What Should I Do If My Boyfriend Asks For a Break?

As if breaking up isn't difficult enough, there's another type of situation that befalls some relationships: "the break". Being on a break with your boyfriend means that you're not really dating, but at the same time you're not really free to date other people either... it's a confusing limbo from which there's often no return.

Boyfriend Wants Break
Do you know what to do when your boyfriend wants a break?

"I think we need a break
from each other..."

If you've heard those words from a boyfriend, it's not always easy to know what they mean. A break isn't quite defined as a break up, but at the same time there's a good chance you're no longer going to be seeing each other. Usually these breaks are indefinite, with no set ending or conclusion. You don't know the rules, you don't know how long the break will go on for, and you have no idea if there's anything you can do to save the relationship.

What should you do if your boyfriend asks for a break? Well the first thing you're going to do is tell him NO.

Don't worry, you're not in denial. You're not even fighting the little pseudo break-up his has planned out in his mind. What you're doing here is letting your boyfriend know that being on "a break" just isn't going to fly with you. It's a situation you're not going to accept, because it puts you in the powerless position of sitting around hoping that things get better when they probably won't.

Either your boyfriend dates you or he doesn't. PERIOD. Those are the two options you need to give him when he asks for a break. There's no lame middle ground where you "sort of" have a relationship with each other, and for God's sake don't agree to be "friends" for a while. All of these dumb labels are the result of a guy who's not really sure what he wants, combined with a girl who's too scared to stand up for herself.

Not Allowing Your Relationship to be Placed in a Holding Pattern

Letting your boyfriend know that you're not going to accept anything less than a full-fledged relationship is sending him a clear message: your feelings and emotions will not be toyed with. If your man wants to break up with you that's perfectly fine, but you're not going to hang around waiting for him to decide what he wants to do. A break is like giving your boyfriend a license to cheat - he gets to go out, play the field, and decide whether or not the grass really is greener on the other side of the fence. Maybe he'll want you back... maybe he won't. But in either case, if you're not good enough for him right now? Chances are you won't be good enough later.

Now I know what you're thinking: "I don't want to lose my boyfriend". That's totally understandable, and I feel your anxiety here. But the one thing you really need to realize is that standing up for your relationship is actually the best way to save it. By not submitting your romance to the label of being "on a break", you're not diminishing the love and emotion you have between you. Your boyfriend will actually be shocked that you called his bluff... surprised that you're not willing to accept his decision... and best of all, scared that he's going to lose you.

This is exactly what you need: to put your guy in a state of mind where he has to imagine losing you for good. This isn't what he wants, or he would've just outright broken up with you. Instead, he'd hoped you would sit around in a broken relationship while he explored plan B, C, and D. If none of those plans worked out for him, your boyfriend would then take you back. It's a risk-free proposition for him, which is why he presented it in the first place.

Handling Your Boyfriend When He Says He Needs Some 'Time Apart'

So don't go into panic mode, sitting around wondering "What should I do if my boyfriend asks for a break?" Instead, know exactly what to do. Call your boyfriend's bluff by telling him it's all or nothing. Either he loves and wants you, or he can take a walk. Shock him right out of his comfort zone, and force your boyfriend to make a hard decision.

Now if you're already on a break and think it's too late? Don't worry, because it's not. There are some great methods and techniques you can use to not only stop the break from happening, but to save your relationship if you feel it slipping away. No matter what your circumstances, there are things you can do that are guaranteed to win your boyfriend back. All you need is patience, and a step by step plan of action.

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To fix a breakup in which your boyfriend dumped you, you'll need a male's viewpoint, brutal honesty, and straight-forward advice. And this is exactly where the Ex Factor Guide, by Brad Browning, comes into play.

Written exclusively for women trying to get back with an ex boyfriend, Ex Factor Guide is just that: a complete, step-by-step guide to not only getting your man back, but also keeping him around for as long as you want him.

The written guidebook and video files downloaded here go WAY beyond the more common breakup tips and tactics you may have already read. Author and relationship expert Brad Browning brings you deeper and deeper into your ex boyfriend's mind and mindset, showing you exactly what he's thinking before, during, and just after he breaks up with you.

The system goes into great detail as to why your ex boyfriend might currently be coldly ignoring you, and what you can do to draw him closer instead of shoving him unintentionally away. You'll learn tips and tactics for turning the tide, regaining control, and seizing back some semblance of power over whether or not you continue the relationship. Browning shows you what you're doing right now that may be inhibiting or preventing you from getting your ex back, as well as simple adjustments that will make your ex start wanting and needing you again.

One of the strengths of Ex Factor Guide is the author's no-bullshit approach and brutal honesty. He makes no apologizes as he dives into the male psyche, showing you why guys react to certain relationship situations the way they do. Over the course of the system's many video files, you'll gain new insight as to what may have caused your breakup... and how you can easily reverse it with a minimum of effort.

At the very least, check out this FREE 8-minute video of how you should be handling the initial stages of your breakup, and how you can regain your ex boyfriend's interest and attention even when it seems he might be 'over' the relationship.

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