Getting Back Your Ex Boyfriend When He Won't Call You

Has your ex boyfriend been unresponsive? Learn what to do when your ex is being cold and distant, and how you can draw him emotionally closer on the path to winning him back.

Ex Boyfriend Wont Call
What does it mean when your ex won't call?

Getting dumped... it's never easy. Being harshly rejected by someone you love can take a big emotional toll on you, especially if the end of the relationship came as a complete and total surprise.

Yet even in the darkest of scenarios, there's still some light at the end of the tunnel. Ready for some good news? Even after breaking up with you, our ex boyfriend is still emotionally attached to you. While you dated, your ex developed some very strong feelings for you. It's foolish to think these feelings just magically went away the moment he dropped the bomb.

No, the truth of the matter is that your breakup doesn't have to be permanent. Until your boyfriend totally lets go, there will always be a way to work yourself back into his heart. Once you realize and accept this, there's only the matter of finding it.

The big problem however, is this: initially it will be difficult to make any sort of move in your ex boyfriend's direction. Is he pushing you away right now? Acting cold and distant toward you? Has your ex ignored your phone calls, and not returned your text-messages? If so, you're in a very critical stage of your breakup. What you do right now will determine how easy (or hard) it will be to get back your ex boyfriend. Your overall success depends on the severity of the mistakes you make, or hopefully don't make.

When your ex boyfriend doesn't call, it's because he's implementing a very standard defense mechanism. Simply put, guys don't want to be around girls they've just broken up with. It's weird, it's awkward, and it's a very strange scenario. Unless your boyfriend is ready to take you back - and right now he's not - your ex won't be looking for any form of contact with you, electronic or otherwise.

Don't Take Your Ex Boyfriend's Lack of Contact as a Sign of Rejection

The faster you feel your ex slipping away from you, the more you'll want to act toward getting him back. This is the fatal flaw in your plan, and it's a very big catch-22 scenario. Why? Because the more you take action right now, the faster you'll push him away. Your reaction to feeling as if your exboyfriend is emotionally slipping away soon becomes the very thing that makes you lose him.

Ex Boyfriend Not Calling
Lack of exboyfriend contact doesn't
mean a lack of interest.

Try to understand that your boyfriend ignoring you means absolutely nothing right now. In fact, the less contact you have with him the better. To get back your boyfriend, you'll first need tips make your ex miss you. This requires ignoring him in return, rather than chasing after him.

It's a natural reaction to avoid the person you broke up with, and your ex will seek to do just that. The emotional bonds and connections your boyfriend once felt for you are mostly still intact, and this is exactly why it's awkward for him to communicate with you right now.

Once you've shown your ex that you're no longer trying to fix the breakup? His first reaction will be a sigh of relief. He'll be happy he no longer has to fear bumping into you, or hearing from you during this awkward phase of the breakup. His second reaction? Curiosity. Suddenly, from out of nowhere, your ex will find himself wondering why you're not chasing him anymore.

Creating an Atmosphere Where Your Ex Boyfriend Will Miss You

Alright, here's where things get good. As contact between you and your ex boyfriend disappears entirely, he's suddenly struck with the idea of losing you forever. This concept has never occurred to him before, because all along he's known that you still love him. The entire time you kept chasing or calling your ex, it reaffirmed the fact that he still had you wrapped around his little finger.

But now? Practically overnight, you've become a mystery. You've removed yourself from the realm of his daily life, leaving him to wonder where you are.

"Hmmmm... she stopped calling. Is she with someone else?
Did she meet some other guy?"

These thoughts will reverberate through your ex's head, bouncing around and around in there until he begins feeling the overwhelming need to find out what you're up to. Keep your silence total and complete, and this shouldn't take long.

At this point, your ex boyfriend misses you. He hasn't seen or heard from you in a while, and he'll start thinking fondly back to your past relationship. At the same time, your ex will start feeling a sense of increased urgency. Not knowing whether or not he can get you back will take away his safety net, and this can be a very scary thing for a guy who just dumped you.

Learning how to get your boyfriend back when he doesn't call isn't all that hard. It requires a clear head and some emotional patience. Knowing what to do next is also an important part of the reconciliation process, so don't go into reversing your breakup without a step by step blueprint of what to do.

Want to get your ex boyfriend to call you? Learn which methods and techniques are best! Couples get back together by being proactive about their breakups... not by sitting idly by and hoping that things somehow magically right themselves.

MOMU - Magic of Making Up

The Magic of Making Up is a revolutionary guide to reversing an unwanted breakup. It's especially geared toward anyone who feels lost, hopeless, or as if an ex boyfriend or girlfriend is slipping further away with each passing minute.

The wealth of information and video instruction within Magic is as invaluable asset when it comes to getting an ex to go back out with you. Relationship expert T.W. Jackson reveals exactly what you need to do in order to win back your ex, with step by step examples you can start using RIGHT AWAY.

Find out what's going on in your ex's head, including why they might currently shy away from contact. Learn reconnection techniques designed to get your ex to see you the way they used to, back when your relationship was fresh, new, and exciting.

In just minutes you can be reading this instantly downloadable guidebook, watching the videos, and finding out exactly what stage of the breakup you're at. From there, "T-Dub" takes you by the hand and leads you every step of the way through the process of getting your ex to want you, need you, and actually CHASE you the way they did in the very beginning.

  • Understand why your relationship ended, and how it's the key to reversing ANY breakup.
  • Find out how you can reverse your ex's current opinion of you, and gain back their respect.
  • Learn how to UNDO all the mistakes you made, even if it seems like you've already blown it.
  • Gain knowledge of which psychological triggers remind your ex of how good you can be together.
  • Re-ignite the spark and passion of your original romance, for both you and an unresponsive ex.

These are just some of the lessons you'll learn within The Magic of Making Up. Chapter by chapter, you'll be shown exactly what needs to be done in to get back with an ex after breaking up.

If nothing else, be sure to check out Jackson's infamous Opening Moves Video. If you're currently stuck on what to do next after your boyfriend or girlfriend isn't responding, this video gives FREE tips on how to move forward toward reconciliation... instead of backward toward a permanent breakup.

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