what to do next? Need expert advice on getting your girlfriend back, especially when she’s not responding?

Get Her Back For Good is an amazingly successful guide to fixing a breakup, geared entirely toward MEN. For years Dr. George Karanastasis has been demonstrating the most effective techniques for regaining your ex girlfriend’s attention and admiration through proven, solid techniques.

Ploys, tricks, mind games, mental manipulation… learn why all these approaches to fixing a breakup just don’t work. Because to get your girlfriend back and actually keep her interested? You’ll need to identify and fix the root cause of your breakup.

Within the pages of this guide you’ll learn the 5 most effective approaches to getting a girl back. Even when you think you’ve failed, and even when the situation seems absolutely hopeless? Dr. K. shows you counter-intuitive methods and techniques that will get you past ANY sticking point or hurdle.

  • Learn how to reignite the original sparks of your early relationship in your ex girlfriend’s mind.
  • Find out how you can shift the balance of power back in your favor, getting her to want you again.
  • Understand the 4 MAJOR mistakes men make that will always prevent getting back together.
  • Read real-life examples of popular breakup situations, and what needs to be done to repair them.

Get Her Back For Good is an instant download, and the methods and ideas within can be applied right away to your own situation. STOP making mistakes, and start making the right moves to get your girlfriend back, before it’s too late.

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21 Things That Will Get You Through Your Breakup

Losing a relationship is like losing a part of yourself. Especially if you’ve been dating for a while, and the two of you became entwined in each others’ lives.

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Still, a lot of people go through a breakup alone. They withdraw, and will often stick to themselves. Some even reach dangerous levels of depression.

But just like there are good relationships and bad ones, there are healthy and unhealthy ways to let go of someone even when you still love them. Learning how to break up is sometimes just as important as learning to fall in love, because very few of us find our soulmates the first time around.

Below is a list of ways you can help get over your ex. Learning these tactics will not only help you snap out of a bad breakup, they’ll actually help you be more attractive to everyone else, including the boyfriend or girlfriend who just dumped you.

Remove Reminders of Your Ex

The first thing you want to do, right off the bat, is to get rid of anything that will remind you of your past relationship. This includes photos, pictures, gifts, music… basically anything that you could glance at and your ex would suddenly spring to mind.

Now I know it’s not easy to just throw things things away – especially early on. This is why it’s good to just box everything up, tape the box tightly shut, and put it somewhere you won’t be tempted to look at or open it. This way you still have that stuff (on the off chance you can reverse your breakup), and a year or two from now you can deal with it much easier once any residual feelings have gone away.

Get Outside – Don’t Stay In

It’s natural to become sullen and withdrawn during a breakup. After all, a breakup is a rejection, and such a thing never makes anyone feel particularly good.

But you know what? The more you stay inside, the worse you’ll feel. The more you withdraw from friends and family, the more isolated and lost you’ll become.

So go outside, and get in the sun. Even if you just read a book or play some music, breathing in some fresh air will actually make you feel better. And if you have friends or family you can turn to? Go hang out with them. Staying busy is the purest and most effective way to get your mind off your breakup.

Exercise, Exercise, Excercise!

Want to clear your head, and everything in it? Hands down, NOTHING is better than exercise.

It doesn’t matter how you do it, but working out and getting your blood pumping will release natural endorphins that will always make you feel better. And no matter what thoughts are spinning through your head right now, a good run or a tough workout will eradicate every last one of them.

Exercise is good for your mind, body, and soul. You’ll feel better and look better, and with every drop of sweat your problems will seem to melt away. The best part of all? It’s free. It’s awesome. And you can do it every single day.

So join a gym, or go back to the one you stopped going to while you were busy dating your ex. Get involved in a spin class, a yoga class, or do Zumba, or kickboxing, or cardio.

Even better, go one step further and start doing 5k runs. Even if you can’t run fast you’ll find yourself next to hundreds of other people who simply walk them. You’ll meet new faces, start new conversations, and enjoy just being outdoors. Your ex? Your ex who?

Try Something Totally New

This is a good one to do with friends. Basically, pick something wild you’ve always SAID you were going to do. Maybe it’s scuba diving. Maybe it’s skydiving. Maybe it’s as simple as joining a team sport, or trying martial arts. Doesn’t matter really, just DO it.

You can also pick up new hobbies. Try something you’ve never done before, and take a few classes on it. Cooking classes are popular, or do pottery, or join a book club… whatever gets you out of the house and into a group setting is totally perfect for getting your mind off breaking up.

Start Dating New People

Yes, believe it or not, you CAN see other people. NO, it’s not “too soon”. NO, you don’t need some lame ‘mourning period’ to get over your ex.

Mourning periods suck, actually. They’re nothing more than a downgraded pity party you’ve somehow convinced yourself you’re entitled to. I’m not saying you should go out with just anyone, but you should be more than open to the idea.

And hey, you don’t have to fall in love either. Right now it’s about getting out and doing things. Having fun. Whomever makes you happiest, roll with that person, even if the relationship isn’t going anywhere serious. And if it is? Roll with that too. And try not to focus on your ex (or compare this new person to them). That will only make both of you miserable.

Other Ways to Get Over Your Breakup

If you’ve already tried the 6 Step to Get Back With Your Ex, and nothing’s worked? Well, it might be time to let go. But you want to let go the right way, otherwise you’ll be stuck in the past for a very long time.

First, try the Clear Mind Technique. The Free Video is Here. This is an amazing tool for relieving the pain of a breakup, and creating a calm place in your mind where you don’t have to feel sick, or anxious, or sad about losing your relationship anymore. Do it one time and you’ll see exactly what I mean.

Beyond that, you might be tempted to become “friends” with your ex. If that’s the case, make sure you read up on: What to Do When Your Ex Just Wants to Be Friends.

In any case, all breakups take time to heal. Emotional bonds don’t just dissolve overnight, and if its any comfort at all, your ex is going through many of the same symptoms of relationship withdrawal you are.

Ultimately however, it’ll all be okay. So chin up, get outside, and get OVER your ex!

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My Girlfriend Wants a Break – What Can I Do?

The words are like getting stabbed in the gut with a rusty knife:

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“I think maybe we should take a BREAK from each other…”

Your mind reels. The blood rushes to your head as you struggle for something to say.

And what do you even say to that? Your girlfriend is rejecting you. Hard. And not just in the traditional breakup sort of way, she’s actually demoting you to the lamest of all possible places in her life: she’s putting you on a shelf, to be dealt with ‘later on’ (or whenever she feels like it).

If your girlfriend wants to take a break, you’d better act fast. Any sort of inaction or complacency on your part will result in her continuing the break for as long as she wants. This, essentially, is like handing her all the power. You’re giving her the keys to your relationship and telling her she gets to drive.

Know what happens next? She drops you off. Or maybe she kicks you out of the car while it’s still moving. Either way, your girl isn’t likely to change the ‘break’ status anytime soon, as long as you’re peacefully and obediently going along with it like a good little boy.

What to Say When Your Girlfriend Wants Time Apart

You say NO. Plain and simple. You need to be firm, you need to be rigid, and you need to be STONE COLD in your attitude.

“No, but thanks anyway. I don’t ‘do’ breaks. Breaks are bullshit.”

If you ever wonder why a girl would tell you she wants a break instead of a straight-up breakup, it really boils down to one thing: uncertainty. Your now ex-girlfriend is hedging her bets. She’s not 100% ready to let you go just yet, so she does the next best thing; she strings you along. She dangles the carrot of ‘maybe we’ll get back together’ in front of your face while she goes out and plays the field and decides whether or not she can find some other guy – some stronger guy – who makes her feel more wanted and loved and safe and secure than you do.

If your girlfriend springs the whole ‘time apart’ thing on you, it’s because you’ve been weak. Either you haven’t been fulfilling her needs, or you’ve been wishy-washy as a boyfriend in general. Maybe you’re insecure. Maybe you’re always apologizing for everything, or joking that you’re dating ‘out of your league’. All of these things will make a girl wonder why she’s with you in the first place. In short, you’re digging your own grave.

By denying her the break you’re delivering a message. You’re essentially rejecting her as much as she’s rejecting you. Because rather than scramble to get her back, or try to “fight” for the relationship (which is exactly what she wants), you’re crumpling the romance into a ball and casually tossing it over your shoulder.

She wants a break? Fine. No problem. You’re TOTALLY willing to go out and see other people yourself. Tell her this, and see how fast she changes her tune. Mention this to her, and see how quickly she tells you “Well, I don’t think we should see other people, I just think we should take some time apart.”

She’s backpedaling. At which point you say:

“Yeah, no thanks. If we’re together, we’re TOGETHER. If we’re not, we’re not. I’m not doing things half-assed. I’m not going to sit around in some lame relationship limbo while waiting for you to figure things out.”

Be TOUGH. It’s the only way to keep her. It’s the only way to make your girlfriend come face to face with the reality of losing you all at once, rather than letting you go little by little while she ‘decides’ whether or not she can find some other guy.

The WORST THING YOU CAN DO When Your Girlfriend Wants Time Apart

Keep in mind that when your girlfriend offers ‘a break’ the very first thing she expects is resistance. She wants you to fight. She wants to see how much you really do care. Begging, pleading – all of these things seem like they might help get her back, but in reality they’re only going to turn her off even more and ratify the decision she already made to distance herself from you.

Your girlfriend also wants you to talk her out of the break. At this point she won’t ever be talked out of it, but she wants to see you try. This is because when you’re groveling for her approval she’s suddenly in the position of being right (and you’re in the position of being instantly wrong). She assumes control. She’s using the break as a scare tactic to gauge your reaction, and most of all, to see if you’re worthy of actually dating her.

So yeah, it’s a test. A test of your manhood. Chase her, and you fail. Come up with 1,000 reasons you should stay together, and she’ll have 1,001 reasons you should be apart. It’s a game, really. And it’s not a game you can win, so you shouldn’t even be playing it.

What to Do if You’re Already on a Break

Now if this conversation already happened and you meekly “agreed” to take time apart? Well, you’re in trouble. Fortunately though, it’s never too late to fix this situation.

Your first move is to employ these counter-rejection techniques. DO THEM NOW, and don’t wait. They’ll get you immediately started on reversing the entire situation, and seizing back most of that power you already lost when you accepted her offer to ‘take a break’ from each other.

After that, it’s time to sack up. Figure out what you’ve been doing (or not doing) to drive her in the opposite direction, and rectify that situation as well. Check out these 4 huge mistakes most guys make when they feel like they’re losing control of their relationship. How many of them are you guilty of?

Ultimately, any ‘break’ will always become a breakup unless you DO SOMETHING about it. Sitting still won’t help. Waiting patiently, and hoping she’ll somehow come to her senses, is the worst possible move. Being proactive here is the most important thing you can do to keep your relationship alive and healthy. Being reactive, unfortunately, will always get you dumped.

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