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Boyfriend Wants Space? Here are 3 Things You MUST DO

“I just want some space…”

Is that what he said? Or maybe he worded it differently. “Maybe we should take some time apart?” Or the dreaded: “I just need time to think?”

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It doesn’t matter how your boyfriend said it, he always means the same thing: we’re about to break up.

Unless, of course, you know EXACTLY what to do.

Right here, right now, your boyfriend has just checked you into relationship limbo. He’s effectively saying “Don’t call me, I’ll call you.”

So you begged. You pleaded. You told him you’d “change”. In the end you let him know that you really don’t want time apart, but if he really needs it, you’ll give it to him. Right?

Well, that’s about the worst possible thing you could’ve done.

Understand something: when a guy asks for “space” what he really wants is permission to date other girls. What he’s really saying here is “hey, stick around for a while and don’t go anywhere… but at the same time, I’m free to look for other people.”

If you’re not looking to break up with your boyfriend, and you want to get your relationship back on track? You’re going to need to do three things. Here they are:

Refuse the Whole “Time Apart” Bullshit

Your boyfriend offers a time-out from your relationship, or needs space, or wants time to think… but rather than be the good little girlfriend who’s going to give him exactly that, you’re going to do the opposite. You tell him:

“No, sorry. I don’t do ‘space’. If you want to break up, fine, we’ll break up. But I’m not half-assing it, and I’m not waiting around.”

This is exactly what your guy doesn’t want to hear. The fact that he might lose you during the whole “time off” thing is going to freak him out, mainly because he thinks he can control you during this temporary breakup.

Putting your boyfriend on his back foot is the best way to make him realize you as VALUABLE. He’ll never be forced to really see you that way unless you respect yourself enough not to fall for this crap when he first pulls it.

Pre-Emptively Break Up with Him

At this point, the best thing to do is get pissed. Turn to him and say:

“Know what? If you’re really not sure about this whole thing, then I’m not either. Maybe we should just put an end to it completely, and both move on with our lives.”

This is going to scare your boyfriend right down to his balls. Why? Because he DOESN’T WANT THIS. He wanted a nice cushy little “break” where you kept calling and kept texting and kept telling him you loved him. Instead, you just broke up with him… throwing him for a complete loop.

Walk Away While You Have the Upper Hand

And after you tell him you want a breakup? WALK AWAY. Don’t look back, don’t answer your phone, and don’t respond to his text messages.

Your boyfriend will be left with the feeling that he really messed up. He screwed things big time, and he got exactly the opposite of what he wanted.

Most of all, he now stands to actually LOSE you. The fact that you’re not going to be his girlfriend anymore and he might lose you to someone else is going to create instant value in his eyes. Suddenly you’re a commodity he stands to be without, and he’s not going to want that.

Remember: your boyfriend doesn’t want a breakup. He wants a “temporary break”. This is a cowardly way of trying to keep stringing you along (which is what he wants), and now it just backfired in his face.

Now, if the whole “I need some space” thing already happened, and you missed your chance to do these three things? That’s okay. There’s still a backup plan.

First, look for the 7 signs he still loves you. These are easy-to-spot signals your boyfriend will give off when he’s really not ready to lose you.

Beyond that, there’s this One Opening Move guaranteed to make your ex almost immediately want you back! Make sure you do this one early though, because the longer you wait the harder it will be to pull it off.

In the end, NEVER accept the whole “I need space” excuse. Sitting around and waiting for your boyfriend to get back to you is almost always going to lead to a permanent breakup.

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Ex Back Review: The Magic of Making Up

You’ve heard of it. You’ve read about it. Maybe you’ve even seen one or more of T.W. Jackson’s absolutely infamous free opening moves videos in regards to breaking up.

Either way, The Magic of Making Up has been THE go-to guide for more than a decade when people are going through the very worst case scenario: an unwanted breakup.

Magic of Making Up EBook

The thing about Magic is that it’s more than just a collection of advice on what you can do to get your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back. It’s a STEP-BY-STEP SYSTEM that shows you exactly where you stand with your ex, where you need to be in the long run… and then it maps out an exact plan of attack showing you precisely how to get there.

And if you’re like most people? You want to get there in the shortest period of time possible. You don’t want to wait months before talking to your ex again, or risk losing your former boyfriend or girlfriend to the next person who comes along.

Relationship MASTER T.W. Jackson understands that your ex isn’t going to wait around forever, which is why he cuts through the bullshit and shows you some of the most down and dirty tricks and secrets you can use to mentally and emotionally manipulate your ex into not only wanting you back, but even BEGGING your forgiveness for leaving in the first place.

The Secrets of The Magic of Making Up EBook

One of the biggest concepts you’ll learn about in Magic is the idea that the more mistakes you make early on in your breakup? The harder it will always be to get your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend back. This is because you change the very way they see you; their opinion drops from a high level to a low one, simply because you’re doing EXACTLY the wrong things to make them see in you a favorable light.

For this reason, Jackson came up with The Calm Mind Technique. Watch this simple video and in just minutes you can learn how to clear your head of all the drama, pain, anxiety, and insecurity that’s associated with being dumped.

And once your mind is clear? You follow a much more logical – and attractive – overall thought process. Instead of being needy, you become independent. Instead of seeming insecure, you appear confident and even indifferent toward the breakup. Best of all, your heart will stop hurting.

Once you’ve stopped doing things that will drive your ex screaming in the opposite direction (i.e. constantly calling, excessively texting, acting bitter, acting angry, acting hurt, etc…) T.W. Jackson starts showing you the right things to do. And this is where the step-by-step process comes into play, because not everyone is in the same initial place when they arrive at this book.

The Magic of Making Up Videos

The videos of T.W. Jackson are a crucial part of the overall Magic process. Face to face, “T-Dub” explains the ins and outs of what your ex is going through after they disconnect from your relationship. You’ll learn which things to stay away from, and which things to focus on.

You’ll learn which reconnection techniques will be successful in making your ex come BACK to you, even getting them to call or text you within only hours or days.

You’ll find out why it’s so important to keep your emotions in check. To keep your true feelings for your ex guarded – at least for now – before you’re able to draw them toward you again. Coming on too strong, or not seeming as if you’re “accepting” of the breakup will keep your ex at an uncomfortable distance. Jackson shows you how to get past all that, and to make it so things aren’t so very weird between the two of you.

Things You’ll Learn Within the Magic of Making Up System

  • How to figure out why your ex really ended the relationship (it’s never exactly what your boyfriend or girlfriend actually tells you)
  • The best ways to get back on neutral ground, especially if you feel like everything you’re doing is pushing your ex away (because you’re working from a position of disadvantage)
  • Why NOT apologizing is probably your best course of action in getting your ex to feel like they need YOU back (rather than the other way around)
  • The 7 biggest signs your ex is still in love with you, and what you can do to use those feelings as leverage in getting them back.
  • The fastest way to make your ex miss you again (which is almost exactly the opposite of what you’re probably doing right now)
  • One very powerful bonding secret that will put your boyfriend or girlfriend instantly on your side again.
  • How to steal your ex back EVEN if they’re dating another person. Find out which nostagia tactics will rip your ex from the arms of their new lover and send them running back to you.
  • T.W. Jackson’s patented “fast-forward technique”, which can bypass the entire opening phase of the breakup and move you straight to where the healing – and reconciliation – begins

Of course there’s much more involved – too much to list here – but these are touchpoints on some of the bigger issues. Once you recognize that fixing your breakup is not about brute force and more about finesse, you’ll be able to use the above tactics to finesse your ex into wanting and needing that very magical, original relationship you once had together.

If you do nothing else, at least watch this opening moves video. It shows you the FIRST thing you need to do right after getting dumped, even if you happened to get dumped days or even weeks ago.

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5 Things You MUST DO Immediately After Getting Dumped

When a relationship ends, one of two things can happen. Either you both walk your separate ways, or the two of you eventually decide give the romance a second chance.

Getting Dumped Anthony Malibu

Now we all know people who have gotten back together. Couples who’ve broken up, missed each other, and ended up dating each other again.

When this happens, the reason is always the same: these people are still attracted to each other. They’d rather be together than apart, but most of all they still see value in each other.

Value in the relationship.

For this reason, what you do immediately AFTER your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you is the single most important factor in deciding whether or not they’ll want you back. Your actions, your attitude – these are things your ex is paying VERY close attention to, as they help them determine whether or not dumping you was the right decision.

The Main Reasons People Don’t Get Back Together

When people don’t get back together it’s usually because the ‘dumper’ is totally turned off by the ‘dumpee’. They do and say things that end up driving their partner away, even while they believe these actions will make their ex miss, love, and need them again.

In truth, it’s very easy to drive your ex away. The days and weeks after any breakup are a very fragile time, and the very things you’re doing to try and get back together can often be responsible for making sure your ex NEVER wants to date you again.

So what actions are good? Which ones are bad?

How can you bring your ex back to you – physically and emotionally – without destroying their opinion of you and making it so that they don’t really want you back?

Below you’ll find five post-breakup moves that are not only safe, they’re actually CRUCIAL to reversing your breakup. Stick to these and you’ll never push your ex away; in fact, you’ll actually be drawing them emotionally closer by making them need you again, in many of the original ways you first fell in love.

#1) Don’t Fight Your Ex’s Decision to Break Up

It’s the first thing that happens after you get dumped; you FIGHT.

You fight against the breakup. You fight to “save the relationship”. You even fight to find out why your boyfriend or girlfriend suddenly decided to end things, even though their decision was probably not that sudden at all.

All this fighting is something your lover expects. They came totally prepared for it. They have an answer for just about every one of your questions, and the ones they don’t have an answer for just make them clam up and say nothing.

And as you continue demanding explanations and begging them to reconsider? You devalue yourself. As a person, a partner, a potential boyfriend or girlfriend… you’re showing your ex that no matter what happens from this point out, YOU need them a whole lot more than THEY need you.

NEWSFLASH: You’ll never convince your ex not to break up with you during the initial ‘break up’ speech. At best you’re delaying the inevitable. At worst you’re forcing them to see you in the worst possible light, at your worst possible moment.

#2) Show Willingness to Walk Away From the Relationship

Instead of fighting, you need to demonstrate STRENGTH. This is what your partner secretly wants anyway, and it may very well be the reason they’re no longer into you.

So DON’T fight. DON’T argue. DON’T throw yourself at your ex’s feet, promise to ‘change’, beg or plead for them to reconsider… instead of doing all those pitiful, awful things, get up and JUST WALK AWAY.

That’s it. It’s really that simple. By walking away after your ex dumps you you’re refusing to show your cards. In a way, your refusal to argue is actually the same as counter-rejecting them. And this puts you in a much better position later on.

EVERY SINGLE MINUTE that you fight the breakup slips you one step further AWAY from reconciliation. The longer you take to accept and agree, the further you slide down that slippery slope. With each second that ticks by you’re giving your ex that much more power over you. And this is power you’ll need later on, when it’s time to use these reconnection techniques to draw your ex back into a relationship again.

#3) Refuse to Chase After Your Ex

Once you walk away? That’s IT. You’re done with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, at least for now.

Most people who get rejected end up chasing their ex in one way or the other. Whether it’s phone calls, text messages, or even just stalking your ex on their Instagram or Facebook accounts, this is probably the biggest of all possible blunders you can make (see this list of the 12 biggest breakup mistakes).

Chasing your ex looks desperate. It displays weakness, at a time when you need to be strong. It makes you seem needy, but more than that, it puts your ex up on a pedestal where even they start thinking they’re too good for you.

In addition, right after the breakup is when your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to see you the LEAST. Let’s face it, they dumped you because they’re sick of you, at least for now. So running after them at this point is only going to make them run harder, and since they’re the one with the head start you’re never going to catch them.

Eventually, if you do leave your ex alone for a while? They slowly begin to miss you again. They think about you MORE when you’re not around, and LESS when you’re constantly trying to get in touch with them. So by not chasing your ex you’re actually getting closer to catching them again. Just like by not chasing after a lost dog (which will only make it run away even faster) you can stop, kneel down, and let the puppy come to you.

#4) Disappear Like a GHOST

Want your ex to really miss you? Well then you’ve got to totally disappear.

When I say totally, I mean just that. It’s not enough that you don’t call or text message your ex. You have to disappear from the world of social media as well.

Think about it; if your ex dumped you, they’re going to look back at you to see what you do. They want to know how you’re handling it, and checking your Facebook and Twitter and Instagram accounts is a very good, very secretive way of checking up on you.

Now imagine your ex goes to look at these things and they see nothing. No updates. No activity at all. Suddenly, they begin to worry. Because instead of running home to change your status or throwing up sappy song lyrics all over your page, you haven’t done ANYTHING at all.

To your ex, this can only mean one thing: you’re out with someone else. You’re doing other things, and you’re having fun and living your life without them. This is exactly the opposite of what your boyfriend or girlfriend wants. They expect you to be doing the same old thing, so when you’re not, it puts them out of their comfort zone.

#5) Immediately Move on With Your Life

And speaking of being out with someone else? This is the BEST time in the world to do just that.

When your ex dumps you, the greatest revenge is living well. This means going out, having fun, and most important of all, being seen with OTHER people.

So go out on dates. Enjoy yourself. Don’t even hesitate for a second thinking you ‘need time’ or that it’s simply ‘too soon’ after your last relationship ended. Remember: you got DUMPED. Which means that you’re the “loser” of the relationship and your ex (for now at least) is the “winner”. To reverse those roles, you’ve got to show your former boyfriend or girlfriend that you don’t care at all about them anymore. Even if you totally do.

And no, going out with someone doesn’t mean you have to marry them. You’re simply having fun; taking a few dates here and there to get back on the proverbial horse. There’s nothing at all wrong with seeing someone else, and it’s a great way to make your ex totally jealous. In some cases it can jar your ex into taking action, because until you actually start dating again your breakup might not be final in your ex’s eyes.

So to know how they really feel about you? Let your boyfriend or girlfriend see you with your arm around someone else. If that’s not going to prompt a phone call or text message, nothing else will.

There are a list of signs and signals your ex will give off when he or she wants you back. Look out for them, and make sure you’re doing the right thing immediately after the breakup.

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How to Get Your Ex to See You – The Reunion Date

Some breakups are stubborn, and filled with signs and mixed signals. Your ex still talks to or communicates with you, maybe by text message, maybe by phone call. But for some reason that you can’t quite understand, your boyfriend or girlfriend still won’t see you.

Reunion Date Anthony Malibu

This is tough, especially if you’re trying to get back together. Face to face contact is one of the last of the 6 steps needed for reversing your breakup.

So can you make your ex want to see you?

Are there ways you can make them miss you, so much to the point where phone calls or text-messages aren’t cutting it, and your ex actually asks to see you in a one-on-one setting?

Below you’ll find tips and tricks for communicating with your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend, and ultimately, learn how to get them to meet up with you.

Remember; all contact you have with your ex needs to be positive contact. Read everything carefully, and understand that sometimes the best course of action is to sit back and let your ex actually come to YOU.

Withdrawal Techniques That Will Make Your Ex Need to See You Again

First and foremost, you will never be able to fix your breakup until a singularly important thing takes place: your ex must miss you.

For most people, this means the No Contact phase. We’ve all heard those words, and it seems like an awfully long time to wait around feeling powerless while your former boyfriend or girlfriend runs out and does whatever they want. But you know what? You’re not nearly as powerless as you think you are.

So while you’re steering clear of social media, not bothering your ex, and waiting out the No Contact portion of the breakup? Check out this list of 4 groundbreaking moves you should be making right now, rather than sitting on your ass and feeling sorry for yourself.

Meeting Your Ex After the Breakup

Get this through your head: your ex is just as nervous seeing you as you are seeing them. Which means that if you can stay calm, keep your cool, and maintain total confidence? You’ll have the upper hand during the reunion date.

If your ex suggested the meeting place, you’ll need to roll with it. But if he or she leaves it up to you? Pick a spot that’s quiet. Intimate. You want to generate a little romance here, and bring some of those old emotional attachments back to the surface again. Even as you play it cool, it never hurts to be in the right setting, so keep that in mind when arranging a date and time.

Look and Feel Absolutely Amazing

This should go without saying, really. In meeting your ex again for the first time, you’ll want to look even better than you did the first time the two of you got together. You want to create an instant chemistry between you, and physical attraction is a big part of that equation.

So get to the gym, lose weight, tone up, feel better – these are all things you should’ve been doing from the very first day of your breakup. Additionally, hit some stores. Buy some new clothes – something that looks fantastic, and something your ex has never seen you in before. Wear those clothes to the reunion date and shock the hell out of your former boyfriend or girlfriend in a very good way.

And part of this is mental, too. You can’t go into the meeting feeling sullen or withdrawn, shaky or insecure. You should go in HAPPY. Not overly-excited to see your ex (which might come off as needy), but excited in general because life is going great for you. It’s imperative that your ex sees this, as it will give you VALUE again.

Don’t Talk About the Past – Or About Your Breakup

Getting back together is like selling something. In this case, you’re selling yourself. So right now? It’s not the time to bring up the past. Now is definitely not the time to pick at old wounds or point fingers at the problem(s) that drove you apart in the first place.

You want your ex to feel COMFORTABLE. This will make them want to see you again, even if the first date doesn’t end with the two of you rolling around back in bed together. So while you’re talking? Laugh. Make your ex laugh. Make them feel as if they’re on a first date, but without all the unknowns. It should feel fun and yet familiar again, like it did in the beginning.

Take Particular Note of Your Ex’s Body Language

When someone’s flirting with you, you’ll know it. Especially someone you once dated, and have already been intimate with.

So if your ex is leaning in? Smiling? Making solid eye contact, or even touching your hand as he or she speaks? Roll with those signals and make sure you reciprocate.

Remember; your former boyfriend or girlfriend wants to know that you’ll take them back (before they take action). So you’ll need to give off some signals of your own here. But make sure you’re not being too pushy, and make sure you know the signs and signals that your ex still has feelings for you. These are important, because they can help you with the overall timing of getting back together.

In the end, realize that if you’ve gotten to the point where your ex is willing to see you, you’ve already (almost) won the battle. So don’t blow it!

Learn the 12 biggest mistakes people make after a breakup (and during the reunion date) and you’ll ensure that reconciliation is only another date away.

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21 Things That Will Get You Through Your Breakup

Losing a relationship is like losing a part of yourself. Especially if you’ve been dating for a while, and the two of you became entwined in each others’ lives.

How to Get Over Breakup

Still, a lot of people go through a breakup alone. They withdraw, and will often stick to themselves. Some even reach dangerous levels of depression.

But just like there are good relationships and bad ones, there are healthy and unhealthy ways to let go of someone even when you still love them. Learning how to break up is sometimes just as important as learning to fall in love, because very few of us find our soulmates the first time around.

Below is a list of ways you can help get over your ex. Learning these tactics will not only help you snap out of a bad breakup, they’ll actually help you be more attractive to everyone else, including the boyfriend or girlfriend who just dumped you.

Remove Reminders of Your Ex

The first thing you want to do, right off the bat, is to get rid of anything that will remind you of your past relationship. This includes photos, pictures, gifts, music… basically anything that you could glance at and your ex would suddenly spring to mind.

Now I know it’s not easy to just throw things things away – especially early on. This is why it’s good to just box everything up, tape the box tightly shut, and put it somewhere you won’t be tempted to look at or open it. This way you still have that stuff (on the off chance you can reverse your breakup), and a year or two from now you can deal with it much easier once any residual feelings have gone away.

Get Outside – Don’t Stay In

It’s natural to become sullen and withdrawn during a breakup. After all, a breakup is a rejection, and such a thing never makes anyone feel particularly good.

But you know what? The more you stay inside, the worse you’ll feel. The more you withdraw from friends and family, the more isolated and lost you’ll become.

So go outside, and get in the sun. Even if you just read a book or play some music, breathing in some fresh air will actually make you feel better. And if you have friends or family you can turn to? Go hang out with them. Staying busy is the purest and most effective way to get your mind off your breakup.

Exercise, Exercise, Excercise!

Want to clear your head, and everything in it? Hands down, NOTHING is better than exercise.

It doesn’t matter how you do it, but working out and getting your blood pumping will release natural endorphins that will always make you feel better. And no matter what thoughts are spinning through your head right now, a good run or a tough workout will eradicate every last one of them.

Exercise is good for your mind, body, and soul. You’ll feel better and look better, and with every drop of sweat your problems will seem to melt away. The best part of all? It’s free. It’s awesome. And you can do it every single day.

So join a gym, or go back to the one you stopped going to while you were busy dating your ex. Get involved in a spin class, a yoga class, or do Zumba, or kickboxing, or cardio.

Even better, go one step further and start doing 5k runs. Even if you can’t run fast you’ll find yourself next to hundreds of other people who simply walk them. You’ll meet new faces, start new conversations, and enjoy just being outdoors. Your ex? Your ex who?

Try Something Totally New

This is a good one to do with friends. Basically, pick something wild you’ve always SAID you were going to do. Maybe it’s scuba diving. Maybe it’s skydiving. Maybe it’s as simple as joining a team sport, or trying martial arts. Doesn’t matter really, just DO it.

You can also pick up new hobbies. Try something you’ve never done before, and take a few classes on it. Cooking classes are popular, or do pottery, or join a book club… whatever gets you out of the house and into a group setting is totally perfect for getting your mind off breaking up.

Start Dating New People

Yes, believe it or not, you CAN see other people. NO, it’s not “too soon”. NO, you don’t need some lame ‘mourning period’ to get over your ex.

Mourning periods suck, actually. They’re nothing more than a downgraded pity party you’ve somehow convinced yourself you’re entitled to. I’m not saying you should go out with just anyone, but you should be more than open to the idea.

And hey, you don’t have to fall in love either. Right now it’s about getting out and doing things. Having fun. Whomever makes you happiest, roll with that person, even if the relationship isn’t going anywhere serious. And if it is? Roll with that too. And try not to focus on your ex (or compare this new person to them). That will only make both of you miserable.

Other Ways to Get Over Your Breakup

If you’ve already tried the 6 Step to Get Back With Your Ex, and nothing’s worked? Well, it might be time to let go. But you want to let go the right way, otherwise you’ll be stuck in the past for a very long time.

First, try the Clear Mind Technique. The Free Video is Here. This is an amazing tool for relieving the pain of a breakup, and creating a calm place in your mind where you don’t have to feel sick, or anxious, or sad about losing your relationship anymore. Do it one time and you’ll see exactly what I mean.

Beyond that, you might be tempted to become “friends” with your ex. If that’s the case, make sure you read up on: What to Do When Your Ex Just Wants to Be Friends.

In any case, all breakups take time to heal. Emotional bonds don’t just dissolve overnight, and if its any comfort at all, your ex is going through many of the same symptoms of relationship withdrawal you are.

Ultimately however, it’ll all be okay. So chin up, get outside, and get OVER your ex!

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Texting Your Ex – 3 Fast Texts That Will Re-Open the Lines of Communication

It’s hard to stay silent after a breakup. Especially when so many connections still linger between you and your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.

Texting Your Ex

Some of those connections will be emotional. No matter how a relationship ends, it always began with fire and passion. The start of every romance is filled with overwhelming amounts of attraction, and in time, strong emotional bonds and feelings are formed that are most times hard to break.

Other connections will be electronic, such as Facebook, Instagram, and especially texting.

In fact, more than 75% of all breakups don’t end at the phone; texting between those people continue, whether they end up getting back together with an ex or not.

If you’re in the situation where you’d like to fix your breakup, you’ll need to know HOW and WHEN to communicate with your ex. Calling at the wrong time, or saying the wrong thing, can often lead to disastrous results. You may have already experienced some of that, and your breakup already got off on the wrong foot.

Texting, just like calling, has its own set of rules and etiquettes. Should you still text with your ex? When is it okay to send a message? Even more important: what should you text to your ex when you want them back?

Below are three very quick ways you can use text-messaging to break the awkward silence after a breakup. Read them carefully first, and before doing anything else, make sure you know every single one of the rules and regulations of post-relationship texting, as these will help prepare you for your former lover’s response.

#1) The ‘I’m on Your Side Now’ Text

Most people who get dumped fight too hard too soon. Yes, you want the relationship back, but what you don’t understand is that right now? Your ex will do everything in his or her power to deflect any points you might make in that regard.

The longer you try to get your ex back, the worse things get. Your former lover will see you as pushing too hard, not taking no for an answer, and looking totally lame (and desperate) in the process.

What your ex doesn’t expect however, is for you to suddenly be on the same page as them. Which is why this first text works so well:

“Hey, I’m totally with you now on the whole breakup thing. We really ARE better off apart. Sorry it took so long for me to get it, but at least I did
before we started hating each other (LOL). Take it easy!”

This is essentially a brush-off. Your ex already rejected you as a partner, and this is your chance to counter-reject them. And now that you’re NOT fighting them tooth and nail to stay together with them? Your ex sees you as more of an equal – and even an ally – rather than someone beneath them trying to claw their way back to their level.

This text might seem pretty final, yet it’s anything but. Consider it the first stepping stone on the road to getting back together again.

Here’s a great video all about this opening move. Be sure to watch the whole thing, because it helps you better visualize what to do next.

#2) The Congratulatory or Happy Birthday Text

The only contact you should be making with your ex right now is welcomed contact. Anything else, and your ex will take it as you grasping desperately to get the relationship back (and you never, ever want to look desperate).

Congratulations is always welcome, especially if it’s something you know your ex has been trying to do for a long time. So if your ex graduated? That’s a great text to send him or her. If your ex got a recent promotion, or bought a new car, or something else happened that’s good in their life? Again, this is a good excuse to send them a very small, very simple:

“Hey, I heard you finally got promoted. Good deal! Hope everything’s great by you.”

This is an ice-breaker, and an innocent one as well. It also works with birthdays. And the longer you dated your boyfriend or girlfriend? The better this techniques works. You already shared big parts of your lives with each other, so it will only seem natural to share a quick congratulations on something that happened afterward.

#3) The ‘Familiarity’ Text Message

With this one, you want to use something you know your ex is familiar with. Preferably something you shared or loved together, while you were still dating.

Did you like a certain movie, and the sequel is coming out? How about music; did you attend a concert together, and that band is coming around again? A television series you always watched, and a new season is coming out?

“Hey, Survivor starts tonight! Had to tell you, in case you forgot to set your DVR!”

This is a conversation-starter. Chances are good your ex will ask what this season of Survivor is about, and who might be on it. If the conversation goes well, you might mention how much you miss watching it together. And if it goes very well, maybe your ex will invite you over – platonically or not – to enjoy it with them.

Basically, you need to pick something that was ‘yours’ together. Something cool and fun that will spark nothing but good memories of old times between you. Your goal is to put yourself back in your ex’s head, without really doing anything obvious. This right here is a great way to do it.

There are many other ways to get your ex’s attention again, even without the use of text messages. But again, you need to know when to do it… how to do it… before even thinking about making that first, tentative contact.

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7 Quick Moves That Will Get Your Ex Back

When people get dumped, the only thing they can focus on is reversing the situation. They work night and day, they send text after text, make call after call… they do anything and everything to make their relationship right again, even if the things they are doing are all wrong.

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The problem is exactly that; everyone moves too quickly. They’re so desperate to get back together they don’t stop to recognize that the mistakes they’re making are killing their chances.

In the early stages, it’s often better to do nothing at all. Because when you’re committing some of the 12 biggest blunders that will drive your ex away, you would’ve been better off just sitting there and not doing anything.

That said, what about getting your ex back FAST?

Are there ways you can speed up the process of making your ex miss you? Make them need you back sooner, rather than later on?

Maybe even skip the whole No Contact phase?

Well, no. Unfortunately for everyone, No Contact is a necessary step in creating need for you again. But that’s not to say you have to sit there and do nothing during this crucial time. Because there are actions you can take – moves you can make – that will accelerate the later on phases of fixing your breakup.

The things you do NOW, immediately after your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you, can affect the speed at which you get back together when your ex finally does come around. For this reason, it’s important to learn exactly what to do, as well as what NOT to do, while working to make your lover want and need you back.

The following 7 actions will help you through the No Contact phase, and at the same time, create an environment where your ex starts itching to see or hear from you again. The more of these moves you can make, the quicker things will come together when it’s time to get back in touch with and finally contact your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend.

Agreeing With and Accepting The Breakup

Think you can “fight for” your relationship? Change your ex’s mind? Wrong. You can’t do either of those things, at least right now.

In the very beginning, the only thing you can do is ACCEPT the breakup. The sooner you do this the better off you’ll be, because you’ll look a lot less needy and desperate later on.

Nothing is going to fix your romance right away. 99% of the time, your ex wants to stew for a while. Either they’re mad at you, or disappointed, or whatever it is, but the hard truth of things is this: they no longer see you as valuable anymore.

Before they’ll even think of taking you back, you’ve got to prove them wrong. So arguing and fighting against the break right now is only going to make things worse. The best thing to do? Agree with it. And the best way to agree is to watch this opening moves video and follow these instructions exactly.

Removing Yourself From Social Media

Know what happens right after your ex dumps you? He or she looks back over their shoulder. They want to see where you go, what you do. How you handle things, or even better, mishandle them.

How are they going to do this? Facebook. Instagram. Texts from friends. Your ex is going to look at your photos and your updates and your status changes and he or she is going to gauge your reaction by watching what you do next.

The best thing to do here is absolutely nothing at all. Don’t even bother logging into social media for the first few days. If this is hard for you, TOUGH. You’ll need to make hard choices like this if you want to win your ex back.

Think about what happens when you completely disappear like this. Your ex has NO IDEA where you went. In vanishing, you create a void in your ex’s life where you used to be. They begin to bug out because they can’t find you; they don’t know where you are, who you’re with, or what you’re doing.

All of these thing will help spark renewed interest in you on your ex’s part. And this is exactly what you want at this stage of the game.

Rebuilding Yourself in Your Own Best Image

Let’s go back to when your ex first fell in love with you. What did you look like? How did you act?

Were you a lot cooler around your boyfriend or girlfriend? Did you act more confident? Did you enjoy yourself more, and by default, were you happier and more optimistic than you were at the end?

All relationships go through changes, and many of them are for the worse. When the honeymoon phase is over and the ‘glow’ wears off, people will often begin taking each other for granted. They begin fighting over stupid crap. They begin harboring jealousy over the dumbest of shit.

What you need to do is remember the beginning again. Recall how you were, and how you acted (and reacted) around your ex. Your probably laughed more, the both of you. You had more fun. The relationship was still young, and you were still out to impress each other.

These things are absolutely crucial to making your ex want you again. Later on during the process of getting back together, you’ll use nostalgia triggers to bring your boyfriend or girlfriend mentally – and emotionally – back to the beginning of your relationship. So when that finally happens? You’ll need to know exactly how to act.

Preparing Mentally For Your Reconciliation

There’s no hope for you if you’re a crying, sobbing wreck. Your lover isn’t going to take you back out of pity, or guilt, or any of those things, so dry your eyes and start getting yourself together emotionally for when you start communicating with your ex again.

Likewise, don’t be angry. No one likes a sarcastic, biting person who drops passive-aggressive comments because he or she still feels bitter about the breakup. No matter what happened to end your relationship, you need to get past it if you want any chance at all at getting back together. And yes, this even includes cheating.

So clear your mind. Mentally prepare yourself for the day you talk to your ex again. You’ll need to be cheerful and you’ll need to be optimistic. Maybe even forgiving too, if you were the person who got wronged.

Preparing Physically For Your Reconciliation

And how about physically? Were you in better shape when you first started going out? Did you dress better, look better, even smell better? If so, it’s time to get those things in order as well. Because the better you look, act, and feel, the greater your chances of keeping your ex attracted to you.

We all know looks aren’t everything. But when it comes to first impressions, you’ll need to do your best. At one time, before you even spoke to each other, you and your partner sized each other up physically. So if you want the best chance of getting back together again, make sure your ex likes what they see.

Yes, this means hitting the gym. It also means hitting the mall. Get new clothes, a new outfit, new shoes, new glasses. Grab a new tan. When these things start coming together, you’ll feel better about yourself. This will of course translate into renewed confidence, which is another big trigger in making your lover want you again.

Rebuilding Your Social Life in Fantastic Ways

At first, your ex will watch you disappear. They’ll wonder where you went. You’ll be a mystery for a while, and this is a good thing.

When you finally reappear? Things need to be AWESOME. No matter what you do, or where you go, it’s got to be the best thing and the best place ever.

At this point you’ll come back to social media. When your ex sees your posts, he or she will see you surrounded by friends and family. They’ll see you doing amazing things, going really cool places, and in every single picture, smiling like there’s no tomorrow. And this is because you’re not just ‘good’ after the breakup. You’re totally great.

Again, every ex on the planet wants to see their former lover fail. This isn’t because they’re hateful, it’s because we all like to think people are better off WITH us. So when your ex sees you having the time of your life without them? Two things happen.

One, your ex becomes jealous. After all, why weren’t you doing all these amazing things while you were together with them? Were they not worth it?

Two, your ex starts questioning the breakup. And this is because you seem to be needing them a LOT less than they think you did… which starts them along the path of “hey, maybe I actually needed this person MORE than they needed me.”

Allowing Your Ex to See You Out With Other People

This one is huge. Because as much as you probably think you’ll scare your ex away once they think you’ve started dating again, actually just the opposite happens.

When your ex sees you with someone else, they always want you more. This is because you’ve suddenly proved value. The person they dumped so callously is now on someone else’s arm, which makes them question whether they actually had something GOOD when they were with you.

And if you followed the other six moves? They will think that. All of a sudden your ex will be wracked with indecision. Haunted by regret over having let you go when someone else scooped you up so quickly.

And hey, you don’t need to ‘date’ date this person. All you need to do is go out with them. Even if it’s a casual acquaintance, your former boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t know that. Even if it’s nothing more than a platonic or practice date, it’s still something that will set your ex’s teeth on edge.

Other Ways to Get Your Ex to Want You Again

Fixing ANY breakup is essential about the same thing: reversing your current situation.

You want to reverse how your boyfriend or girlfriend sees you right now. You want to reverse the decision they made to end things. Ultimately, you want to reverse the steps that got you here. Walk backwards, up along the path that leads back into the really cool relationship you once had.

This is where Breakup Reversed takes over.

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This stand-alone, step-by-step system by relationship expert Robert Parsons has helped tens of thousands of couples reunite with one another and fix their broken relationships.

Over the course of more than a decade? Breakup Reversed has proved itself golden with a whopping, guaranteed 94.7% Success Rate!

This means that more than 9 out of 10 couples who employed these reversal techniques ended up reconciling in one way or another. For more information on that, check out the glowing reviews and testimonials as shown below.

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When it comes to breaking up, and making up, you only get one REAL shot at it. It’s not something you can keep trying over and over again when you get it wrong, because very quickly you’ll find that you’ve driven your partner away.

For this reason alone, you want to arm yourself with all possible knowledge before making a single move. And reading Breakup Reversed is like loading yourself to the max, and then approaching your breakup with all guns blazing.

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3 Important Texts You Can Send to Your Ex

Before we begin, let’s get one thing clear: texting your ex during the NO CONTACT phase of the breakup is almost always a bad idea. There are some very big reasons you need to leave your ex alone during this stage, so if you haven’t read them already, check them out by going here.

Messages to Send Your Ex

With that out of the way, let’s begin.

The most desired of all communication, when you’re trying to get back together, is any form of contact initiated by your ex. The fact that your former boyfriend or girlfriend is calling or texting you, rather than the other way around, shows a lot more in the way of serious interest.

There are ways of getting your ex to call or text you. Some are fairly obvious. Others are a lot more subtle.

All of them however, can put you back in the driver’s seat. You take back a lot of that missing power and control when your ex is forced to make that extremely coveted first move.

Yet before even that can happen, you’ll need to use these emotional bonding techniques to make your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend MISS you first. When your ex misses you, ANY contact you make with them will be a positive, welcomed connection. This makes your overall chances of getting back together a lot more successful in the end.

Sometimes though, you have to make the first move. There are times when it’s necessary to reach out to your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, in order to get things moving in the right direction.

If this is where you’re at, you can often break the ice with a simple text-message. Here are three examples of texts you can send to your ex when you’re looking to reconnect:

The ‘I Agree With the Breakup Text’

If you’ve been fighting the breakup or trying just about everything to get your ex to go back out with you, this is a good one to start with. Essentially you’re coming off as no longer interested in dating this person, but would rather carry on a platonic friendship with them.

You’re going to give them a text they can’t possibly argue with. Something like:

“Hey, what’s up? Listen, you were right about us being better off apart. Sorry it took me a while to get it! Anyway, we were good friends before we started dating, and it would suck to lose that friendship just because we can’t be together. Let me know if you want to get lunch or something, so we can catch up!”

This is a non-threatening, non-confrontational way of accepting the situation for what it is; you’re no longer together, but at the same time you’re looking to save whatever pre-dating relationship (i.e. friendship) you used to have.

This isn’t saying you’re going to be best buddies with your ex – that’s never a good idea. But you’ll make them think you want to be friends in order to jockey for better position when you DO make the bigger moves (step 5 and step 6) later on down the line.

The ‘Nostalgia Trigger’ Text Message

Think back to your past relationship. Where did you go? What did you do? Try to envision which special places or times or even sports teams you shared with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, and pick one that’s really GOOD.

You need to grab hold of one he or she will remember. One your ex will associate with you. For example, let’s say you went to the NY Jets games a few times together, and always had an awesome time. At that point you can send a text like:

“Hey, did you see that one-handed catch the other night? That happened
RIGHT where we were sitting last January!”

You can substitute anything here, as long as it’s relevant.

“Holy shit, did you notice [NAME OF A RESTAURANT] burned/closed down the other day? I was just thinking of all the times we went there together!”

“Did you see Terminator 8 yet? It was insane! What was the name of that theater
where we went to see Terminator 7?”

Basically, that sort of thing. You pick something you know was fun or important for your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, and hopefully something relevant to you relationship. A holiday or event you went to. A favorite band that happens to be back in town again. Then you make an innocent comment on it, in the form of a text message, and follow the reply up with something like “By the way, how’ve you been? Things cool with you?”

The ‘Congratulatory’ or ‘Checking up on Someone’ Text

This is really two different texts, but with the same basic flavor. For this one, you need to pick an event that happened recently in your ex’s life. Maybe they graduated. Maybe they got a new job. Choose something positive, and then text them with:

“Hey, congrats! I heard you were accepted to Cornell! That’s totally awesome!”

You can also use this method to check up on an existing situation in your ex’s family or circle of friends. For this one, you’ll need to have dated them a little longer, so you have a much better clue as to what’s going on in your boyfriend or girlfriend’s social life.

“Just wanted to know how everything worked out for your mom. Is she out
of the hospital yet? Tell her I hope she feels better.”

Again, you want to deliver the message in such a way that you’re almost making small talk. Only it’s not a pointless “Sup?” text, which is the lamest possible thing you can send. You’d be surprised how many people think they can start up a new conversation with something as simple as that, and still expect a positive result.

What to Do if You’re Stuck on How to Make Contact

Sometimes it seems things go awkwardly no matter how you communicate with your ex. You might feel like you’re bothering them, or that they’re really not that interested in hearing from you at all.

When this is the case, you need to up your game. You need to put some new weapons in your arsenal, rather than fight with the same old dull ones you keep trying to no avail.

Text Your Ex Back System

Text Your Ex Back contains some ground-breaking, next-level stuff.

It’s a complete step-by-step SYSTEM showing you how to break the ice, make contact, and continue to communicate with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend on only the most positive levels.

Learn what to do… what to say… and exactly WHEN you should be saying it. The system teaches you how to trigger deep-seeded emotional attachments already within your ex’s mind and heart, and then use those attachments to re-generate his or her original feelings for you again.

If you’re looking for the ultimate guide on what to say after a breakup, look no further. Check out the many sharp tools within Text Your Ex Back, and get started right away on the one and only CORRECT path to reconciliation.

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My Girlfriend Wants a Break – What Can I Do?

The words are like getting stabbed in the gut with a rusty knife:

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“I think maybe we should take a BREAK from each other…”

Your mind reels. The blood rushes to your head as you struggle for something to say.

And what do you even say to that? Your girlfriend is rejecting you. Hard. And not just in the traditional breakup sort of way, she’s actually demoting you to the lamest of all possible places in her life: she’s putting you on a shelf, to be dealt with ‘later on’ (or whenever she feels like it).

If your girlfriend wants to take a break, you’d better act fast. Any sort of inaction or complacency on your part will result in her continuing the break for as long as she wants. This, essentially, is like handing her all the power. You’re giving her the keys to your relationship and telling her she gets to drive.

Know what happens next? She drops you off. Or maybe she kicks you out of the car while it’s still moving. Either way, your girl isn’t likely to change the ‘break’ status anytime soon, as long as you’re peacefully and obediently going along with it like a good little boy.

What to Say When Your Girlfriend Wants Time Apart

You say NO. Plain and simple. You need to be firm, you need to be rigid, and you need to be STONE COLD in your attitude.

“No, but thanks anyway. I don’t ‘do’ breaks. Breaks are bullshit.”

If you ever wonder why a girl would tell you she wants a break instead of a straight-up breakup, it really boils down to one thing: uncertainty. Your now ex-girlfriend is hedging her bets. She’s not 100% ready to let you go just yet, so she does the next best thing; she strings you along. She dangles the carrot of ‘maybe we’ll get back together’ in front of your face while she goes out and plays the field and decides whether or not she can find some other guy – some stronger guy – who makes her feel more wanted and loved and safe and secure than you do.

If your girlfriend springs the whole ‘time apart’ thing on you, it’s because you’ve been weak. Either you haven’t been fulfilling her needs, or you’ve been wishy-washy as a boyfriend in general. Maybe you’re insecure. Maybe you’re always apologizing for everything, or joking that you’re dating ‘out of your league’. All of these things will make a girl wonder why she’s with you in the first place. In short, you’re digging your own grave.

By denying her the break you’re delivering a message. You’re essentially rejecting her as much as she’s rejecting you. Because rather than scramble to get her back, or try to “fight” for the relationship (which is exactly what she wants), you’re crumpling the romance into a ball and casually tossing it over your shoulder.

She wants a break? Fine. No problem. You’re TOTALLY willing to go out and see other people yourself. Tell her this, and see how fast she changes her tune. Mention this to her, and see how quickly she tells you “Well, I don’t think we should see other people, I just think we should take some time apart.”

She’s backpedaling. At which point you say:

“Yeah, no thanks. If we’re together, we’re TOGETHER. If we’re not, we’re not. I’m not doing things half-assed. I’m not going to sit around in some lame relationship limbo while waiting for you to figure things out.”

Be TOUGH. It’s the only way to keep her. It’s the only way to make your girlfriend come face to face with the reality of losing you all at once, rather than letting you go little by little while she ‘decides’ whether or not she can find some other guy.

The WORST THING YOU CAN DO When Your Girlfriend Wants Time Apart

Keep in mind that when your girlfriend offers ‘a break’ the very first thing she expects is resistance. She wants you to fight. She wants to see how much you really do care. Begging, pleading – all of these things seem like they might help get her back, but in reality they’re only going to turn her off even more and ratify the decision she already made to distance herself from you.

Your girlfriend also wants you to talk her out of the break. At this point she won’t ever be talked out of it, but she wants to see you try. This is because when you’re groveling for her approval she’s suddenly in the position of being right (and you’re in the position of being instantly wrong). She assumes control. She’s using the break as a scare tactic to gauge your reaction, and most of all, to see if you’re worthy of actually dating her.

So yeah, it’s a test. A test of your manhood. Chase her, and you fail. Come up with 1,000 reasons you should stay together, and she’ll have 1,001 reasons you should be apart. It’s a game, really. And it’s not a game you can win, so you shouldn’t even be playing it.

What to Do if You’re Already on a Break

Now if this conversation already happened and you meekly “agreed” to take time apart? Well, you’re in trouble. Fortunately though, it’s never too late to fix this situation.

Your first move is to employ these counter-rejection techniques. DO THEM NOW, and don’t wait. They’ll get you immediately started on reversing the entire situation, and seizing back most of that power you already lost when you accepted her offer to ‘take a break’ from each other.

After that, it’s time to sack up. Figure out what you’ve been doing (or not doing) to drive her in the opposite direction, and rectify that situation as well. Check out these 4 huge mistakes most guys make when they feel like they’re losing control of their relationship. How many of them are you guilty of?

Ultimately, any ‘break’ will always become a breakup unless you DO SOMETHING about it. Sitting still won’t help. Waiting patiently, and hoping she’ll somehow come to her senses, is the worst possible move. Being proactive here is the most important thing you can do to keep your relationship alive and healthy. Being reactive, unfortunately, will always get you dumped.

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Ex Boyfriend Already Dating? Here’s How to STEAL HIM BACK!

“I need some space…” he said, or maybe “some time to myself.” Only that time must have included some other people, because all of a sudden your ex boyfriend is DATING AGAIN.

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It hits you like a ton of bricks; that gut feeling of hopelessness. All those beautiful plans you made, the time you spent together – all of it gone – lost, forever, in the blink of an eye.

And if you tried to get him back? Obviously you failed. Your boyfriend is dating someone else now, and he has a new girlfriend. Someone else is kissing him. Someone else is in his bed.

Some other girl is making him happy, which means there’s no longer a shot at ever fixing your breakup and getting back together, like you one day somehow planned to do with him.

Or is there???

Want the truth? EVERY breakup has a path to reversal. Even the ones that led your boyfriend in another direction, to where he suddenly took up with someone new.

Keeping this in mind, if you’re not ready to give up on your boyfriend just yet, there’s still hope. Because there are lots of ways to get him back, even when he’s currently in the arms of another woman. Especially if he’s in the arms of another woman, actually, because right now, as his exgirlfriend? You’re working from a position where you now have certain advantages that you never had before.

Steps to Get Your Boyfriend Back From His New Girlfriend

Regardless of how long it’s been since you broke up, the important thing here is timing. Because there’s a certain time period (the honeymoon stage) where you’ll NEVER be able to win your boyfriend back from his new relationship… but there’s also a window of opportunity where it actually becomes easier to change his mind and make him fall back in love with you again.

It’s during that later stage that you need to strike. That’s when you need to make your move, and not a second before. Because if you act too soon? You’ll push him in the other direction. If you wait too long? You run the risk of losing his interest.

Getting your boyfriend back is a balancing act. Especially so when he’s already in a new relationship with some other girl. Here are the steps you’ll need to steal him away from his new girlfriend, and bring him back to you again:

Step 1 – Acceptance and Withdrawal

Your first move is always the same; you must accept and agree with your ex’s decision to break up. This means you MUST stop fighting it, no matter how much you still love him, and you MUST stop trying to get him back.

Calling, texting, emailing, Instagram, Facebook; if you’re doing these things you’re still chasing him, even if you say that you’re not. Only once you’ve agreed that yes, you should probably be apart from one another, will your ex start to see you as an ally (i.e. someone he can talk to and confide in) rather than a crazy exgirlfriend who still isn’t over him for one reason or another.

Step 2 – Waiting Out the Honeymoon Phase of his Rebound Relationship

If your boyfriend started dating this new girl almost immediately after breaking up with you, you’re probably pissed off. In reality however, this is a pretty good thing. Here’s why:

Right now, your ex is in a rebound relationship. He’s enjoying the comfort and companionship (and let’s be honest, the attraction and the sex) of a new romance, and everything is exciting to him. There’s NOTHING you can do right now… NOTHING you can say to stop him, or her, or their budding new affair.

In fact, your boyfriend is going to see any resistance on your part as jealousy. He’ll pay no mind to it. He’ll chalk it up to you still wanting him back, which defeats the purpose of step 1.

However, your ex is on a rebound right now, and this is good news. Why? Because the roller coaster of a rebound won’t last forever. It’ll only last until he gets bored of this new girl, or tired of her crap, or sick of something she does that’s different from what you did for him.

In other words, he’s going to be comparing this girl to YOU. Why? Because he just dated you. He’ll take the bad things this new girl does and hold them up to the candle of all the cool things you did well. This glorifies you in his eyes, and the first major fight the two of them have? That’ll be the first time your ex calls or texts or reaches out to you in the middle of the night, possibly to get your opinion on things, and definitely because he misses you.

Once again, this won’t happen if you haven’t fulfilled step one. Learn how to agree with the breakup (even if the breakup already happened) by watching this free opening moves video and understanding there’s a right and wrong way to do this important step.

Step 3 – Contacting or Reconnecting With Your Ex

When the time is right, your boyfriend will call you. Or maybe he’ll text you, just to test the waters. When this happens, you need to be COOL. And to be cool, that means you need to shed all of the anger, hate, bitterness, or sorrow you might have been feeling toward him all these last weeks.

Yes, he left you. Yes, he has a new girlfriend. And yes, as much as this pisses you off, you’re going to need to put all that aside in order to be COOL with him. Know why? Because a cool exgirlfriend is a SAFE ex girlfriend.

You need your ex to feel safe in talking to you. In confiding things to you. If he suspects you’re going to rat him out or go running to his new girlfriend with any info he might give you your boyfriend will clam up and never call you again.

So LISTEN to him. Be understanding, even if it hurts. Basically, you want to establish a neutral, almost “friendly” trust with him. That way you can seek out and make note of the problems within his new relationship, so that later on, you can use those problems as leverage to get him back.

Look at it this way; every relationship has chinks in its armor – even the best ones. By studying the weaknesses of your exboyfriend’s new romance, you can put yourself in prime position to strike when the iron is hot. Which will usually be after a major fight, when your boyfriend is emotionally at his weakest and most vulnerable. This is when he’ll be most nostalgic about your past relationship. This is always when he’ll be most susceptible to wanting you back.

Other Steps to Getting Him Back From His New Girlfriend

You’ve read three big steps so far that will help pry your man back from the arms of another woman. But guess what? There are 5 more.

There is a full 8 Step Process To Stealing Your Boyfriend Back from his new girlfriend, so make sure you learn ALL of them! Having a plan will always give you the best possible chance for success.

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