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8 Totally Evil Ways You Can Make Your Ex Jealous

I get it… you’ve been trying all these things to get your boyfriend back and so far he hasn’t responded. You’re at the end of your rope. You don’t know what else to do…

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Relax. I got you.

Jealousy is the most powerful of all human emotions. It’s caused murders. It’s driven wars. And when it comes to grabbing your former boyfriend’s attention? Jealousy can be an invaluable tool… one you can use deviously, and with instant results.

Below is a list that’s not exactly for the faint of heart. If you’re not ready for some more radical moves that might win him back, maybe you should move on. But if you’re ready to try something new – and you’re brave enough to pull it off? Many of these techniques can put you back in the driver’s seat when it comes to making him DESIRE you again. And best of all, this will happen VERY quickly.

1. Look Wickedly Amazing

It should stand without reason that in order to get your boyfriend back, he needs to be physically and emotionally attracted to you. The physical part you can work at at the gym; no matter what shape you might be in right now, there’s always room for improvement.

Mentally, emotionally – chances are that right now at least, you aren’t in tip top shape. Getting into physical shape will boost your confidence, especially if you drop a few sizes and pick up some new clothes. This will improve your emotional state as well, as all these things tend to have cascading benefits.

When your ex sees you for the first time after the breakup, his tongue should hit the floor. If it doesn’t, you haven’t worked hard enough to make him jealous.

2. Hit Him in Places He Knows

No, not physically hit him. But you can emotionally hit him – or at least push him out of his comfort zone – by showing up in all the places he usually haunts. See, your boyfriend is expecting you to avoid him. He’s expecting that you’re so crushed, so upset, that just seeing him will make you a teary-eyed, emotional wreck.

This is where you prove him wrong. By being totally unafraid to face him, and by showing up with a big grin on your face? You’re showing your ex that NOTHING he did to you really matters. Your life is going on as normal, and if anything, he’s the one who should feel uncomfortable.

3. Smile, Nod, Laugh, Have Fun

Know what gives your ex the confidence to STAY broken up with you? Seeing you miserable. Not because he’s sadistic or anything, but seeing you miserable without him gives him the sense that HE was the important person in the relationship. That you needed him a whole lot more than he needed you.

So when he sees you laughing and smiling and having a great time WITHOUT him even in the picture? Well, this is where he starts questioning himself. He just dumped a girl who doesn’t seem to care that he’s gone, and not only that, she looks like she’s having the time of her life. This girl is FUN. This girl is LAUGHING. She also looks ten times more amazing than the last time he saw her! So what gives? Why isn’t he back with you? Maybe he should scoop you up quickly before someone else does…

Additionally, you might want to try these instant re-connection techniques the first time you run into your ex boyfriend. But read about them thoroughly before using them, because unless you execute them correctly they could possibly backfire.

4. Hang out With People Your Ex Doesn’t Like

Yeah, that’s right. Find the people your boyfriend always hated, and start going to the places he never wanted to take you to. This is a double-whammy, because it’s flaunting your happiness in the face of his misery.

It doesn’t matter if these people are men or women. All that matters is that you’re suddenly their ally, which will throw your ex boyfriend completely off his game. Remember: getting him to want you back is all about pushing him out of his comfort zone. He’d love nothing more for you to be sitting at home crying at the loss of the relationship rather than out doing things he would’ve traditionally been pissed about you doing.

5. Grab His Friends in the Divorce

Think just because your ex dumped you that you have to stop talking to, messaging with, or seeing his friends? Hell no. Because chances are, during the course of your relationship, HIS friends became YOUR friends.

Show your boyfriend you’re completely unafraid by getting all nice and cozy with the people he usually hangs out with. You don’t have to be obnoxious about it – in fact, you should be careful not to overdo it or he’ll realize why you’re doing it. However, there’s nothing keeping you from enjoying the same relationships with these people (or to make him REALLY jealous, even CLOSER relationships!) even after the two of you have broken up.

There are 3 more ultra-sneaky tricks that will make your ex jealous, but some of them are borderline criminal! Read them if you like, but use them with extreme caution…

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6 Huge Misconceptions About Staying Friends With Your Ex

“Let’s be friends…” Sounds good, right? As if you and your ex will still be able to see each other, talk to each other, even hang out together and have some more good times?

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It’s win-win for everyone, at least in your mind. The relationship is over but the contact doesn’t have to end.

The closeness you shared doesn’t have to go away, because you and your ex boyfriend or girlfriend are going to defy they odds; somehow, you’re going to make the post-breakup friendship work, even if it kills you. Right?

Yeah, right.

The sad truth of things is this: there are two possible scenarios after someone breaks up with you. One, is that you no longer want or need them in your life. And in that case, you go your separate ways.

The second scenario is where your lover breaks up with you, but you keep hanging on. Since you weren’t ready for the romance to end, you’re looking for any excuse – no matter how thin – to stay in touch and actually be with them again.

It’s for this reason that many people JUMP at the chance to “stay friends” when their ex offers it. They’re not ready to let go. They think that being friends with an ex can help get them back, or that eventually this person will realize how much they miss being your boyfriend or girlfriend, and jump back into a relationship with and date them again.

Unfortunately, it’s not even close to that easy.

Going from friends to lovers – after you’ve dated already – is mostly a fantasy. It happens in books, in movies. It happens in real life too, but the ‘lovers’ thing lasts only for one night, and afterward your ex goes back to their single life, leaving you feel used and cheated.

In short, you cannot be friends with an ex if you still love them.

PERIOD. End of story. If you’re honest with yourself and you know that you still have feelings, staying friends with this person is only going to hurt ten times as much.

And not only that… it’s going to push your ex away, too. Every breakup has a window of opportunity for reversing itself; EVERY single time someone dumps you there’s always a way back.

But when you become friends with that person? The road back into their heart becomes that much longer. It’s an uphill climb, and you’ve basically decimated your chances of making them need you again.

Below are 6 of the biggest myths involving getting back together after staying friends with your ex. By the time you’re finished reading them, you’ll understand exactly why the road back into your boyfriend or girlfriend’s heart does NOT lead through some made-up “friendship”.

Myth 1 – As Friends, You’ll Still Keep in Constant Contact

Sorry, but no. First of all, your ex dumped you for a reason. He or she no longer sees you as datable, and they’re going to be looking somewhere (and at someone) else.

So will your new ‘friend’ still call and text and email with you? Yeah, sure. For a while. But the second this person finds somebody else, or even gets interested in somebody else, that contact will drop off so fast it’ll make your head spin and your heart sink.

Also, the amount of contact will never be the same. It won’t be anywhere near the amount of texts and calls you made to each other during the relationship. As such, it’ll be a disappointment for you. You’ll wonder why your ex isn’t staying in touch as much as he or she used to, and that will make you wonder what ELSE they’re doing without you.

Myth 2 – As Friends, You and Your Ex Will Still Hang Out

Sure. Maybe. But again, nowhere NEAR as much as before.

For the most part, your ex will call you when they have nothing to do. Remember: they’re single now, and they’ve got a whole new list of things they can do without you.

This list includes seeing old friends, going places, being in groups where they can potentially meet other people… and you staying at home and watching these things from the outside. When your ex does include you in these events, you’ll watch jealously as your former boyfriend or girlfriend ends up talking to other people (and potential dates). You’ll feel awkward, having been downgraded to “just a friend”, and you won’t know where your place is.

And yes, your ex might even come over for sexual reasons. You’ll hook up, even though you’re no longer dating. The sex will be good, and you’ll have a great time, and in the back of your mind you’ll tell yourself that you can handle it. But you know what? You can’t. Because residual feelings and emotional bonds will make you want MORE than just friends with benefits.

Can sleeping with your ex help get them back? Read LOTS more about that here.

Myth 3 – Staying Friends Lets You Keep Track of Your Ex

Somewhat, yes. You’ll still be Facebook friends, you’ll still follow your ex on Instagram, and you’ll still be privy to some of the things he or she does every day.

Your ex will also call and text you. They’ll tell you about their day, get some advice from you at times, and all that other good stuff friends do. That part is true, to an extent.

But you know what? Anything your ex doesn’t want you to see will remain a mystery. Anything they think will hurt your feelings will be something they HIDE from you. And because you’re no longer dating this person, you can’t even push for details. You’re not entitled to know where your ex went anymore, or who he/she hung out with, or when they got back from the bar or club.

This will ultimately drive you crazy: the not knowing. Seeing only PART of the picture is worse than seeing nothing at all. You’ll have no power over your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend’s actions, and this will frustrate you lots more than if you didn’t know anything about their life. In that respect, being friends with an ex is worse than a standard breakup.

Myth 4 – Being Friends Will Draw You Closer Together

Another misconception is that friendship simplifies the relationship. You’re no longer dating so you no longer have to fight. No more arguing, no more petty jealousy, no more “you didn’t call or text me back…” – that stuff flies out the window, leaving behind a nice, peaceful interaction between the two of you.

To an extent this is actually true. However, understand that as the friendship goes on, your ex will ONLY see you as a friend. Eventually, that’s all you really become to them.

Why? Because you’ve made the whole thing so comfortable. You’ve created a situation that’s better than actually dating them. If your ex is enjoying most (or all) of the benefits of having you around, with none of the drawbacks or limitations of an actual relationship, why the HELL would he or she want to ever go back to dating you again? You’ve created a stress-free Utopian paradise that they’ll never really want to leave!

Myth 5 – Old Sparks Will Eventually Start Flying Again

Wrong. Mostly because being around each other is an awkward situation for the both of you.

Sorry, but this type of friendship is never TRULY a friendship. One person ‘won’ the breakup, and the other person lost it. The loser is you, which means that your boyfriend or girlfriend still holds all the cards right now. They know you still have feelings for them (no matter how well you’ve convinced yourself you’ve hidden it). And because of that, they’ll always hold power over you.

While you both pretend to be buddies with each other, your ex will never really open his or her heart to you. Not fully, and not while they still believe you WANT them.

Getting back together with an ex is all about making them NEED you again. They have to miss you. You have to actually go away.

None of those things happened so far, if you’re still palling around with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. They can’t possibly miss you when all they need to do is look down at their phone and see that you’ve been talking to them every single day.

Sexual sparks might fly, as we talked about above, but those will mostly be one-shot deals. Your ex will get horny, and you’ll be a very likely candidate for sex. Still, this doesn’t usually mean anything. And in the cases where the sex didn’t mean much to your ex, you’re definitely going to get hurt.

Myth 6 – Your Ex Will Ultimately ‘See the Light’ & Want You Back

It’s almost a bit sad, but this has to be said: your ex rejected you for a reason. And until you find out exactly what that reason was – and correct it – you’re never going to convince your ex to get back together as a couple with you.

Again, it goes back to comfort. As long as your former lover is made comfortable around you, he or she has ZERO INCENTIVE to take you back. First of all, it’s obvious you still want them. It’s obvious you’re staying friends with an ulterior motive. And as long as they know this? They’ll always feel comfortable in knowing they can get you back anytime they want to.

This keeps the breakup going. It makes it last and last. That’s because for your ex, there’s no downside. They get to play the field and look for someone better while you’re still circling around them in a holding pattern waiting for table scraps.

Harsh? Yeah. But it’s also the truth. And if you REALLY want a relationship rather than a friendship, you’re going to have to face those hard truths in order to get past the idea of “staying friends” after breaking up.

What to Do If You’ve Become Friends With Your Ex

Already friends with your ex? You have only one real opening move. The sooner you make it, the sooner you can break out of the Friend Zone and start on the actual path to winning your lover back.

Remember: the window of opportunity is there. But it doesn’t stay open forever. The longer you wait, the harder it gets. And the more you allow yourself to sink deeper and deeper into the role of “just a friend” with your ex? The further away you’ll always be.

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6 Huge Mistakes Everyone Makes Right After a Breakup

If you’re trying to reverse or fix your breakup, the most crucial time is the beginning. This is when most people – guys and girls – make the biggest and most devastating of mistakes while trying to “fight for the relationship”.

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These mistakes can sabotage your future. They often destroy any chance of getting back together, depending on which of them you make and how badly you botch them.

For this reason, you need to make sure you know what you’re doing. Acting out just for the sake of ‘doing something’ might be tempting, especially because it’s hard to sit still, but you need to realize that immediately after a breakup? Doing the wrong thing is ten times worse than doing nothing at all.

Below is a list of 6 big mistakes people make immediately after getting dumped. Some are bad, others are worse, but ALL of them are avoidable if you’re willing to exercise a little self-control.

And if you’ve already made some of these errors? Well, things might be bad but they can always improve. Halting these behaviors and actually turning your ex around can have a positive effect on how your former boyfriend or girlfriend sees you. And this, in turn, can lead to a reconciliation… if you play your cards right.

Resisting the Breakup

This is the first mistake people make, and it starts off a long, slippery slope of losing control. Fighting “for” the relationship, as if you could actually change your ex’s mind right now, is only going to push your boyfriend or girlfriend even further away.

Every breakup has the same goal: you need to show your ex that he or she was wrong. That breaking up isn’t really what they want, and that it’s better to be with you.

So when you fight and rage (and cry and scream) against the breakup? You’re essentially showing your ex that they were right. All of a sudden you look desperate, which in turn makes your ex say “Wow… this person needs me a LOT more than I need them. How come I never saw this before?”

From there, your ex’s mind is made up. Leaving you was the right move, for obvious reasons. I mean, just look at you, still in denial. Surely they could do better?

Sulking, Pouting, or Getting Angry

There are many emotional stages of a breakup, and they line up pretty well with the well-known stages of grief. But to your ex boyfriend or girlfriend? These behaviors can make or break how they look at you as a person – and a potential partner – later on.

Your first instinct will be to grieve. You’ll sulk and get all depressed about the loss. You’ll also think that your ex will actually care for your feelings… almost like you can guilt them into coming back because you look so forlorn and glum. Reality however, is different. Because the more you pout, the more depressed you seem? The more LAME your boyfriend or girlfriend will consider your actions.

Anger is another bad move. Some people, especially guys, will get angry and lash out after being dumped. This is where you’ll say things you don’t mean; things you can’t take back later on. If you want to someday date this person again, you’ll need to avoid being angry about the breakup.

Being Needy and Desperate Toward Your Ex

Did you beg your ex to reconsider? Plead with them not to let go of “a good thing”?

Did you promise to change? Demand to know why this person broke up with you? (Hint: they’ll never fully tell you the exact reason, unless you’re willing to make this opening move)

Afterwards, did you stalk your ex on Facebook? Constantly check their Instagram? Did you send tons of text-messages to your former boyfriend or girlfriend, but only got a few (if any) of them answered?

If you did any of the above things, you pretty much shot yourself in the foot. Already you’ve come off as needy and desperate. This is a HUGE turnoff as far as your ex is concerned. The confident, fun, secure person they fell in love with is now this clingy, whiny, crying mess.

NO ONE wants to date someone like that. So the longer you do this stuff? The further you get from making your ex want you back (and the creepier it is overall).

Making Unwanted Contact

Nothing will shove your ex in the opposite direction more than unwanted contact. And yes, this means ALL manner of communication you can have with your ex, no matter how ‘innocent’ or purely platonic/friendly you think that contact might be.

Look at it this way – to get your ex back, they first need to MISS you. And they can’t possibly miss you if you’re calling, texting, emailing, Facebooking, Instagramming, and basically stalking them day and night. Even worse, the more you do these things? The more your ex gets annoyed with you. Turned off by you.

The more you do these things, the less VALUE you have in your boyfriend or girlfriend’s eyes.

What you need to do is contact your ex at the RIGHT time. It has to happen at a natural point in the breakup, where contact will be welcome and they’ll actually be happy to hear from you again.

Learn lots more about how and when to contact your ex here.

Not Using Nostalgia Tactics to Get Your Ex Back

The good news about breaking up is that you have a distinct advantage when it comes to winning your partner back. And that’s because you share a pretty important, very well-remembered past history together.

The past is something that always changes. As time goes on, your ex will tend to forget the bad things (i.e. the fighting, arguing, jealousy, etc…) and remember only the good ones. Those first awesome memories – the ones you yourself cherish? Those are the same memories your ex also enjoys going back to time and time again.

These memories can help your ex change his or her mind about losing you for good, if you’re willing to use these reconnection techniques during your reconciliation process. Read up on them carefully, because for best results they MUST be used correctly and at exactly the right time.

In total there are actually 12 deadly mistakes you can make after breaking up. And some of them are instant relationship-killers, so be especially wary of those.

Learn what the other six errors are, and be sure you’re not committing any of them before going on.

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7 Quick Moves That Will Get Your Ex Back

When people get dumped, the only thing they can focus on is reversing the situation. They work night and day, they send text after text, make call after call… they do anything and everything to make their relationship right again, even if the things they are doing are all wrong.

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The problem is exactly that; everyone moves too quickly. They’re so desperate to get back together they don’t stop to recognize that the mistakes they’re making are killing their chances.

In the early stages, it’s often better to do nothing at all. Because when you’re committing some of the 12 biggest blunders that will drive your ex away, you would’ve been better off just sitting there and not doing anything.

That said, what about getting your ex back FAST?

Are there ways you can speed up the process of making your ex miss you? Make them need you back sooner, rather than later on?

Maybe even skip the whole No Contact phase?

Well, no. Unfortunately for everyone, No Contact is a necessary step in creating need for you again. But that’s not to say you have to sit there and do nothing during this crucial time. Because there are actions you can take – moves you can make – that will accelerate the later on phases of fixing your breakup.

The things you do NOW, immediately after your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you, can affect the speed at which you get back together when your ex finally does come around. For this reason, it’s important to learn exactly what to do, as well as what NOT to do, while working to make your lover want and need you back.

The following 7 actions will help you through the No Contact phase, and at the same time, create an environment where your ex starts itching to see or hear from you again. The more of these moves you can make, the quicker things will come together when it’s time to get back in touch with and finally contact your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend.

Agreeing With and Accepting The Breakup

Think you can “fight for” your relationship? Change your ex’s mind? Wrong. You can’t do either of those things, at least right now.

In the very beginning, the only thing you can do is ACCEPT the breakup. The sooner you do this the better off you’ll be, because you’ll look a lot less needy and desperate later on.

Nothing is going to fix your romance right away. 99% of the time, your ex wants to stew for a while. Either they’re mad at you, or disappointed, or whatever it is, but the hard truth of things is this: they no longer see you as valuable anymore.

Before they’ll even think of taking you back, you’ve got to prove them wrong. So arguing and fighting against the break right now is only going to make things worse. The best thing to do? Agree with it. And the best way to agree is to watch this opening moves video and follow these instructions exactly.

Removing Yourself From Social Media

Know what happens right after your ex dumps you? He or she looks back over their shoulder. They want to see where you go, what you do. How you handle things, or even better, mishandle them.

How are they going to do this? Facebook. Instagram. Texts from friends. Your ex is going to look at your photos and your updates and your status changes and he or she is going to gauge your reaction by watching what you do next.

The best thing to do here is absolutely nothing at all. Don’t even bother logging into social media for the first few days. If this is hard for you, TOUGH. You’ll need to make hard choices like this if you want to win your ex back.

Think about what happens when you completely disappear like this. Your ex has NO IDEA where you went. In vanishing, you create a void in your ex’s life where you used to be. They begin to bug out because they can’t find you; they don’t know where you are, who you’re with, or what you’re doing.

All of these thing will help spark renewed interest in you on your ex’s part. And this is exactly what you want at this stage of the game.

Rebuilding Yourself in Your Own Best Image

Let’s go back to when your ex first fell in love with you. What did you look like? How did you act?

Were you a lot cooler around your boyfriend or girlfriend? Did you act more confident? Did you enjoy yourself more, and by default, were you happier and more optimistic than you were at the end?

All relationships go through changes, and many of them are for the worse. When the honeymoon phase is over and the ‘glow’ wears off, people will often begin taking each other for granted. They begin fighting over stupid crap. They begin harboring jealousy over the dumbest of shit.

What you need to do is remember the beginning again. Recall how you were, and how you acted (and reacted) around your ex. Your probably laughed more, the both of you. You had more fun. The relationship was still young, and you were still out to impress each other.

These things are absolutely crucial to making your ex want you again. Later on during the process of getting back together, you’ll use nostalgia triggers to bring your boyfriend or girlfriend mentally – and emotionally – back to the beginning of your relationship. So when that finally happens? You’ll need to know exactly how to act.

Preparing Mentally For Your Reconciliation

There’s no hope for you if you’re a crying, sobbing wreck. Your lover isn’t going to take you back out of pity, or guilt, or any of those things, so dry your eyes and start getting yourself together emotionally for when you start communicating with your ex again.

Likewise, don’t be angry. No one likes a sarcastic, biting person who drops passive-aggressive comments because he or she still feels bitter about the breakup. No matter what happened to end your relationship, you need to get past it if you want any chance at all at getting back together. And yes, this even includes cheating.

So clear your mind. Mentally prepare yourself for the day you talk to your ex again. You’ll need to be cheerful and you’ll need to be optimistic. Maybe even forgiving too, if you were the person who got wronged.

Preparing Physically For Your Reconciliation

And how about physically? Were you in better shape when you first started going out? Did you dress better, look better, even smell better? If so, it’s time to get those things in order as well. Because the better you look, act, and feel, the greater your chances of keeping your ex attracted to you.

We all know looks aren’t everything. But when it comes to first impressions, you’ll need to do your best. At one time, before you even spoke to each other, you and your partner sized each other up physically. So if you want the best chance of getting back together again, make sure your ex likes what they see.

Yes, this means hitting the gym. It also means hitting the mall. Get new clothes, a new outfit, new shoes, new glasses. Grab a new tan. When these things start coming together, you’ll feel better about yourself. This will of course translate into renewed confidence, which is another big trigger in making your lover want you again.

Rebuilding Your Social Life in Fantastic Ways

At first, your ex will watch you disappear. They’ll wonder where you went. You’ll be a mystery for a while, and this is a good thing.

When you finally reappear? Things need to be AWESOME. No matter what you do, or where you go, it’s got to be the best thing and the best place ever.

At this point you’ll come back to social media. When your ex sees your posts, he or she will see you surrounded by friends and family. They’ll see you doing amazing things, going really cool places, and in every single picture, smiling like there’s no tomorrow. And this is because you’re not just ‘good’ after the breakup. You’re totally great.

Again, every ex on the planet wants to see their former lover fail. This isn’t because they’re hateful, it’s because we all like to think people are better off WITH us. So when your ex sees you having the time of your life without them? Two things happen.

One, your ex becomes jealous. After all, why weren’t you doing all these amazing things while you were together with them? Were they not worth it?

Two, your ex starts questioning the breakup. And this is because you seem to be needing them a LOT less than they think you did… which starts them along the path of “hey, maybe I actually needed this person MORE than they needed me.”

Allowing Your Ex to See You Out With Other People

This one is huge. Because as much as you probably think you’ll scare your ex away once they think you’ve started dating again, actually just the opposite happens.

When your ex sees you with someone else, they always want you more. This is because you’ve suddenly proved value. The person they dumped so callously is now on someone else’s arm, which makes them question whether they actually had something GOOD when they were with you.

And if you followed the other six moves? They will think that. All of a sudden your ex will be wracked with indecision. Haunted by regret over having let you go when someone else scooped you up so quickly.

And hey, you don’t need to ‘date’ date this person. All you need to do is go out with them. Even if it’s a casual acquaintance, your former boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t know that. Even if it’s nothing more than a platonic or practice date, it’s still something that will set your ex’s teeth on edge.

Other Ways to Get Your Ex to Want You Again

Fixing ANY breakup is essential about the same thing: reversing your current situation.

You want to reverse how your boyfriend or girlfriend sees you right now. You want to reverse the decision they made to end things. Ultimately, you want to reverse the steps that got you here. Walk backwards, up along the path that leads back into the really cool relationship you once had.

This is where Breakup Reversed takes over.

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This stand-alone, step-by-step system by relationship expert Robert Parsons has helped tens of thousands of couples reunite with one another and fix their broken relationships.

Over the course of more than a decade? Breakup Reversed has proved itself golden with a whopping, guaranteed 94.7% Success Rate!

This means that more than 9 out of 10 couples who employed these reversal techniques ended up reconciling in one way or another. For more information on that, check out the glowing reviews and testimonials as shown below.

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When it comes to breaking up, and making up, you only get one REAL shot at it. It’s not something you can keep trying over and over again when you get it wrong, because very quickly you’ll find that you’ve driven your partner away.

For this reason alone, you want to arm yourself with all possible knowledge before making a single move. And reading Breakup Reversed is like loading yourself to the max, and then approaching your breakup with all guns blazing.

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Why Does My Ex Still Text Me?

In the old days, a breakup was a breakup. You’d lose someone’s phone number, and you’d go on with your life.

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But in today’s digital age? There are still DOZENS of connections between you and your ex, even after the relationship ends. Photo albums, Facebook posts, Instagram messages, emails… and of course, the hundreds or even thousands of text messages you shared during the time when the two of you were dating.

So what does it mean when your ex is still texting you?

Why would he or she be keeping up text-message contact, even though you’re no longer together?

Sometimes the answer is simple; your ex is still thinking about you. You’ve left their life, maybe for good, but you still haven’t left their train of thought.

Imagine how many times you texted your boyfriend or girlfriend over the course of your romance with them. Every morning, every night… all through the day. So even now, their daily routine of talking to you is pretty standard. It’s still keeping you ‘together’, at least on a text-based level.

Other times, the answer is a bit more complicated. That’s because there are always residual feelings and emotions to deal with any time two people break up.

These are the deep-seeded ties that bound you while you were in love with each other. The ones that were so powerful in the beginning. The ones that made it so that you couldn’t keep away from each other, and wanted to spend every minute of every day together, no matter what.

And these powerful connections? They stick around for a while. They just don’t go instantly away because someone said three simple works: “let’s break up”.

An ex will text you for a number of reasons. All of them are generally signs of interest. So if you’re looking to patch things up, or try and get back together again? The fact that your ex is staying on touch with you, even on your tiny little 4-inch cellphone screen? Yeah, it’s still a pretty good thing.

The 8 Big Reasons You’ll Receive Texts From Your Ex

Below you’ll find a list of reasons why your ex is still texting you. Some mean little in the grand scheme of things, but others are a lot more telling when it comes to how your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend truly feels about you.

Your Ex Misses You… Big Time

Let’s face it, when dating someone you get used to spending an awful lot of time together. You see each other, open up about your lives, and tell each other all about daily events. It’s something you’re accustomed to, and so is your ex.

This is why you might still get the occasional message, even after being apart. Your ex is simply thinking about you. He or she misses the contact, and is reaching out for something as simple as someone to talk to, or to bounce ideas off of, like in the old days.

He or She is Used to Contacting You Every Day

Texting back and forth all day, every day, is something you’ve both taken for granted during your relationship. So if you’ve been doing it for months, even years? It’s something you – as well as your ex – might still be tempted to do.

A lot of times people think this type of text-messaging is innocent: “Oh, I like to talk to him/her, but I don’t want to get back together or anything…”

In reality? ALL texting means something. There’s no “innocent” contact when it comes to your ex, unless you’re making that one final phone call to get your stuff back. An ex who is still hammering out a bunch of small-talk on your cellphone all day is an ex who isn’t yet ready to lose you completely.

Your Ex Wants to Be Friends After the Breakup

This reason is always a hidden agenda. Believe me when I say there’s no such thing as 100% strictly platonic friends “with an ex”. That doesn’t happen, not even in movies.

Once you’re intimate with someone, that’s IT. The dynamic between you is forever changed. You know this. I know this. Everyone knows this. It’s common knowledge.

Yet some people will continue deluding themselves that somehow, some way, they can be ‘friends’ with someone they dated. As if one person doesn’t still love the other person just a little bit more… tilting the scales so that the balance of power always denotes a breakup “winner” and a breakup “loser”.

If your ex wants to be friends it’s because he or she WANTS something. Most of the time, it’s information. Your former boyfriend or girlfriend is looking to keep you in their life as a security blanket; something to hold onto in case being single doesn’t work out for them. Your “friendship” is a tool. A way for your ex to have his/her cake and eat it too.

Your Ex is Checking Up on You Through Your Phone

Other times, an ex will just want to see where you are. It’s comforting to know that you haven’t moved on, haven’t started dating, and didn’t meet anyone else since the two of you went your separate ways.

Why is this? Does your ex hate you? Do they want to see you fail? Well, no and yes. No, they don’t hate you. But yes, it’s human nature to want to see you worse off than when you were with them.

In short, your ex wants to be right. They would like to believe that breaking up with you was the right move, so they use text-messages to “keep in touch” under the guise of innocent contact. Which, of course, it’s not.

He or She Drunk Texted You

Drunk-calling has now been replaced by drunk texting. This is when it’s late at night, your ex has been drinking, and his or her thoughts inevitably turn toward you.

This is a HUGE SIGN OF INTEREST! Being drunk, your defenses are always down. That’s when your true feelings rise to the surface, unhindered by any inhibitions or walls you may have been putting up.

This means your ex secretly thinks about you a lot more than you think. The alcohol acts as a catalyst for contact; rather than refrain from calling or texting you while they were sober, your drunk exboyfriend or exgirlfriend is free to do whatever they want… and blame it on the alcohol later on.

Your Ex is Nostalgic About Your Past History Together

Know why people get back together? Because the beginning of every relationship is AMAZING.

Think about that. Go back to those first few weeks (a.k.a. the ‘honeymoon phase’) of your relationship and tell me it wasn’t the best thing in the whole world. Tell me the feelings weren’t explosively powerful. Tell me the sex wasn’t Rock Star levels of Godliness.

When your ex is lonely, he or she will think back to those early times. The good times, before all the bullshit. Before all the fighting and arguing and stupid jealousy that probably broke you up.

Fixing a breakup is all about bringing these feelings back again. There are some really great methods and techniques for making your ex remember how much they really love being with you, if you’re willing to sit down and learn them.

Your Ex Wants to Hook Up, Meet Up, Have Sex, Etc…

This one is the Booty Call. The unapologetic “hey, let’s hang out” text that ends up in bed with the two of you rolling around naked. And hey, that’s okay. Sex is actually a big part of getting back together.

Take this text for what it is; your ex is still physically attracted to you. Whether or not that leads to a more emotional and permanent connection is still up in the air, but at least you’re moving in the right direction.

Your Ex is Feeling You Out on the Subject of Getting Back Together

In the final stages of a breakup, right before you get back together again, your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend will try and gauge your feelings. They’d like to know that if they suggested giving your romance another chance, they’re not going to be rejected or shot down.

That’s where this text comes in. Your partner will usually be more overt about his or her intentions here, asking factual questions about where you are, how you’ve been doing (emotionally), and whether or not you’re dating someone else. You’ll also get “do you miss me?” and “do you remember when we used to XYZ?” a lot, which is his or her way of trying to remind you of how good you were together.

A former lover who gets nostalgic or reminiscent about the past is a lover who wants to create future times with you. So yeah, your ex is probably about to ask you out again. Roll with it, if that’s what you want, and encourage such contact. Then see where it goes.

Other Signs Your Ex Still Loves You

In the end, there are lots of signs and signals your ex boyfriend or girlfriend will give off when they’re showing interest in you again. Spotting these signs, and then knowing what to do about them? Well, that’s the tricky part.

Why does me ex text me? Truth is, it’s an extension of your past relationship. Breakups HURT. Messaging back and forth can alleviate that pain, even if just for a little while.

All said, timing is everything when it comes to reconciling. You need to make the right moves, at the right times, while avoiding all of the wrong ones.

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My Girlfriend Wants a Break – What Can I Do?

The words are like getting stabbed in the gut with a rusty knife:

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“I think maybe we should take a BREAK from each other…”

Your mind reels. The blood rushes to your head as you struggle for something to say.

And what do you even say to that? Your girlfriend is rejecting you. Hard. And not just in the traditional breakup sort of way, she’s actually demoting you to the lamest of all possible places in her life: she’s putting you on a shelf, to be dealt with ‘later on’ (or whenever she feels like it).

If your girlfriend wants to take a break, you’d better act fast. Any sort of inaction or complacency on your part will result in her continuing the break for as long as she wants. This, essentially, is like handing her all the power. You’re giving her the keys to your relationship and telling her she gets to drive.

Know what happens next? She drops you off. Or maybe she kicks you out of the car while it’s still moving. Either way, your girl isn’t likely to change the ‘break’ status anytime soon, as long as you’re peacefully and obediently going along with it like a good little boy.

What to Say When Your Girlfriend Wants Time Apart

You say NO. Plain and simple. You need to be firm, you need to be rigid, and you need to be STONE COLD in your attitude.

“No, but thanks anyway. I don’t ‘do’ breaks. Breaks are bullshit.”

If you ever wonder why a girl would tell you she wants a break instead of a straight-up breakup, it really boils down to one thing: uncertainty. Your now ex-girlfriend is hedging her bets. She’s not 100% ready to let you go just yet, so she does the next best thing; she strings you along. She dangles the carrot of ‘maybe we’ll get back together’ in front of your face while she goes out and plays the field and decides whether or not she can find some other guy – some stronger guy – who makes her feel more wanted and loved and safe and secure than you do.

If your girlfriend springs the whole ‘time apart’ thing on you, it’s because you’ve been weak. Either you haven’t been fulfilling her needs, or you’ve been wishy-washy as a boyfriend in general. Maybe you’re insecure. Maybe you’re always apologizing for everything, or joking that you’re dating ‘out of your league’. All of these things will make a girl wonder why she’s with you in the first place. In short, you’re digging your own grave.

By denying her the break you’re delivering a message. You’re essentially rejecting her as much as she’s rejecting you. Because rather than scramble to get her back, or try to “fight” for the relationship (which is exactly what she wants), you’re crumpling the romance into a ball and casually tossing it over your shoulder.

She wants a break? Fine. No problem. You’re TOTALLY willing to go out and see other people yourself. Tell her this, and see how fast she changes her tune. Mention this to her, and see how quickly she tells you “Well, I don’t think we should see other people, I just think we should take some time apart.”

She’s backpedaling. At which point you say:

“Yeah, no thanks. If we’re together, we’re TOGETHER. If we’re not, we’re not. I’m not doing things half-assed. I’m not going to sit around in some lame relationship limbo while waiting for you to figure things out.”

Be TOUGH. It’s the only way to keep her. It’s the only way to make your girlfriend come face to face with the reality of losing you all at once, rather than letting you go little by little while she ‘decides’ whether or not she can find some other guy.

The WORST THING YOU CAN DO When Your Girlfriend Wants Time Apart

Keep in mind that when your girlfriend offers ‘a break’ the very first thing she expects is resistance. She wants you to fight. She wants to see how much you really do care. Begging, pleading – all of these things seem like they might help get her back, but in reality they’re only going to turn her off even more and ratify the decision she already made to distance herself from you.

Your girlfriend also wants you to talk her out of the break. At this point she won’t ever be talked out of it, but she wants to see you try. This is because when you’re groveling for her approval she’s suddenly in the position of being right (and you’re in the position of being instantly wrong). She assumes control. She’s using the break as a scare tactic to gauge your reaction, and most of all, to see if you’re worthy of actually dating her.

So yeah, it’s a test. A test of your manhood. Chase her, and you fail. Come up with 1,000 reasons you should stay together, and she’ll have 1,001 reasons you should be apart. It’s a game, really. And it’s not a game you can win, so you shouldn’t even be playing it.

What to Do if You’re Already on a Break

Now if this conversation already happened and you meekly “agreed” to take time apart? Well, you’re in trouble. Fortunately though, it’s never too late to fix this situation.

Your first move is to employ these counter-rejection techniques. DO THEM NOW, and don’t wait. They’ll get you immediately started on reversing the entire situation, and seizing back most of that power you already lost when you accepted her offer to ‘take a break’ from each other.

After that, it’s time to sack up. Figure out what you’ve been doing (or not doing) to drive her in the opposite direction, and rectify that situation as well. Check out these 4 huge mistakes most guys make when they feel like they’re losing control of their relationship. How many of them are you guilty of?

Ultimately, any ‘break’ will always become a breakup unless you DO SOMETHING about it. Sitting still won’t help. Waiting patiently, and hoping she’ll somehow come to her senses, is the worst possible move. Being proactive here is the most important thing you can do to keep your relationship alive and healthy. Being reactive, unfortunately, will always get you dumped.

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Contacting Your Ex Boyfriend – When and How to Do It

Breaking up is about being apart. This makes you miss each other, but it also creates huge gaps between you that can make future contact pretty awkward.

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Very often you won’t know when or how to get back in touch with your ex. Maybe you’ve even tried, and your attempts at keeping in touch have been met with resistance.

If your boyfriend is cold or callous when he talks to you, it can be emotionally devastating. It can make you feel like there’s no more hope; as if he’s moved on already, and there’s nothing more you can do.

At the same time, you’ll feel like not contacting him is even worse. You’ll feel him slipping away, as if he’ll forget about you more and more as each day goes by without talking, texting, or seeing him.

There’s a 6 Step-Process to Get Back With an Ex. One of those steps is the NO CONTACT phase, where you pull away from your ex long enough to make him miss you, need you, and eagerly want to hear from you again.

But when it’s time to get back in touch? There are a variety of ways you can make contact with your ex boyfriend again. Here are just a few of them:

Facebook or Instagram Contact

Of all the ways to reopen the lines of communication, this one is rock bottom. You really want to avoid contacting your ex through social media if at all possible, because it’s one of the most impersonal ways of reconnecting.

Essentially, you’re reaching here, and desperately so. Worse, your boyfriend can easily ignore this attempt at contacting him by simply doing nothing. This will leave you wondering if he even got your message at all.

Texting Your Ex After the Breakup

Again this is impersonal, and because you sent thousands of text-messages to each other over the course of your relationship, this will get lost in a sea of ‘whatever’. Texting your ex when you haven’t seen or talked to him in a long while is a huge copout. You’re showing your insecurity and lack of confidence; you’re sweating him so much you can’t even carry on a conversation with this guy. So why the hell would he want to date you?

Now if your ex texts you, you’ll need to know EXACTLY how to respond. In that case, check out this video on what to text your exboyfriend when he does reach out to you.

Emailing Your Ex Boyfriend

Marginally better than texting, this is still not the best idea. The bad news is he can ignore the email as if he never got it, leaving you in total limbo. The good news however, is that you get to craft a longer message. You aren’t limited to a certain number of words or characters, like on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook. You can really pour your heart out here. But should you?

Remember, when getting back in touch after a breakup you always want first contact to be short. You need to get in quick, keep things light and positive, and get out of the conversation on your own terms.

Here’s a complete guide on what to say when you make first contact with your ex boyfriend. Also included here, and even more important? What NOT to say to him if you still want him back!

Calling Your ExBoyfriend on the Phone

Here’s where you really up the ante on winning him back. Because until you’re willing to actually talk to your boyfriend, in a real live conversation? He’s never going to take your attempts at reconciliation seriously.

Up until you call him, he’ll see your texts and emails as signs of interest. He may be flattered by these things, but for the most part he’ll brush them off. In short, you’re giving up control. And you don’t have very much control to begin with, if he was the one who initiated the breakup.

There are certain times that are optimal for calling or contacting your ex. Know what these are, because when it comes to making him receptive to taking you back? Timing is everything.

Physically Seeing or Running Into Your Ex

There are two approaches to seeing your exboyfriend here. One is to just flat out show up and talk to him. And this one is risky.

Again, you don’t want to force your boyfriend into anything unwanted. He needs to NEED to hear from you again, or even see you, before you start making any moves. This requires him missing you first, so you must go through the no contact portion of the breakup reversal process. All of the steps are vital, and you can’t skip anything.

The second approach is to ‘accidentally’ show up somewhere your ex is going to be. This could require some reconnaissance (through friends, family, or even social media) but you absolutely must not let him know that you intentionally came to see him. This would look desperate, and if he smells that desperation it’s something that will immediately set you back to square ONE.

How Can I Get My Ex to Call Me?

Great question, I’m glad you asked it. Because as difficult as it is to initiate contact with someone who dumped you, the whole situation becomes MUCH easier when your boyfriend is the one who actually calls you.

There are several ways to accomplish this, and not all of them will fit your own particular breakup scenario. Read up on them and learn which one might be right for you. Then go for it, but only after you’ve gone NO CONTACT for the required period of time.

Ultimately contact is necessary for ANY reconciliation. Never be afraid of it. Never be too timid, or laid back, and fearful to make some moves of your own. Your boyfriend isn’t going to wait forever, and neither are the girls who might already be getting in line to date him.

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Want Your Girlfriend Back? Don’t Make ANY of These 4 Mistakes!

The road to getting back together can be long or short. Unfortunately, it can also be a marathon.

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If you get too eager or too desperate, your actions can drive your girlfriend completely away. At best, she’ll be annoyed with you. At worst, it can change the way she sees you forever… in some very negative ways.

Again, fixing a breakup is often about what you don’t do. Some guys are so eager to take action – any kind of action – that they’ll trip over their own feet in an effort to fix things that aren’t even broken.

Below are a list of horrendous mistakes you can make while trying to convince a girlfriend to take you back. Make just a few of these blunders, and you’ll lose any shot you have of regaining your old relationship.

Sulking, Crying, Acting Like The World is Ending

Some guys wear their heart on their sleeve. And you know what? Sappy movies, bad TV shows, and Cosmopolitan have done their level best to convince guys to be more emotional. That’s it’s okay to cry, or show their softer side, because girls LOVE that sort of thing.

But nope. Not after a breakup.

There’s no planet in this universe where pity actually works. All the crying in the world isn’t going to make her want you again, and in fact, it’ll make you look like a weak-willed douche. The kind of pansy ANY girl shies away from dating, because that type of person isn’t even a man. You’re a boy at best, crying and sulking and trying to trick your girlfriend into feeling sorry enough for you that she wants to end your pain by agreeing to go back out with you.

Sulking is the WORST thing you can do after a break. It’s a huge turnoff. Your friends, your family – maybe they’ll feel a bit sorry for you, but when it comes to your girlfriend you’re basically telling her “I am no longer boyfriend material.”

Getting Angry or Bitter About the Breakup

In this pathetic display of “strength” you launch a major offensive. Maybe even a verbal (or sometimes physical) tirade against all the wrongs and injustices your girlfriend committed during the course of your relationship.

And guess what? You come off as a crybaby. A bitter asshole she’s glad to be rid of. You’re exhibiting the exact immaturity she doesn’t want in a potential partner, and you’re justifying her decision to break up with you as the RIGHT decision.

You Threaten to Harm Yourself (or Worse, Your Girlfriend)

You shouldn’t be dumb enough to try this one, but I’ll talk about it anyway: YOU’LL NEVER FORCE YOUR GIRLFRIEND BACK INTO A RELATIONSHIP with threats of bodily harm, suicide, or any of that stupid baby bullshit. You’re throwing a tantrum and that’s all it is – that’s all it should ever get recognized for.

Yes you may be frustrated. Yes, it may seem like your girlfriend isn’t answering your calls or listening to your voicemails or responding to your text messages. But that’s fine. There are other ways of getting her to talk to you rather than threatening her, or yourself, with violence.

Never go this route when trying to get your ex back, even if you’re desperate. At best you look like a complete psychopath. At worst you’ll end up in jail, or with an ambulance called to your house by your exgirlfriend because you threatened to hurt yourself.

You Beg Your Girlfriend ‘For Another Chance’ and ‘Promise to Change’

Number one, your girlfriend doesn’t want to give your relationship another chance (at least right now). Number two, begging and pleading are wholly unattractive, especially to a woman, and especially when you’re trying to get that woman to consider you as her ‘man’ again.

A man doesn’t beg. He doesn’t plead. He doesn’t make lame-sounding promises that “things will be different”. A MAN actually walks AWAY after someone dumps him, as if hey, guess what? He’s going to be happier and better off without this person who rejected him anyway.

This sounds like callous macho bullshit, but in reality this is exactly what will turn your girlfriend around. Because the more you beg and plead and act like you actually did something wrong the more it makes you guilty. Guilty of what? Of anything, really. Doesn’t matter, because in looking ‘wrong’ about the relationship it ratifies your girlfriend’s decision to end things.

In re-attracting your girlfriend, indifference is key. You don’t have to be a jerk to her, and you don’t have to treat her like crap. But you DO have to act as if you could care less whether or not you get back together with her. Do that, and you’ll fill her mind with doubt. Do that, and you’ll soon find HER chasing YOU.

Positive Traits That Will Get Your Girlfriend Back

Now that you’ve learned what NOT to do after your girl breaks up with you, it’s time to learn what you can. Here’s a complete list of traits and behaviors women find attractive in men. Learn these well, and you’ll not only fix your breakup, but you’ll master the art of dealing with women as well.

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Ex Back Review: Breakup Reversed

There’s a reason Breakup Reversed is the single most popular, most downloaded guide to fixing a broken relationship. And maybe that’s because of two simple words: it works.

This expansive, step-by-step system boasts an incredible 94.7% success rate, backed up by hundreds of testimonials over the course of more than a decade. It contains the most concise, detailed blueprint to getting back together ever assembled, guiding you through the entire process of winning your ex girlfriend or boyfriend BACK.


Breakup Reversed System

As you can see, this isn’t a single book. It’s a multi-volume download containing several key guidebooks to understanding and reversing ANY breakup. And it’s not just written. There are audio files too, each of them giving you specific, hand-held guidance on how to turn your ex’s current view of your relationship completely around, bringing it back to the irresistible beginning when they first fell in love with you.

Included within the package, you get the following bonuses:

  • Breakup Reversed: A quick reference guide – An easy access, fast reference containing all the major steps needed to undo your breakup.
  • Instant Heartache Relief – Vital opening information on how to STOP the heartache, ease the pain of your breakup, and get your head straight… so you can start thinking clearly and making the correct moves toward positive contact with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend. A must-read before you do anything else.
  • The Secrets to Saving Any Marriage – It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been married or how bad things have gotten, relationship expert Robert Parsons shows you exactly what needs to happen in order to quickly put your marriage back on the right track. Even in the face of separation or divorce.
  • Let the Love Last – Your education doesn’t stop after you get your ex back! Learn exactly how to keep things fresh and exciting after your reconciliation, and what steps you can take to ensure a happy, healthy relationship free from future breakups.

Relationship expert and breakup master Robert Parsons has one simple motto:

THERE ARE NO HOPELESS SITUATIONS!

He goes about attacking your breakup situation with a counter-intuitive, aggressive stance that will immediately grab your ex’s attention and force them to face the issues that broke your relationship up. His logic makes incredible sense, and best of all, it usually goes in directions you’ve never thought to go.

And this is exactly why it works.

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See, we all know people who’ve gotten back together. Certain emotional attachments and psychological triggers make people want to be together again, even after some of the worst breakups. Hell, even after infidelity, or cheating.

Parsons focuses on what makes people change their minds after going their separate ways. He shows how you can manipulate your ex’s current mindset so that they start missing you and needing you in their life again. After that, taking you back is the only real option.

As the name suggests, the system also concentrates on reversing things. First and foremost? How your ex feels about you, or even views you as a potential mate. Odds are that view has changed a bit (or a lot) since they first started dating you. Breakup Reversed shows you why that is, and what you can do to go about correcting it.

Highlights of the system include just some of the following:

  • 7 must-know tricks you can start using immediately, to turn your ex around
  • 12 huge mistakes every person makes after getting dumped (and how avoiding them can sometimes end your breakup in just hours rather than days or weeks)
  • How to uncover your ex’s true feelings for you, and which methods you can use to strengthen those bonds so that they miss you more quickly
  • An extremely sneaky trick that gives you a “clean slate” with your ex, even if your breakup involved betrayal or cheating
  • Instant attraction techniques designed to bring your relationship back to its original ‘honeymoon’ phase, when your ex couldn’t even keep their hands off you
  • One very top-secret technique that puts you immediately back in your ex’s head again, regardless of the last time you made contact

Obviously there’s a lot more to the system, including a step-by-step analysis of ALL the phases of your breakup. Robert Parsons stresses that it doesn’t matter where you are, or what you’ve done so far; there’s always a way back to your prior relationship, as long as you haven’t slammed shut the window of opportunity by making too many of those early breakup mistakes.

Also, there’s special advice on how to contact your ex after the breakup. Because although the system is geared toward making your ex miss you so much that they’re the one contacting you, there’s always the possibility you need to reach out and open a new connection with your former boyfriend or girlfriend. Positive contact is one of the more tricky aspects of undoing a breakup, and Parsons handles it with laser-precision and great advice.

In the end this guide is perfect for all levels of breakups. Whether your breakup just happened and you’re looking to avoid pushing your ex further away, or if you’ve been broken up a few weeks now and are looking for a fresh approach to contacting and communicating with your ex, you won’t want to miss the guaranteed advice contained within this very powerful system.

Download Breakup Reversed Here

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What Does it Mean When My Ex Drunk Dials Me?

It comes when you least expect it… Midnight. 2am. You pick up the phone and there’s your ex, talking as loudly and obnoxiously as if it’s 2 O’Clock in the afternoon.

Drunk dialing is one of the bigger faux pas you can encounter. But after a breakup? Well, when your ex calls you up it’s not only because he or she is totally inebriated.

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Often, a drunk phone call actually means something.

In some cases, it even means a lot.

Look, in the everyday world your ex is strong. He or she broke up with you, and intends on going their own way. But after a few drinks (or a lot of drinks), suddenly the inhibitions are lowered. Obstacles disappear.

What might seem like a really bad idea when sober becomes an awesome idea when your ex is drunk. And why?

Well, because your ex still has feelings for you in one way or another. Because he or she could’ve called anyone in their entire phone – in the entire world even – but in that exact moment of vulnerability and weakness your ex actually called YOU.

Why Alcohol is Usually the Best Truth Serum

Alcohol makes people crazy, happy, silly, stupid, violent, and a whole bunch of other things, depending upon the person. But the one thing it does universally, to everyone, is bring out the truth.

So if your ex managed to call or text you at their weakest moment? It’s almost always an indication that they still love you, or still need you in some way.

In some cases, your ex might even want you back. They could be working up the courage to tell you this, or even to admit it to themselves. But once under the influence of alcohol? Their feelings become a lot more obvious as their inhibitions melt away.

Face it, every relationship – no matter how it ended – leaves residual feelings behind. Whatever emotional bonds the two of you shared don’t just disappear the second you break up.

In fact, very often? These feelings are buried. If you want your ex back, it’s up to you to unbury them… or even better, get your ex boyfriend or girlfriend to unbury those feelings themselves.

Buttons You Can Push to Expose Your Ex’s Feelings

There are three major emotional reconnection techniques you can utilize when you want to fix your breakup. These are designed to instantly stop your ex from thinking bad things about you, and help them remember the good.

Once you master how to push these emotional hot buttons, you gain quick control over how your ex views you. Essentially, you can change their mind without them even knowing that you changed it. Almost like the Jedi Mind trick, but with a little less Force.

Understanding exactly how to tug on your ex’s heartstrings is more of an art than anything else. You can’t pull too hard, or you run the risk of scaring them away. But you also can’t sit back and do nothing, because eventually those feelings will fade.

What to Do When Your Ex Drunk Dials You

The very best thing to do when you get that drunken phone call is try to be understanding about it. Don’t get grumpy, or bitter, or launch into a lecture… these things will only make you come off like a jerk. Your ex will remember you being an asshole to them, and that’s pretty much all they’ll remember.

Instead, be cool. Realize this is something that can happen to all of us. If you’re still in love with this person, let them talk. See if you can read some of the bigger signs that your ex still loves you, or at least, still has feelings.

Whatever you do, don’t push. You can’t get answers right now, and even if you could, you wouldn’t want them. This isn’t the time for serious conversation, but if you still want this person in your life it’s a good time to have a fun conversation, laugh a bit, and maybe even bring up some of the cooler moments of your past relationship. Because when your ex wakes up? THAT’S what he or she will remember.

In the end, drunk dialing is always a sign of interest. You should be flattered, not pissed. You should see it as a compliment, even if it cost you some sleep. And in the grand scheme of things? This type of phone call can put you one step closer to reconciliation.

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