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Boyfriend Wants Space? Here are 3 Things You MUST DO

“I just want some space…”

Is that what he said? Or maybe he worded it differently. “Maybe we should take some time apart?” Or the dreaded: “I just need time to think?”

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It doesn’t matter how your boyfriend said it, he always means the same thing: we’re about to break up.

Unless, of course, you know EXACTLY what to do.

Right here, right now, your boyfriend has just checked you into relationship limbo. He’s effectively saying “Don’t call me, I’ll call you.”

So you begged. You pleaded. You told him you’d “change”. In the end you let him know that you really don’t want time apart, but if he really needs it, you’ll give it to him. Right?

Well, that’s about the worst possible thing you could’ve done.

Understand something: when a guy asks for “space” what he really wants is permission to date other girls. What he’s really saying here is “hey, stick around for a while and don’t go anywhere… but at the same time, I’m free to look for other people.”

If you’re not looking to break up with your boyfriend, and you want to get your relationship back on track? You’re going to need to do three things. Here they are:

Refuse the Whole “Time Apart” Bullshit

Your boyfriend offers a time-out from your relationship, or needs space, or wants time to think… but rather than be the good little girlfriend who’s going to give him exactly that, you’re going to do the opposite. You tell him:

“No, sorry. I don’t do ‘space’. If you want to break up, fine, we’ll break up. But I’m not half-assing it, and I’m not waiting around.”

This is exactly what your guy doesn’t want to hear. The fact that he might lose you during the whole “time off” thing is going to freak him out, mainly because he thinks he can control you during this temporary breakup.

Putting your boyfriend on his back foot is the best way to make him realize you as VALUABLE. He’ll never be forced to really see you that way unless you respect yourself enough not to fall for this crap when he first pulls it.

Pre-Emptively Break Up with Him

At this point, the best thing to do is get pissed. Turn to him and say:

“Know what? If you’re really not sure about this whole thing, then I’m not either. Maybe we should just put an end to it completely, and both move on with our lives.”

This is going to scare your boyfriend right down to his balls. Why? Because he DOESN’T WANT THIS. He wanted a nice cushy little “break” where you kept calling and kept texting and kept telling him you loved him. Instead, you just broke up with him… throwing him for a complete loop.

Walk Away While You Have the Upper Hand

And after you tell him you want a breakup? WALK AWAY. Don’t look back, don’t answer your phone, and don’t respond to his text messages.

Your boyfriend will be left with the feeling that he really messed up. He screwed things big time, and he got exactly the opposite of what he wanted.

Most of all, he now stands to actually LOSE you. The fact that you’re not going to be his girlfriend anymore and he might lose you to someone else is going to create instant value in his eyes. Suddenly you’re a commodity he stands to be without, and he’s not going to want that.

Remember: your boyfriend doesn’t want a breakup. He wants a “temporary break”. This is a cowardly way of trying to keep stringing you along (which is what he wants), and now it just backfired in his face.

Now, if the whole “I need some space” thing already happened, and you missed your chance to do these three things? That’s okay. There’s still a backup plan.

First, look for the 7 signs he still loves you. These are easy-to-spot signals your boyfriend will give off when he’s really not ready to lose you.

Beyond that, there’s this One Opening Move guaranteed to make your ex almost immediately want you back! Make sure you do this one early though, because the longer you wait the harder it will be to pull it off.

In the end, NEVER accept the whole “I need space” excuse. Sitting around and waiting for your boyfriend to get back to you is almost always going to lead to a permanent breakup.

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16 Signs You Just Weren’t Meant to Be Together

Ever break up with someone over and over again, but keep trying to stay in the relationship? Well you’re not alone. Everyone does this at one time or another, struggling to keep a romance alive that just doesn’t… well… fit.

The following is a big list of red flags. The more of these that apply to your current (or past) relationship? The more you probably would be better off apart.

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1. Your Partner Makes You Feel Guilty All The Time

Ever feel guilty just taking time for yourself? Even doing little things with friends and family? That’s the type of guilt a relationship really doesn’t need. This is a huge sign of an overprotective, needy lover.

2. The Love Feels… One-Sided

A good relationship is a 50/50 partnership; both people love and respect each other as equals. So when you start feeling as if you love your boyfriend or girlfriend a little bit more than they love you? The balance of power shifts, and you start getting taken advantage of.

Keep in mind, this can go two ways. If your partner loves you more than you love them, you’ll feel as if they’re being clingy or needy and this can also be a huge turnoff.

3. Your Lover is Never Happy For Your Successes

Healthy couples lift each other up rather than tear each other down. So if your boyfriend or girlfriend seems constantly ‘annoyed’ when you get a promotion, succeed at something, or get good news? It’s because he or she is jealous – and insecure – of your success.

4. You Stopped Hanging Out with Your Friends During the Course of Your Relationship

This is a common one. It’s okay – and inevitable – to spend less time with friends once you get a new boyfriend or girlfriend. That said, if your partner is making you feel guilty about seeing your friends at all? This is toxic, unhealthy thing… and it will eventually cause resentment on your part, leading to the demise of your relationship.

5. Your Ex Held You to Double-Standards

Was he allowed to go out with his friends, but you weren’t? Was she allowed to take trips without you, but you were forbidden to do the same? These kinds of double-standards are a sign of unhealthy jealousy. Your lover is personifying their insecurities through control, trying to keep you from doing things they themselves see no problem with doing.

6. You Argued Over Nothing. Literally.

Big fights over important stuff are one thing. But big fights spawned from little arguments over the most insignificant bullshit? That’s a sign of resentment. You and your partner are bickering over little tiny things because you resent each other for bigger, underlying reasons. The thing you’re arguing about is not the actual problem.

7. You’re Looking For Reasons to NOT See Each Other

When you start avoiding your boyfriend or girlfriend because hanging out with them seems like a ‘chore’, it’s a sure sign you’re losing interest. Either that, or you’re hanging out too much and need to back off a little and give each other some breathing room.

8. Your Relationship is Consumed by Jealousy

The most powerful and ugly of all emotions is jealousy. If you or your partner are constantly jealous of each other, especially in situations where things are nothing more than totally innocent, it’s another sign that the relationship has gone toxic.

A good, healthy relationship allows for TRUST and FREEDOMS. If you don’t have those things, jealousy will run your romance straight into the ground.

9. You Just Can’t See a Future Together

A strong relationship allows you to see long term. You and your partner get so close that you can’t imagine a life without each other, and that’s when you start planning for your future.

If you’ve been dating for a significant amount of time (more than 6 months) and you still can’t see a future with this person? It’s a sure indication that the relationship might be more of a temporary dalliance, or fling.

10. You’re Always Longing for the ‘Good Old Days’, or Wishing Things Could Be Like the Past

If you’re wishing things could be like they were “in the beginning”, it’s a sign that your relationship has devolved. Maybe it’s fighting, or arguing, or jealousy, or just plain boredom. But no matter what it is, something’s very, very wrong.

Here are 4 big signs your partner boyfriend or girlfriend loves you. If you’re still seeing some of these signs, there might be hope to save the relationship.

11. You’re Looking For Reasons to Be Mad

When being ‘right’ about something becomes more important than actually loving and caring for someone, it easily leads to picking fights. In this type of relationship you’re always chasing after that “Ah ha!” moment, to prove your lover is wrong about something. Seeking an apology all the time is another bad sign. This means you’re constantly playing the victim, looking for negative attention just so you can be ‘right’ and your lover can be ‘wrong’. That’s not a relationship anymore. It’s something worse.

12. You’re Always Trying to Outdo Each Other

A good romance is a partnership; you succeed together, and you build each other up. In short, it should feel like it’s the two of you against the rest of the world! And nothing can stop you.

So if you feel like you’re actually competing with your partner? That’s bad. It’s a sign of resentment toward each other when you’re always trying to one-up your boyfriend or girlfriend, or prove that you’re ‘better’ than they are.

13. Your Relationship is a Constant Power-Struggle

Who’s right? Who’s wrong? It doesn’t make a difference, because you’re too busy fighting. When your romance devolves into an eternal power-struggle to see who’s right and who’s wrong, there’s no time left to love or respect each other. You have to stop trying to be the victor and start trying to be a partner.

14. You’re Constantly Lying About Things

If you have to lie to your boyfriend or girlfriend all the time, it’s because there’s something very, very wrong. Either they’re overly jealous, or controlling, or whatever… but something is making you fabricate lies as to where you went, who you’ve been with, and what you’ve been doing without them… even if those things are completely innocent.

15. Your Friends and Family Don’t Approve of the Relationship

We all bring home people our parents (or friends) don’t like. That said, when you look around and suddenly you’re the only one who thinks your lover is a good person? Chances are he or she might be not so great a match for you. This could include all types of abuse; physical, emotional, verbal, mental… make sure this person loves you for who you are and isn’t trying to mold you into something they desire.

16. None of the Time You Spend is Quality Time

Just hanging out? Not really going anywhere or doing anything? That’s fine, as long as you’re having fun and loving the time you spend with your partner.

However, if you look back over the last half-dozen times you spent together and can only see the fights and arguments? That’s because you’re either spending too much time together, or you’re too busy resenting each other to spend that time doing quality things.

What to Do if Your Relationship is Toxic

If you find your romance has changed from something loving and great into something toxic, there might still be time to save it. Check out these two articles that give you step by step instructions on how to fix things between you, and put you back on the right track:

For girls: How to Rekindle the Romance with your Boyfriend

For guys: How to Make Your Girlfriend Fall Back in Love With You Again

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8 Totally Evil Ways You Can Make Your Ex Jealous

I get it… you’ve been trying all these things to get your boyfriend back and so far he hasn’t responded. You’re at the end of your rope. You don’t know what else to do…

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Relax. I got you.

Jealousy is the most powerful of all human emotions. It’s caused murders. It’s driven wars. And when it comes to grabbing your former boyfriend’s attention? Jealousy can be an invaluable tool… one you can use deviously, and with instant results.

Below is a list that’s not exactly for the faint of heart. If you’re not ready for some more radical moves that might win him back, maybe you should move on. But if you’re ready to try something new – and you’re brave enough to pull it off? Many of these techniques can put you back in the driver’s seat when it comes to making him DESIRE you again. And best of all, this will happen VERY quickly.

1. Look Wickedly Amazing

It should stand without reason that in order to get your boyfriend back, he needs to be physically and emotionally attracted to you. The physical part you can work at at the gym; no matter what shape you might be in right now, there’s always room for improvement.

Mentally, emotionally – chances are that right now at least, you aren’t in tip top shape. Getting into physical shape will boost your confidence, especially if you drop a few sizes and pick up some new clothes. This will improve your emotional state as well, as all these things tend to have cascading benefits.

When your ex sees you for the first time after the breakup, his tongue should hit the floor. If it doesn’t, you haven’t worked hard enough to make him jealous.

2. Hit Him in Places He Knows

No, not physically hit him. But you can emotionally hit him – or at least push him out of his comfort zone – by showing up in all the places he usually haunts. See, your boyfriend is expecting you to avoid him. He’s expecting that you’re so crushed, so upset, that just seeing him will make you a teary-eyed, emotional wreck.

This is where you prove him wrong. By being totally unafraid to face him, and by showing up with a big grin on your face? You’re showing your ex that NOTHING he did to you really matters. Your life is going on as normal, and if anything, he’s the one who should feel uncomfortable.

3. Smile, Nod, Laugh, Have Fun

Know what gives your ex the confidence to STAY broken up with you? Seeing you miserable. Not because he’s sadistic or anything, but seeing you miserable without him gives him the sense that HE was the important person in the relationship. That you needed him a whole lot more than he needed you.

So when he sees you laughing and smiling and having a great time WITHOUT him even in the picture? Well, this is where he starts questioning himself. He just dumped a girl who doesn’t seem to care that he’s gone, and not only that, she looks like she’s having the time of her life. This girl is FUN. This girl is LAUGHING. She also looks ten times more amazing than the last time he saw her! So what gives? Why isn’t he back with you? Maybe he should scoop you up quickly before someone else does…

Additionally, you might want to try these instant re-connection techniques the first time you run into your ex boyfriend. But read about them thoroughly before using them, because unless you execute them correctly they could possibly backfire.

4. Hang out With People Your Ex Doesn’t Like

Yeah, that’s right. Find the people your boyfriend always hated, and start going to the places he never wanted to take you to. This is a double-whammy, because it’s flaunting your happiness in the face of his misery.

It doesn’t matter if these people are men or women. All that matters is that you’re suddenly their ally, which will throw your ex boyfriend completely off his game. Remember: getting him to want you back is all about pushing him out of his comfort zone. He’d love nothing more for you to be sitting at home crying at the loss of the relationship rather than out doing things he would’ve traditionally been pissed about you doing.

5. Grab His Friends in the Divorce

Think just because your ex dumped you that you have to stop talking to, messaging with, or seeing his friends? Hell no. Because chances are, during the course of your relationship, HIS friends became YOUR friends.

Show your boyfriend you’re completely unafraid by getting all nice and cozy with the people he usually hangs out with. You don’t have to be obnoxious about it – in fact, you should be careful not to overdo it or he’ll realize why you’re doing it. However, there’s nothing keeping you from enjoying the same relationships with these people (or to make him REALLY jealous, even CLOSER relationships!) even after the two of you have broken up.

There are 3 more ultra-sneaky tricks that will make your ex jealous, but some of them are borderline criminal! Read them if you like, but use them with extreme caution…

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5 Things You MUST DO Immediately After Getting Dumped

When a relationship ends, one of two things can happen. Either you both walk your separate ways, or the two of you eventually decide give the romance a second chance.

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Now we all know people who have gotten back together. Couples who’ve broken up, missed each other, and ended up dating each other again.

When this happens, the reason is always the same: these people are still attracted to each other. They’d rather be together than apart, but most of all they still see value in each other.

Value in the relationship.

For this reason, what you do immediately AFTER your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you is the single most important factor in deciding whether or not they’ll want you back. Your actions, your attitude – these are things your ex is paying VERY close attention to, as they help them determine whether or not dumping you was the right decision.

The Main Reasons People Don’t Get Back Together

When people don’t get back together it’s usually because the ‘dumper’ is totally turned off by the ‘dumpee’. They do and say things that end up driving their partner away, even while they believe these actions will make their ex miss, love, and need them again.

In truth, it’s very easy to drive your ex away. The days and weeks after any breakup are a very fragile time, and the very things you’re doing to try and get back together can often be responsible for making sure your ex NEVER wants to date you again.

So what actions are good? Which ones are bad?

How can you bring your ex back to you – physically and emotionally – without destroying their opinion of you and making it so that they don’t really want you back?

Below you’ll find five post-breakup moves that are not only safe, they’re actually CRUCIAL to reversing your breakup. Stick to these and you’ll never push your ex away; in fact, you’ll actually be drawing them emotionally closer by making them need you again, in many of the original ways you first fell in love.

#1) Don’t Fight Your Ex’s Decision to Break Up

It’s the first thing that happens after you get dumped; you FIGHT.

You fight against the breakup. You fight to “save the relationship”. You even fight to find out why your boyfriend or girlfriend suddenly decided to end things, even though their decision was probably not that sudden at all.

All this fighting is something your lover expects. They came totally prepared for it. They have an answer for just about every one of your questions, and the ones they don’t have an answer for just make them clam up and say nothing.

And as you continue demanding explanations and begging them to reconsider? You devalue yourself. As a person, a partner, a potential boyfriend or girlfriend… you’re showing your ex that no matter what happens from this point out, YOU need them a whole lot more than THEY need you.

NEWSFLASH: You’ll never convince your ex not to break up with you during the initial ‘break up’ speech. At best you’re delaying the inevitable. At worst you’re forcing them to see you in the worst possible light, at your worst possible moment.

#2) Show Willingness to Walk Away From the Relationship

Instead of fighting, you need to demonstrate STRENGTH. This is what your partner secretly wants anyway, and it may very well be the reason they’re no longer into you.

So DON’T fight. DON’T argue. DON’T throw yourself at your ex’s feet, promise to ‘change’, beg or plead for them to reconsider… instead of doing all those pitiful, awful things, get up and JUST WALK AWAY.

That’s it. It’s really that simple. By walking away after your ex dumps you you’re refusing to show your cards. In a way, your refusal to argue is actually the same as counter-rejecting them. And this puts you in a much better position later on.

EVERY SINGLE MINUTE that you fight the breakup slips you one step further AWAY from reconciliation. The longer you take to accept and agree, the further you slide down that slippery slope. With each second that ticks by you’re giving your ex that much more power over you. And this is power you’ll need later on, when it’s time to use these reconnection techniques to draw your ex back into a relationship again.

#3) Refuse to Chase After Your Ex

Once you walk away? That’s IT. You’re done with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, at least for now.

Most people who get rejected end up chasing their ex in one way or the other. Whether it’s phone calls, text messages, or even just stalking your ex on their Instagram or Facebook accounts, this is probably the biggest of all possible blunders you can make (see this list of the 12 biggest breakup mistakes).

Chasing your ex looks desperate. It displays weakness, at a time when you need to be strong. It makes you seem needy, but more than that, it puts your ex up on a pedestal where even they start thinking they’re too good for you.

In addition, right after the breakup is when your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to see you the LEAST. Let’s face it, they dumped you because they’re sick of you, at least for now. So running after them at this point is only going to make them run harder, and since they’re the one with the head start you’re never going to catch them.

Eventually, if you do leave your ex alone for a while? They slowly begin to miss you again. They think about you MORE when you’re not around, and LESS when you’re constantly trying to get in touch with them. So by not chasing your ex you’re actually getting closer to catching them again. Just like by not chasing after a lost dog (which will only make it run away even faster) you can stop, kneel down, and let the puppy come to you.

#4) Disappear Like a GHOST

Want your ex to really miss you? Well then you’ve got to totally disappear.

When I say totally, I mean just that. It’s not enough that you don’t call or text message your ex. You have to disappear from the world of social media as well.

Think about it; if your ex dumped you, they’re going to look back at you to see what you do. They want to know how you’re handling it, and checking your Facebook and Twitter and Instagram accounts is a very good, very secretive way of checking up on you.

Now imagine your ex goes to look at these things and they see nothing. No updates. No activity at all. Suddenly, they begin to worry. Because instead of running home to change your status or throwing up sappy song lyrics all over your page, you haven’t done ANYTHING at all.

To your ex, this can only mean one thing: you’re out with someone else. You’re doing other things, and you’re having fun and living your life without them. This is exactly the opposite of what your boyfriend or girlfriend wants. They expect you to be doing the same old thing, so when you’re not, it puts them out of their comfort zone.

#5) Immediately Move on With Your Life

And speaking of being out with someone else? This is the BEST time in the world to do just that.

When your ex dumps you, the greatest revenge is living well. This means going out, having fun, and most important of all, being seen with OTHER people.

So go out on dates. Enjoy yourself. Don’t even hesitate for a second thinking you ‘need time’ or that it’s simply ‘too soon’ after your last relationship ended. Remember: you got DUMPED. Which means that you’re the “loser” of the relationship and your ex (for now at least) is the “winner”. To reverse those roles, you’ve got to show your former boyfriend or girlfriend that you don’t care at all about them anymore. Even if you totally do.

And no, going out with someone doesn’t mean you have to marry them. You’re simply having fun; taking a few dates here and there to get back on the proverbial horse. There’s nothing at all wrong with seeing someone else, and it’s a great way to make your ex totally jealous. In some cases it can jar your ex into taking action, because until you actually start dating again your breakup might not be final in your ex’s eyes.

So to know how they really feel about you? Let your boyfriend or girlfriend see you with your arm around someone else. If that’s not going to prompt a phone call or text message, nothing else will.

There are a list of signs and signals your ex will give off when he or she wants you back. Look out for them, and make sure you’re doing the right thing immediately after the breakup.

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21 Things That Will Get You Through Your Breakup

Losing a relationship is like losing a part of yourself. Especially if you’ve been dating for a while, and the two of you became entwined in each others’ lives.

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Still, a lot of people go through a breakup alone. They withdraw, and will often stick to themselves. Some even reach dangerous levels of depression.

But just like there are good relationships and bad ones, there are healthy and unhealthy ways to let go of someone even when you still love them. Learning how to break up is sometimes just as important as learning to fall in love, because very few of us find our soulmates the first time around.

Below is a list of ways you can help get over your ex. Learning these tactics will not only help you snap out of a bad breakup, they’ll actually help you be more attractive to everyone else, including the boyfriend or girlfriend who just dumped you.

Remove Reminders of Your Ex

The first thing you want to do, right off the bat, is to get rid of anything that will remind you of your past relationship. This includes photos, pictures, gifts, music… basically anything that you could glance at and your ex would suddenly spring to mind.

Now I know it’s not easy to just throw things things away – especially early on. This is why it’s good to just box everything up, tape the box tightly shut, and put it somewhere you won’t be tempted to look at or open it. This way you still have that stuff (on the off chance you can reverse your breakup), and a year or two from now you can deal with it much easier once any residual feelings have gone away.

Get Outside – Don’t Stay In

It’s natural to become sullen and withdrawn during a breakup. After all, a breakup is a rejection, and such a thing never makes anyone feel particularly good.

But you know what? The more you stay inside, the worse you’ll feel. The more you withdraw from friends and family, the more isolated and lost you’ll become.

So go outside, and get in the sun. Even if you just read a book or play some music, breathing in some fresh air will actually make you feel better. And if you have friends or family you can turn to? Go hang out with them. Staying busy is the purest and most effective way to get your mind off your breakup.

Exercise, Exercise, Excercise!

Want to clear your head, and everything in it? Hands down, NOTHING is better than exercise.

It doesn’t matter how you do it, but working out and getting your blood pumping will release natural endorphins that will always make you feel better. And no matter what thoughts are spinning through your head right now, a good run or a tough workout will eradicate every last one of them.

Exercise is good for your mind, body, and soul. You’ll feel better and look better, and with every drop of sweat your problems will seem to melt away. The best part of all? It’s free. It’s awesome. And you can do it every single day.

So join a gym, or go back to the one you stopped going to while you were busy dating your ex. Get involved in a spin class, a yoga class, or do Zumba, or kickboxing, or cardio.

Even better, go one step further and start doing 5k runs. Even if you can’t run fast you’ll find yourself next to hundreds of other people who simply walk them. You’ll meet new faces, start new conversations, and enjoy just being outdoors. Your ex? Your ex who?

Try Something Totally New

This is a good one to do with friends. Basically, pick something wild you’ve always SAID you were going to do. Maybe it’s scuba diving. Maybe it’s skydiving. Maybe it’s as simple as joining a team sport, or trying martial arts. Doesn’t matter really, just DO it.

You can also pick up new hobbies. Try something you’ve never done before, and take a few classes on it. Cooking classes are popular, or do pottery, or join a book club… whatever gets you out of the house and into a group setting is totally perfect for getting your mind off breaking up.

Start Dating New People

Yes, believe it or not, you CAN see other people. NO, it’s not “too soon”. NO, you don’t need some lame ‘mourning period’ to get over your ex.

Mourning periods suck, actually. They’re nothing more than a downgraded pity party you’ve somehow convinced yourself you’re entitled to. I’m not saying you should go out with just anyone, but you should be more than open to the idea.

And hey, you don’t have to fall in love either. Right now it’s about getting out and doing things. Having fun. Whomever makes you happiest, roll with that person, even if the relationship isn’t going anywhere serious. And if it is? Roll with that too. And try not to focus on your ex (or compare this new person to them). That will only make both of you miserable.

Other Ways to Get Over Your Breakup

If you’ve already tried the 6 Step to Get Back With Your Ex, and nothing’s worked? Well, it might be time to let go. But you want to let go the right way, otherwise you’ll be stuck in the past for a very long time.

First, try the Clear Mind Technique. The Free Video is Here. This is an amazing tool for relieving the pain of a breakup, and creating a calm place in your mind where you don’t have to feel sick, or anxious, or sad about losing your relationship anymore. Do it one time and you’ll see exactly what I mean.

Beyond that, you might be tempted to become “friends” with your ex. If that’s the case, make sure you read up on: What to Do When Your Ex Just Wants to Be Friends.

In any case, all breakups take time to heal. Emotional bonds don’t just dissolve overnight, and if its any comfort at all, your ex is going through many of the same symptoms of relationship withdrawal you are.

Ultimately however, it’ll all be okay. So chin up, get outside, and get OVER your ex!

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Texting Your Ex – 3 Fast Texts That Will Re-Open the Lines of Communication

It’s hard to stay silent after a breakup. Especially when so many connections still linger between you and your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.

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Some of those connections will be emotional. No matter how a relationship ends, it always began with fire and passion. The start of every romance is filled with overwhelming amounts of attraction, and in time, strong emotional bonds and feelings are formed that are most times hard to break.

Other connections will be electronic, such as Facebook, Instagram, and especially texting.

In fact, more than 75% of all breakups don’t end at the phone; texting between those people continue, whether they end up getting back together with an ex or not.

If you’re in the situation where you’d like to fix your breakup, you’ll need to know HOW and WHEN to communicate with your ex. Calling at the wrong time, or saying the wrong thing, can often lead to disastrous results. You may have already experienced some of that, and your breakup already got off on the wrong foot.

Texting, just like calling, has its own set of rules and etiquettes. Should you still text with your ex? When is it okay to send a message? Even more important: what should you text to your ex when you want them back?

Below are three very quick ways you can use text-messaging to break the awkward silence after a breakup. Read them carefully first, and before doing anything else, make sure you know every single one of the rules and regulations of post-relationship texting, as these will help prepare you for your former lover’s response.

#1) The ‘I’m on Your Side Now’ Text

Most people who get dumped fight too hard too soon. Yes, you want the relationship back, but what you don’t understand is that right now? Your ex will do everything in his or her power to deflect any points you might make in that regard.

The longer you try to get your ex back, the worse things get. Your former lover will see you as pushing too hard, not taking no for an answer, and looking totally lame (and desperate) in the process.

What your ex doesn’t expect however, is for you to suddenly be on the same page as them. Which is why this first text works so well:

“Hey, I’m totally with you now on the whole breakup thing. We really ARE better off apart. Sorry it took so long for me to get it, but at least I did
before we started hating each other (LOL). Take it easy!”

This is essentially a brush-off. Your ex already rejected you as a partner, and this is your chance to counter-reject them. And now that you’re NOT fighting them tooth and nail to stay together with them? Your ex sees you as more of an equal – and even an ally – rather than someone beneath them trying to claw their way back to their level.

This text might seem pretty final, yet it’s anything but. Consider it the first stepping stone on the road to getting back together again.

Here’s a great video all about this opening move. Be sure to watch the whole thing, because it helps you better visualize what to do next.

#2) The Congratulatory or Happy Birthday Text

The only contact you should be making with your ex right now is welcomed contact. Anything else, and your ex will take it as you grasping desperately to get the relationship back (and you never, ever want to look desperate).

Congratulations is always welcome, especially if it’s something you know your ex has been trying to do for a long time. So if your ex graduated? That’s a great text to send him or her. If your ex got a recent promotion, or bought a new car, or something else happened that’s good in their life? Again, this is a good excuse to send them a very small, very simple:

“Hey, I heard you finally got promoted. Good deal! Hope everything’s great by you.”

This is an ice-breaker, and an innocent one as well. It also works with birthdays. And the longer you dated your boyfriend or girlfriend? The better this techniques works. You already shared big parts of your lives with each other, so it will only seem natural to share a quick congratulations on something that happened afterward.

#3) The ‘Familiarity’ Text Message

With this one, you want to use something you know your ex is familiar with. Preferably something you shared or loved together, while you were still dating.

Did you like a certain movie, and the sequel is coming out? How about music; did you attend a concert together, and that band is coming around again? A television series you always watched, and a new season is coming out?

“Hey, Survivor starts tonight! Had to tell you, in case you forgot to set your DVR!”

This is a conversation-starter. Chances are good your ex will ask what this season of Survivor is about, and who might be on it. If the conversation goes well, you might mention how much you miss watching it together. And if it goes very well, maybe your ex will invite you over – platonically or not – to enjoy it with them.

Basically, you need to pick something that was ‘yours’ together. Something cool and fun that will spark nothing but good memories of old times between you. Your goal is to put yourself back in your ex’s head, without really doing anything obvious. This right here is a great way to do it.

There are many other ways to get your ex’s attention again, even without the use of text messages. But again, you need to know when to do it… how to do it… before even thinking about making that first, tentative contact.

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6 Huge Misconceptions About Staying Friends With Your Ex

“Let’s be friends…” Sounds good, right? As if you and your ex will still be able to see each other, talk to each other, even hang out together and have some more good times?

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It’s win-win for everyone, at least in your mind. The relationship is over but the contact doesn’t have to end.

The closeness you shared doesn’t have to go away, because you and your ex boyfriend or girlfriend are going to defy they odds; somehow, you’re going to make the post-breakup friendship work, even if it kills you. Right?

Yeah, right.

The sad truth of things is this: there are two possible scenarios after someone breaks up with you. One, is that you no longer want or need them in your life. And in that case, you go your separate ways.

The second scenario is where your lover breaks up with you, but you keep hanging on. Since you weren’t ready for the romance to end, you’re looking for any excuse – no matter how thin – to stay in touch and actually be with them again.

It’s for this reason that many people JUMP at the chance to “stay friends” when their ex offers it. They’re not ready to let go. They think that being friends with an ex can help get them back, or that eventually this person will realize how much they miss being your boyfriend or girlfriend, and jump back into a relationship with and date them again.

Unfortunately, it’s not even close to that easy.

Going from friends to lovers – after you’ve dated already – is mostly a fantasy. It happens in books, in movies. It happens in real life too, but the ‘lovers’ thing lasts only for one night, and afterward your ex goes back to their single life, leaving you feel used and cheated.

In short, you cannot be friends with an ex if you still love them.

PERIOD. End of story. If you’re honest with yourself and you know that you still have feelings, staying friends with this person is only going to hurt ten times as much.

And not only that… it’s going to push your ex away, too. Every breakup has a window of opportunity for reversing itself; EVERY single time someone dumps you there’s always a way back.

But when you become friends with that person? The road back into their heart becomes that much longer. It’s an uphill climb, and you’ve basically decimated your chances of making them need you again.

Below are 6 of the biggest myths involving getting back together after staying friends with your ex. By the time you’re finished reading them, you’ll understand exactly why the road back into your boyfriend or girlfriend’s heart does NOT lead through some made-up “friendship”.

Myth 1 – As Friends, You’ll Still Keep in Constant Contact

Sorry, but no. First of all, your ex dumped you for a reason. He or she no longer sees you as datable, and they’re going to be looking somewhere (and at someone) else.

So will your new ‘friend’ still call and text and email with you? Yeah, sure. For a while. But the second this person finds somebody else, or even gets interested in somebody else, that contact will drop off so fast it’ll make your head spin and your heart sink.

Also, the amount of contact will never be the same. It won’t be anywhere near the amount of texts and calls you made to each other during the relationship. As such, it’ll be a disappointment for you. You’ll wonder why your ex isn’t staying in touch as much as he or she used to, and that will make you wonder what ELSE they’re doing without you.

Myth 2 – As Friends, You and Your Ex Will Still Hang Out

Sure. Maybe. But again, nowhere NEAR as much as before.

For the most part, your ex will call you when they have nothing to do. Remember: they’re single now, and they’ve got a whole new list of things they can do without you.

This list includes seeing old friends, going places, being in groups where they can potentially meet other people… and you staying at home and watching these things from the outside. When your ex does include you in these events, you’ll watch jealously as your former boyfriend or girlfriend ends up talking to other people (and potential dates). You’ll feel awkward, having been downgraded to “just a friend”, and you won’t know where your place is.

And yes, your ex might even come over for sexual reasons. You’ll hook up, even though you’re no longer dating. The sex will be good, and you’ll have a great time, and in the back of your mind you’ll tell yourself that you can handle it. But you know what? You can’t. Because residual feelings and emotional bonds will make you want MORE than just friends with benefits.

Can sleeping with your ex help get them back? Read LOTS more about that here.

Myth 3 – Staying Friends Lets You Keep Track of Your Ex

Somewhat, yes. You’ll still be Facebook friends, you’ll still follow your ex on Instagram, and you’ll still be privy to some of the things he or she does every day.

Your ex will also call and text you. They’ll tell you about their day, get some advice from you at times, and all that other good stuff friends do. That part is true, to an extent.

But you know what? Anything your ex doesn’t want you to see will remain a mystery. Anything they think will hurt your feelings will be something they HIDE from you. And because you’re no longer dating this person, you can’t even push for details. You’re not entitled to know where your ex went anymore, or who he/she hung out with, or when they got back from the bar or club.

This will ultimately drive you crazy: the not knowing. Seeing only PART of the picture is worse than seeing nothing at all. You’ll have no power over your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend’s actions, and this will frustrate you lots more than if you didn’t know anything about their life. In that respect, being friends with an ex is worse than a standard breakup.

Myth 4 – Being Friends Will Draw You Closer Together

Another misconception is that friendship simplifies the relationship. You’re no longer dating so you no longer have to fight. No more arguing, no more petty jealousy, no more “you didn’t call or text me back…” – that stuff flies out the window, leaving behind a nice, peaceful interaction between the two of you.

To an extent this is actually true. However, understand that as the friendship goes on, your ex will ONLY see you as a friend. Eventually, that’s all you really become to them.

Why? Because you’ve made the whole thing so comfortable. You’ve created a situation that’s better than actually dating them. If your ex is enjoying most (or all) of the benefits of having you around, with none of the drawbacks or limitations of an actual relationship, why the HELL would he or she want to ever go back to dating you again? You’ve created a stress-free Utopian paradise that they’ll never really want to leave!

Myth 5 – Old Sparks Will Eventually Start Flying Again

Wrong. Mostly because being around each other is an awkward situation for the both of you.

Sorry, but this type of friendship is never TRULY a friendship. One person ‘won’ the breakup, and the other person lost it. The loser is you, which means that your boyfriend or girlfriend still holds all the cards right now. They know you still have feelings for them (no matter how well you’ve convinced yourself you’ve hidden it). And because of that, they’ll always hold power over you.

While you both pretend to be buddies with each other, your ex will never really open his or her heart to you. Not fully, and not while they still believe you WANT them.

Getting back together with an ex is all about making them NEED you again. They have to miss you. You have to actually go away.

None of those things happened so far, if you’re still palling around with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. They can’t possibly miss you when all they need to do is look down at their phone and see that you’ve been talking to them every single day.

Sexual sparks might fly, as we talked about above, but those will mostly be one-shot deals. Your ex will get horny, and you’ll be a very likely candidate for sex. Still, this doesn’t usually mean anything. And in the cases where the sex didn’t mean much to your ex, you’re definitely going to get hurt.

Myth 6 – Your Ex Will Ultimately ‘See the Light’ & Want You Back

It’s almost a bit sad, but this has to be said: your ex rejected you for a reason. And until you find out exactly what that reason was – and correct it – you’re never going to convince your ex to get back together as a couple with you.

Again, it goes back to comfort. As long as your former lover is made comfortable around you, he or she has ZERO INCENTIVE to take you back. First of all, it’s obvious you still want them. It’s obvious you’re staying friends with an ulterior motive. And as long as they know this? They’ll always feel comfortable in knowing they can get you back anytime they want to.

This keeps the breakup going. It makes it last and last. That’s because for your ex, there’s no downside. They get to play the field and look for someone better while you’re still circling around them in a holding pattern waiting for table scraps.

Harsh? Yeah. But it’s also the truth. And if you REALLY want a relationship rather than a friendship, you’re going to have to face those hard truths in order to get past the idea of “staying friends” after breaking up.

What to Do If You’ve Become Friends With Your Ex

Already friends with your ex? You have only one real opening move. The sooner you make it, the sooner you can break out of the Friend Zone and start on the actual path to winning your lover back.

Remember: the window of opportunity is there. But it doesn’t stay open forever. The longer you wait, the harder it gets. And the more you allow yourself to sink deeper and deeper into the role of “just a friend” with your ex? The further away you’ll always be.

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7 Quick Moves That Will Get Your Ex Back

When people get dumped, the only thing they can focus on is reversing the situation. They work night and day, they send text after text, make call after call… they do anything and everything to make their relationship right again, even if the things they are doing are all wrong.

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The problem is exactly that; everyone moves too quickly. They’re so desperate to get back together they don’t stop to recognize that the mistakes they’re making are killing their chances.

In the early stages, it’s often better to do nothing at all. Because when you’re committing some of the 12 biggest blunders that will drive your ex away, you would’ve been better off just sitting there and not doing anything.

That said, what about getting your ex back FAST?

Are there ways you can speed up the process of making your ex miss you? Make them need you back sooner, rather than later on?

Maybe even skip the whole No Contact phase?

Well, no. Unfortunately for everyone, No Contact is a necessary step in creating need for you again. But that’s not to say you have to sit there and do nothing during this crucial time. Because there are actions you can take – moves you can make – that will accelerate the later on phases of fixing your breakup.

The things you do NOW, immediately after your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you, can affect the speed at which you get back together when your ex finally does come around. For this reason, it’s important to learn exactly what to do, as well as what NOT to do, while working to make your lover want and need you back.

The following 7 actions will help you through the No Contact phase, and at the same time, create an environment where your ex starts itching to see or hear from you again. The more of these moves you can make, the quicker things will come together when it’s time to get back in touch with and finally contact your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend.

Agreeing With and Accepting The Breakup

Think you can “fight for” your relationship? Change your ex’s mind? Wrong. You can’t do either of those things, at least right now.

In the very beginning, the only thing you can do is ACCEPT the breakup. The sooner you do this the better off you’ll be, because you’ll look a lot less needy and desperate later on.

Nothing is going to fix your romance right away. 99% of the time, your ex wants to stew for a while. Either they’re mad at you, or disappointed, or whatever it is, but the hard truth of things is this: they no longer see you as valuable anymore.

Before they’ll even think of taking you back, you’ve got to prove them wrong. So arguing and fighting against the break right now is only going to make things worse. The best thing to do? Agree with it. And the best way to agree is to watch this opening moves video and follow these instructions exactly.

Removing Yourself From Social Media

Know what happens right after your ex dumps you? He or she looks back over their shoulder. They want to see where you go, what you do. How you handle things, or even better, mishandle them.

How are they going to do this? Facebook. Instagram. Texts from friends. Your ex is going to look at your photos and your updates and your status changes and he or she is going to gauge your reaction by watching what you do next.

The best thing to do here is absolutely nothing at all. Don’t even bother logging into social media for the first few days. If this is hard for you, TOUGH. You’ll need to make hard choices like this if you want to win your ex back.

Think about what happens when you completely disappear like this. Your ex has NO IDEA where you went. In vanishing, you create a void in your ex’s life where you used to be. They begin to bug out because they can’t find you; they don’t know where you are, who you’re with, or what you’re doing.

All of these thing will help spark renewed interest in you on your ex’s part. And this is exactly what you want at this stage of the game.

Rebuilding Yourself in Your Own Best Image

Let’s go back to when your ex first fell in love with you. What did you look like? How did you act?

Were you a lot cooler around your boyfriend or girlfriend? Did you act more confident? Did you enjoy yourself more, and by default, were you happier and more optimistic than you were at the end?

All relationships go through changes, and many of them are for the worse. When the honeymoon phase is over and the ‘glow’ wears off, people will often begin taking each other for granted. They begin fighting over stupid crap. They begin harboring jealousy over the dumbest of shit.

What you need to do is remember the beginning again. Recall how you were, and how you acted (and reacted) around your ex. Your probably laughed more, the both of you. You had more fun. The relationship was still young, and you were still out to impress each other.

These things are absolutely crucial to making your ex want you again. Later on during the process of getting back together, you’ll use nostalgia triggers to bring your boyfriend or girlfriend mentally – and emotionally – back to the beginning of your relationship. So when that finally happens? You’ll need to know exactly how to act.

Preparing Mentally For Your Reconciliation

There’s no hope for you if you’re a crying, sobbing wreck. Your lover isn’t going to take you back out of pity, or guilt, or any of those things, so dry your eyes and start getting yourself together emotionally for when you start communicating with your ex again.

Likewise, don’t be angry. No one likes a sarcastic, biting person who drops passive-aggressive comments because he or she still feels bitter about the breakup. No matter what happened to end your relationship, you need to get past it if you want any chance at all at getting back together. And yes, this even includes cheating.

So clear your mind. Mentally prepare yourself for the day you talk to your ex again. You’ll need to be cheerful and you’ll need to be optimistic. Maybe even forgiving too, if you were the person who got wronged.

Preparing Physically For Your Reconciliation

And how about physically? Were you in better shape when you first started going out? Did you dress better, look better, even smell better? If so, it’s time to get those things in order as well. Because the better you look, act, and feel, the greater your chances of keeping your ex attracted to you.

We all know looks aren’t everything. But when it comes to first impressions, you’ll need to do your best. At one time, before you even spoke to each other, you and your partner sized each other up physically. So if you want the best chance of getting back together again, make sure your ex likes what they see.

Yes, this means hitting the gym. It also means hitting the mall. Get new clothes, a new outfit, new shoes, new glasses. Grab a new tan. When these things start coming together, you’ll feel better about yourself. This will of course translate into renewed confidence, which is another big trigger in making your lover want you again.

Rebuilding Your Social Life in Fantastic Ways

At first, your ex will watch you disappear. They’ll wonder where you went. You’ll be a mystery for a while, and this is a good thing.

When you finally reappear? Things need to be AWESOME. No matter what you do, or where you go, it’s got to be the best thing and the best place ever.

At this point you’ll come back to social media. When your ex sees your posts, he or she will see you surrounded by friends and family. They’ll see you doing amazing things, going really cool places, and in every single picture, smiling like there’s no tomorrow. And this is because you’re not just ‘good’ after the breakup. You’re totally great.

Again, every ex on the planet wants to see their former lover fail. This isn’t because they’re hateful, it’s because we all like to think people are better off WITH us. So when your ex sees you having the time of your life without them? Two things happen.

One, your ex becomes jealous. After all, why weren’t you doing all these amazing things while you were together with them? Were they not worth it?

Two, your ex starts questioning the breakup. And this is because you seem to be needing them a LOT less than they think you did… which starts them along the path of “hey, maybe I actually needed this person MORE than they needed me.”

Allowing Your Ex to See You Out With Other People

This one is huge. Because as much as you probably think you’ll scare your ex away once they think you’ve started dating again, actually just the opposite happens.

When your ex sees you with someone else, they always want you more. This is because you’ve suddenly proved value. The person they dumped so callously is now on someone else’s arm, which makes them question whether they actually had something GOOD when they were with you.

And if you followed the other six moves? They will think that. All of a sudden your ex will be wracked with indecision. Haunted by regret over having let you go when someone else scooped you up so quickly.

And hey, you don’t need to ‘date’ date this person. All you need to do is go out with them. Even if it’s a casual acquaintance, your former boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t know that. Even if it’s nothing more than a platonic or practice date, it’s still something that will set your ex’s teeth on edge.

Other Ways to Get Your Ex to Want You Again

Fixing ANY breakup is essential about the same thing: reversing your current situation.

You want to reverse how your boyfriend or girlfriend sees you right now. You want to reverse the decision they made to end things. Ultimately, you want to reverse the steps that got you here. Walk backwards, up along the path that leads back into the really cool relationship you once had.

This is where Breakup Reversed takes over.

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This stand-alone, step-by-step system by relationship expert Robert Parsons has helped tens of thousands of couples reunite with one another and fix their broken relationships.

Over the course of more than a decade? Breakup Reversed has proved itself golden with a whopping, guaranteed 94.7% Success Rate!

This means that more than 9 out of 10 couples who employed these reversal techniques ended up reconciling in one way or another. For more information on that, check out the glowing reviews and testimonials as shown below.

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When it comes to breaking up, and making up, you only get one REAL shot at it. It’s not something you can keep trying over and over again when you get it wrong, because very quickly you’ll find that you’ve driven your partner away.

For this reason alone, you want to arm yourself with all possible knowledge before making a single move. And reading Breakup Reversed is like loading yourself to the max, and then approaching your breakup with all guns blazing.

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Why Does My Ex Still Text Me?

In the old days, a breakup was a breakup. You’d lose someone’s phone number, and you’d go on with your life.

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But in today’s digital age? There are still DOZENS of connections between you and your ex, even after the relationship ends. Photo albums, Facebook posts, Instagram messages, emails… and of course, the hundreds or even thousands of text messages you shared during the time when the two of you were dating.

So what does it mean when your ex is still texting you?

Why would he or she be keeping up text-message contact, even though you’re no longer together?

Sometimes the answer is simple; your ex is still thinking about you. You’ve left their life, maybe for good, but you still haven’t left their train of thought.

Imagine how many times you texted your boyfriend or girlfriend over the course of your romance with them. Every morning, every night… all through the day. So even now, their daily routine of talking to you is pretty standard. It’s still keeping you ‘together’, at least on a text-based level.

Other times, the answer is a bit more complicated. That’s because there are always residual feelings and emotions to deal with any time two people break up.

These are the deep-seeded ties that bound you while you were in love with each other. The ones that were so powerful in the beginning. The ones that made it so that you couldn’t keep away from each other, and wanted to spend every minute of every day together, no matter what.

And these powerful connections? They stick around for a while. They just don’t go instantly away because someone said three simple works: “let’s break up”.

An ex will text you for a number of reasons. All of them are generally signs of interest. So if you’re looking to patch things up, or try and get back together again? The fact that your ex is staying on touch with you, even on your tiny little 4-inch cellphone screen? Yeah, it’s still a pretty good thing.

The 8 Big Reasons You’ll Receive Texts From Your Ex

Below you’ll find a list of reasons why your ex is still texting you. Some mean little in the grand scheme of things, but others are a lot more telling when it comes to how your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend truly feels about you.

Your Ex Misses You… Big Time

Let’s face it, when dating someone you get used to spending an awful lot of time together. You see each other, open up about your lives, and tell each other all about daily events. It’s something you’re accustomed to, and so is your ex.

This is why you might still get the occasional message, even after being apart. Your ex is simply thinking about you. He or she misses the contact, and is reaching out for something as simple as someone to talk to, or to bounce ideas off of, like in the old days.

He or She is Used to Contacting You Every Day

Texting back and forth all day, every day, is something you’ve both taken for granted during your relationship. So if you’ve been doing it for months, even years? It’s something you – as well as your ex – might still be tempted to do.

A lot of times people think this type of text-messaging is innocent: “Oh, I like to talk to him/her, but I don’t want to get back together or anything…”

In reality? ALL texting means something. There’s no “innocent” contact when it comes to your ex, unless you’re making that one final phone call to get your stuff back. An ex who is still hammering out a bunch of small-talk on your cellphone all day is an ex who isn’t yet ready to lose you completely.

Your Ex Wants to Be Friends After the Breakup

This reason is always a hidden agenda. Believe me when I say there’s no such thing as 100% strictly platonic friends “with an ex”. That doesn’t happen, not even in movies.

Once you’re intimate with someone, that’s IT. The dynamic between you is forever changed. You know this. I know this. Everyone knows this. It’s common knowledge.

Yet some people will continue deluding themselves that somehow, some way, they can be ‘friends’ with someone they dated. As if one person doesn’t still love the other person just a little bit more… tilting the scales so that the balance of power always denotes a breakup “winner” and a breakup “loser”.

If your ex wants to be friends it’s because he or she WANTS something. Most of the time, it’s information. Your former boyfriend or girlfriend is looking to keep you in their life as a security blanket; something to hold onto in case being single doesn’t work out for them. Your “friendship” is a tool. A way for your ex to have his/her cake and eat it too.

Your Ex is Checking Up on You Through Your Phone

Other times, an ex will just want to see where you are. It’s comforting to know that you haven’t moved on, haven’t started dating, and didn’t meet anyone else since the two of you went your separate ways.

Why is this? Does your ex hate you? Do they want to see you fail? Well, no and yes. No, they don’t hate you. But yes, it’s human nature to want to see you worse off than when you were with them.

In short, your ex wants to be right. They would like to believe that breaking up with you was the right move, so they use text-messages to “keep in touch” under the guise of innocent contact. Which, of course, it’s not.

He or She Drunk Texted You

Drunk-calling has now been replaced by drunk texting. This is when it’s late at night, your ex has been drinking, and his or her thoughts inevitably turn toward you.

This is a HUGE SIGN OF INTEREST! Being drunk, your defenses are always down. That’s when your true feelings rise to the surface, unhindered by any inhibitions or walls you may have been putting up.

This means your ex secretly thinks about you a lot more than you think. The alcohol acts as a catalyst for contact; rather than refrain from calling or texting you while they were sober, your drunk exboyfriend or exgirlfriend is free to do whatever they want… and blame it on the alcohol later on.

Your Ex is Nostalgic About Your Past History Together

Know why people get back together? Because the beginning of every relationship is AMAZING.

Think about that. Go back to those first few weeks (a.k.a. the ‘honeymoon phase’) of your relationship and tell me it wasn’t the best thing in the whole world. Tell me the feelings weren’t explosively powerful. Tell me the sex wasn’t Rock Star levels of Godliness.

When your ex is lonely, he or she will think back to those early times. The good times, before all the bullshit. Before all the fighting and arguing and stupid jealousy that probably broke you up.

Fixing a breakup is all about bringing these feelings back again. There are some really great methods and techniques for making your ex remember how much they really love being with you, if you’re willing to sit down and learn them.

Your Ex Wants to Hook Up, Meet Up, Have Sex, Etc…

This one is the Booty Call. The unapologetic “hey, let’s hang out” text that ends up in bed with the two of you rolling around naked. And hey, that’s okay. Sex is actually a big part of getting back together.

Take this text for what it is; your ex is still physically attracted to you. Whether or not that leads to a more emotional and permanent connection is still up in the air, but at least you’re moving in the right direction.

Your Ex is Feeling You Out on the Subject of Getting Back Together

In the final stages of a breakup, right before you get back together again, your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend will try and gauge your feelings. They’d like to know that if they suggested giving your romance another chance, they’re not going to be rejected or shot down.

That’s where this text comes in. Your partner will usually be more overt about his or her intentions here, asking factual questions about where you are, how you’ve been doing (emotionally), and whether or not you’re dating someone else. You’ll also get “do you miss me?” and “do you remember when we used to XYZ?” a lot, which is his or her way of trying to remind you of how good you were together.

A former lover who gets nostalgic or reminiscent about the past is a lover who wants to create future times with you. So yeah, your ex is probably about to ask you out again. Roll with it, if that’s what you want, and encourage such contact. Then see where it goes.

Other Signs Your Ex Still Loves You

In the end, there are lots of signs and signals your ex boyfriend or girlfriend will give off when they’re showing interest in you again. Spotting these signs, and then knowing what to do about them? Well, that’s the tricky part.

Why does me ex text me? Truth is, it’s an extension of your past relationship. Breakups HURT. Messaging back and forth can alleviate that pain, even if just for a little while.

All said, timing is everything when it comes to reconciling. You need to make the right moves, at the right times, while avoiding all of the wrong ones.

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Want Your Girlfriend Back? Don’t Make ANY of These 4 Mistakes!

The road to getting back together can be long or short. Unfortunately, it can also be a marathon.

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If you get too eager or too desperate, your actions can drive your girlfriend completely away. At best, she’ll be annoyed with you. At worst, it can change the way she sees you forever… in some very negative ways.

Again, fixing a breakup is often about what you don’t do. Some guys are so eager to take action – any kind of action – that they’ll trip over their own feet in an effort to fix things that aren’t even broken.

Below are a list of horrendous mistakes you can make while trying to convince a girlfriend to take you back. Make just a few of these blunders, and you’ll lose any shot you have of regaining your old relationship.

Sulking, Crying, Acting Like The World is Ending

Some guys wear their heart on their sleeve. And you know what? Sappy movies, bad TV shows, and Cosmopolitan have done their level best to convince guys to be more emotional. That’s it’s okay to cry, or show their softer side, because girls LOVE that sort of thing.

But nope. Not after a breakup.

There’s no planet in this universe where pity actually works. All the crying in the world isn’t going to make her want you again, and in fact, it’ll make you look like a weak-willed douche. The kind of pansy ANY girl shies away from dating, because that type of person isn’t even a man. You’re a boy at best, crying and sulking and trying to trick your girlfriend into feeling sorry enough for you that she wants to end your pain by agreeing to go back out with you.

Sulking is the WORST thing you can do after a break. It’s a huge turnoff. Your friends, your family – maybe they’ll feel a bit sorry for you, but when it comes to your girlfriend you’re basically telling her “I am no longer boyfriend material.”

Getting Angry or Bitter About the Breakup

In this pathetic display of “strength” you launch a major offensive. Maybe even a verbal (or sometimes physical) tirade against all the wrongs and injustices your girlfriend committed during the course of your relationship.

And guess what? You come off as a crybaby. A bitter asshole she’s glad to be rid of. You’re exhibiting the exact immaturity she doesn’t want in a potential partner, and you’re justifying her decision to break up with you as the RIGHT decision.

You Threaten to Harm Yourself (or Worse, Your Girlfriend)

You shouldn’t be dumb enough to try this one, but I’ll talk about it anyway: YOU’LL NEVER FORCE YOUR GIRLFRIEND BACK INTO A RELATIONSHIP with threats of bodily harm, suicide, or any of that stupid baby bullshit. You’re throwing a tantrum and that’s all it is – that’s all it should ever get recognized for.

Yes you may be frustrated. Yes, it may seem like your girlfriend isn’t answering your calls or listening to your voicemails or responding to your text messages. But that’s fine. There are other ways of getting her to talk to you rather than threatening her, or yourself, with violence.

Never go this route when trying to get your ex back, even if you’re desperate. At best you look like a complete psychopath. At worst you’ll end up in jail, or with an ambulance called to your house by your exgirlfriend because you threatened to hurt yourself.

You Beg Your Girlfriend ‘For Another Chance’ and ‘Promise to Change’

Number one, your girlfriend doesn’t want to give your relationship another chance (at least right now). Number two, begging and pleading are wholly unattractive, especially to a woman, and especially when you’re trying to get that woman to consider you as her ‘man’ again.

A man doesn’t beg. He doesn’t plead. He doesn’t make lame-sounding promises that “things will be different”. A MAN actually walks AWAY after someone dumps him, as if hey, guess what? He’s going to be happier and better off without this person who rejected him anyway.

This sounds like callous macho bullshit, but in reality this is exactly what will turn your girlfriend around. Because the more you beg and plead and act like you actually did something wrong the more it makes you guilty. Guilty of what? Of anything, really. Doesn’t matter, because in looking ‘wrong’ about the relationship it ratifies your girlfriend’s decision to end things.

In re-attracting your girlfriend, indifference is key. You don’t have to be a jerk to her, and you don’t have to treat her like crap. But you DO have to act as if you could care less whether or not you get back together with her. Do that, and you’ll fill her mind with doubt. Do that, and you’ll soon find HER chasing YOU.

Positive Traits That Will Get Your Girlfriend Back

Now that you’ve learned what NOT to do after your girl breaks up with you, it’s time to learn what you can. Here’s a complete list of traits and behaviors women find attractive in men. Learn these well, and you’ll not only fix your breakup, but you’ll master the art of dealing with women as well.

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