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5 Signs Your Breakup Might Only Be Temporary

Breaking up can sometimes seem like the end of the world. You don’t eat, you don’t sleep… you can’t even get out of bed because you miss your ex so much!

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But then, only a few days or a week later? WHAM! You’re suddenly back together. All of that pain and drama was for nothing, and everything is right with the world again.

So how can you tell when your breakup is real?

Are there signs that your ex is really over you for good?

How can you spot the signals given off when your breakup is only going to be a temporary thing?

Below you’ll find 5 big signs that your ex isn’t truly finished with dating you. Recognizing and exploiting these signals can actually help you get back together sooner, rather than later, and reduce the risk of a permanent breakup.

1. Your Ex Keeps Texting You

Text-messaging shouldn’t just drop off after a breakup, it should end entirely. Because if your boyfriend or girlfriend is truly no longer interested? They’ll realize that texting you would only give you false hope.

Any kind of post-breakup contact is an indication of one or two things: interest or regret. Either your ex is still interested in what you’re doing (who you’re with, whether you’re going to start seeing other people, etc…) or they’re showing some regret for leaving you behind.

This goes no matter what your ex says in the text messages. They can claim the messages are innocent and mean nothing, but should know that they don’t.

2. Your Ex Wants to See You

Breaking up correctly is like ripping off a band-aid; it hurts a lot to do it quickly, but at least the pain is over fast. But an exboyfriend or exgirlfriend who insists on still seeing you, or even better, running into you by ‘accident’? That person is reconsidering the breakup altogether.

Long-term relationships can leave mental, emotional, and even physical connections behind. There is usually a NEED for that person, a void that’s left after they’re gone.

Even if they’re the one who initiated the break, your ex might be addicted to contact with you, in one form or another. Keep in mind that needing to see you is a definite sign that they’re not yet ready to call it quits.

3. Your Ex Wants to be Friends

Does your ex really want you as a friend? No. What they want is to continue part of the relationship; ideally, the part where they get to see what you’re doing and keep tabs on you while the decide whether or not they want you back.

Agreeing to be friends with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend will NEVER get them back. In fact, the best thing to do in such a situation is refuse to remain friends at all… then pull out these 3 amazing moves that will make your ex miss you – and need you back – almost immediately.

Friendship is always a bad choice. Stick around as ‘friends’ for too long and your ex will never get to see you as a potential partner again, eliminating any possible chance of reversing your breakup and getting back together. The LAST thing you want is to fall into the Friend Zone. Especially if you’re trying to fix things and win your lover back.

4. Your Ex is Trying to Make You Jealous

When you see your former boyfriend or girlfriend out partying, whooping it up, or even grinding up against someone new for your benefit? It’s because they know you’re going to get jealous and they WANT you to feel that emotion.

Jealousy is your ex’s way of sticking it to you. It’s his or her way of making you want to chase them. Taking you back is one thing. Getting you to come crawling back is quite another. Because if you do that? They can restart the relationship on their terms, which usually means they’re going to abuse your love for them.

5. Your Ex is Suddenly Nice to You Again

One of the biggest signs that a breakup might be a mistake is when your ex boyfriend or girlfriend starts acting the way they did at the beginning. You know what I’m talking about: back to right before you were dating, when the two of you were still trying to woo or impress each other.

Being apart can also offer clarity. You’ll see things differently when you’re apart than when you’re together every day. You’ll start to miss things. Regret things you might’ve said or done. This will lead you to want to be nice to your ex, which in turn, can get your head spinning with the idea of wanting to date them again.

“Wow, I forgot it could be this good. Maybe it could be this good again.” – That sort of thing.

What to Do if You Want Your Ex Back

Getting back together after an unwanted breakup is nothing more than a series of taking the right steps. The only problem? All too often, most people make all the wrong moves.

They do this out of frustration, out of anger, and out of loneliness. Worst of all, they do it without realizing it’s having exactly the opposite effect: it’s driving an ex away rather than drawing them closer.

First, make sure you’re not making any of the 7 Biggest Breakup Mistakes. Commit even a few of these, and you can kiss your relationship goodbye forever.

Second, check out the amazing guide The Magic of Making Up. Author and relationship expert T.W. Jackson gives you a step-by-step, foolproof plan for making an ex need you back in their life again, no matter how long it’s been since the breakup.

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16 Signs You Just Weren’t Meant to Be Together

Ever break up with someone over and over again, but keep trying to stay in the relationship? Well you’re not alone. Everyone does this at one time or another, struggling to keep a romance alive that just doesn’t… well… fit.

The following is a big list of red flags. The more of these that apply to your current (or past) relationship? The more you probably would be better off apart.

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1. Your Partner Makes You Feel Guilty All The Time

Ever feel guilty just taking time for yourself? Even doing little things with friends and family? That’s the type of guilt a relationship really doesn’t need. This is a huge sign of an overprotective, needy lover.

2. The Love Feels… One-Sided

A good relationship is a 50/50 partnership; both people love and respect each other as equals. So when you start feeling as if you love your boyfriend or girlfriend a little bit more than they love you? The balance of power shifts, and you start getting taken advantage of.

Keep in mind, this can go two ways. If your partner loves you more than you love them, you’ll feel as if they’re being clingy or needy and this can also be a huge turnoff.

3. Your Lover is Never Happy For Your Successes

Healthy couples lift each other up rather than tear each other down. So if your boyfriend or girlfriend seems constantly ‘annoyed’ when you get a promotion, succeed at something, or get good news? It’s because he or she is jealous – and insecure – of your success.

4. You Stopped Hanging Out with Your Friends During the Course of Your Relationship

This is a common one. It’s okay – and inevitable – to spend less time with friends once you get a new boyfriend or girlfriend. That said, if your partner is making you feel guilty about seeing your friends at all? This is toxic, unhealthy thing… and it will eventually cause resentment on your part, leading to the demise of your relationship.

5. Your Ex Held You to Double-Standards

Was he allowed to go out with his friends, but you weren’t? Was she allowed to take trips without you, but you were forbidden to do the same? These kinds of double-standards are a sign of unhealthy jealousy. Your lover is personifying their insecurities through control, trying to keep you from doing things they themselves see no problem with doing.

6. You Argued Over Nothing. Literally.

Big fights over important stuff are one thing. But big fights spawned from little arguments over the most insignificant bullshit? That’s a sign of resentment. You and your partner are bickering over little tiny things because you resent each other for bigger, underlying reasons. The thing you’re arguing about is not the actual problem.

7. You’re Looking For Reasons to NOT See Each Other

When you start avoiding your boyfriend or girlfriend because hanging out with them seems like a ‘chore’, it’s a sure sign you’re losing interest. Either that, or you’re hanging out too much and need to back off a little and give each other some breathing room.

8. Your Relationship is Consumed by Jealousy

The most powerful and ugly of all emotions is jealousy. If you or your partner are constantly jealous of each other, especially in situations where things are nothing more than totally innocent, it’s another sign that the relationship has gone toxic.

A good, healthy relationship allows for TRUST and FREEDOMS. If you don’t have those things, jealousy will run your romance straight into the ground.

9. You Just Can’t See a Future Together

A strong relationship allows you to see long term. You and your partner get so close that you can’t imagine a life without each other, and that’s when you start planning for your future.

If you’ve been dating for a significant amount of time (more than 6 months) and you still can’t see a future with this person? It’s a sure indication that the relationship might be more of a temporary dalliance, or fling.

10. You’re Always Longing for the ‘Good Old Days’, or Wishing Things Could Be Like the Past

If you’re wishing things could be like they were “in the beginning”, it’s a sign that your relationship has devolved. Maybe it’s fighting, or arguing, or jealousy, or just plain boredom. But no matter what it is, something’s very, very wrong.

Here are 4 big signs your partner boyfriend or girlfriend loves you. If you’re still seeing some of these signs, there might be hope to save the relationship.

11. You’re Looking For Reasons to Be Mad

When being ‘right’ about something becomes more important than actually loving and caring for someone, it easily leads to picking fights. In this type of relationship you’re always chasing after that “Ah ha!” moment, to prove your lover is wrong about something. Seeking an apology all the time is another bad sign. This means you’re constantly playing the victim, looking for negative attention just so you can be ‘right’ and your lover can be ‘wrong’. That’s not a relationship anymore. It’s something worse.

12. You’re Always Trying to Outdo Each Other

A good romance is a partnership; you succeed together, and you build each other up. In short, it should feel like it’s the two of you against the rest of the world! And nothing can stop you.

So if you feel like you’re actually competing with your partner? That’s bad. It’s a sign of resentment toward each other when you’re always trying to one-up your boyfriend or girlfriend, or prove that you’re ‘better’ than they are.

13. Your Relationship is a Constant Power-Struggle

Who’s right? Who’s wrong? It doesn’t make a difference, because you’re too busy fighting. When your romance devolves into an eternal power-struggle to see who’s right and who’s wrong, there’s no time left to love or respect each other. You have to stop trying to be the victor and start trying to be a partner.

14. You’re Constantly Lying About Things

If you have to lie to your boyfriend or girlfriend all the time, it’s because there’s something very, very wrong. Either they’re overly jealous, or controlling, or whatever… but something is making you fabricate lies as to where you went, who you’ve been with, and what you’ve been doing without them… even if those things are completely innocent.

15. Your Friends and Family Don’t Approve of the Relationship

We all bring home people our parents (or friends) don’t like. That said, when you look around and suddenly you’re the only one who thinks your lover is a good person? Chances are he or she might be not so great a match for you. This could include all types of abuse; physical, emotional, verbal, mental… make sure this person loves you for who you are and isn’t trying to mold you into something they desire.

16. None of the Time You Spend is Quality Time

Just hanging out? Not really going anywhere or doing anything? That’s fine, as long as you’re having fun and loving the time you spend with your partner.

However, if you look back over the last half-dozen times you spent together and can only see the fights and arguments? That’s because you’re either spending too much time together, or you’re too busy resenting each other to spend that time doing quality things.

What to Do if Your Relationship is Toxic

If you find your romance has changed from something loving and great into something toxic, there might still be time to save it. Check out these two articles that give you step by step instructions on how to fix things between you, and put you back on the right track:

For girls: How to Rekindle the Romance with your Boyfriend

For guys: How to Make Your Girlfriend Fall Back in Love With You Again

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Why is Your Ex Still Texting You After the Breakup?

Text-messaging… it’s a huge part of our daily lives. And when it comes to dating, it’s an equally large part of the communication between a boyfriend and a girlfriend.

During your relationship you probably sent tens of thousands of texts back and forth to your lover. Little ones. Big long ones. Smiley emoticons and heavy sexting and everything in between.

Ex Still Texting You After The Breakup?

So when your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you, did you really expect it would all end? Did you think your ex would delete your number from his or her phone, and that would be it?

In reality, a lot of communication and text-messaging goes on these days POST-breakup. And that’s not just out of habit. Because if your ex is still texting you even after they’ve dumped you? If they’re still hammering out messages just for the sake of keeping in touch with you?

It’s a sure sign of only one thing:

Your ex still has some level of feelings for you.

Think about it for a second. If your ex really wanted out, they’re already gone. They don’t have to text you. They don’t have to keep in touch. And yes, I know they’re doing it under the guise of “we’re still friends” or the dreaded “I just wanted to see how you’re doing”, but truth be told, this person is keeping those lines of communication open for some very simple and selfish reasons: they don’t want you going anywhere just yet.

No, if your ex still texts after dumping you it’s because they’re not 100% sure. They could be 70, 80, 90% sure… but that lingering doubt is what’s keeping them from cutting you loose and deleting your contact information from their phone altogether.

What to Do if Your Ex is Still Texting You

If you’re trying to get back together but your ex won’t budge, it’s still a great sign you’re getting these messages. Even better, you can USE these messages as a tool to not only draw them closer again, but to actually get them to want you back.

First, check out this crazy but cool video on EXACTLY what to do when you start receiving texts from an exboyfriend or exgirlfriend. It’ll teach you pretty much everything you need to know about sending and receiving text-based communication after your relationship has already ended.

Next, understand that TOO much communication at this point is bad. This is because your ex is relying on these texts to still get their “fix” of you. By entertaining entire conversations with them, you’re giving them exactly what they want. Moreover, exactly what they need to keep themselves level-headed and going forward with the breakup.

Your goal here should be to make your ex MISS you. You’ll want them to need to hear from you – to actually crave all the cute little conversations and back-and-forth stuff you used to do each night, every morning, and all throughout the day.

Other Signs Your Ex Still Might Love and Need You

And remember, text-messaging is only one of the bigger red flags that your former boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t yet over the relationship. There are lots of other signs too, and knowing what these are can really help nail the correct timing of the 6-step reconciliation process.

Ultimately, any time your ex wants to stay in touch it’s an indication of general interest. In all cases, play it cool. Don’t chase. If you let your ex initiate most of the conversations, the balance of power will shift slowly back in your favor. You never want to feel as if your communication is unwanted. If you find yourself asking the question “do I text him/her too much?” the answer is already ‘yes’.

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