Getting Your Boyfriend Back - It's A Lot Easier Than You Think
Did your boyfriend dump you in the middle of what you thought was a good relationship? If you're not ready to walk away, you could be thinking of ways to repair your romance. Getting your man back isn't as hard as you might originally think, especially if you can learn a few simple rules about what your ex boyfriend is thinking right now.
It's only as hard as you make it.
Getting dumped by a boyfriend. You'll read a thousand articles on what to do in this situation - everything from giving him space to being super patient. People will tell you to be nice to him... to remind him of how much you love him... to let him pretty much walk all over you while he decides whether or not he wants you back.
By being totally passive, he's somehow expected to miraculously realize how much he loves you and come running back to you with tears in his eyes.
Maybe these people are watching too many romantic comedies.
Breaking up sucks, but it happens. Yet the break up itself isn't all that important: it's what you do immediately afterward defines whether or not you can get your boyfriend back. Make the right moves, and you can renew your ex boyfriend's interest in you once again. Make the wrong moves, or act at the wrong time, and you'll send him running double-speed in the opposite direction.
The good news is that ANY breakup can be reversed. The bad news is that most women don't know how to go about doing it. In their haste and desperation to do something - anything - to stop the break up from happening, these same women will make catalysmic, irreversible mistakes that could cost them any chance of ever dating their ex again.
First Moves To Consider After Your Boyfriend Breaks Up With You
Let me let you in on a little secret: your breakup already happened. Your boyfriend is single again, and so are you. Trying to "save" your relationship puts you at a tremendous disadvantage, and you surrender any and all control you might've had left over the relationship.
Acting for the sake of acting will always lead to failure. If you've begged, pleaded, and cried for your boyfriend to give your relationship another chance, you've just eroded away some of the respect he had for you. Getting him back will be tougher now, because he's already seen your cards. You've tipped your hand, and he knows he's got you beat.
Even if your ex boyfriend happens to be having some second thoughts about the breakup, he now knows exactly where he stands with you... he can get you back any time he wants with the snap of two fingers. This makes him feel invulnerable as he goes out, enjoys the single life, and sees if there's any other girls out there who might be a better fit than you.
So what should you do when your boyfriend breaks up with you? Great question. But an even better question would be what shouldn't you do.
Post-Breakup Mistakes That Always Push Your Boyfriend Away
When your boyfriend ends your relationship, it's time to walk away. No words, no big flowery speech... don't tell him you still love and care for him, just walk away. If your ex had a heart, he's going to feel sorry for you and feel badly about hurting your feelings. His next step is to call - or email - or maybe send a text message asking if you're alright. But all of that stuff? It should fall on deaf ears. Because at this point your phone should already be turned off.
You don't call your ex, and you don't take his call. You don't answer or read his text-messages - in fact, it's probably best to turn off your phone for the next week or two. Should you update your Facebook status? C'mon... you already know the answer to that. Your boyfriend will be looking at it every single day to see where you stand, and the fact that you haven't been online at all will perplex him.
You cannot, and I repeat CANNOT respond to the break up right now. Don't log on to check your ex's activities or to see what he's been up to. Go out, do something constructive, or see your friends to take your mind off your ex. Getting your boyfriend back is all about doing your own thing, and making yourself desirable again in his eyes.
Understand something: your boyfriend broke up with you, but he expected to do it on his terms. This means he wanted a gradual withdrawl, so he could be sure of his decision. Instead, you're yanking the rug out from under him all at once. By taking yourself completely out of the equation - and his life - you're making your boyfriend immediately miss you. And not only will he miss you, but he's going to wonder where you are, what you're doing, and whether or not another guy is involved.
Why aren't you chasing him? How come you haven't called, or tried to get him to come back? Left with no other information, your ex's mind will turn on him. He'll create scenarios in his mind where you've already moved on. He'll take your silence as an indication that you really don't care... after all, why wouldn't you be trying to win him back? The fact that you've put zero effort into fixing the break up will weigh heavily on his mind, even if he fully intended to carry out the break up.
THIS is what will make your ex boyfriend want you again. The curiousity created by not being around will always make a guy want you back. Men are strange like that - we always want the thing we can't have. But tell us we can have it any time we want? Suddenly we're no longer interested.
Actions You Should Take After The Breakup Has Resolved
Most of this article has been about things you shouldn't do when your boyfriend breaks up with you. But what about the stuff you should be doing? Are there actions you can take to accelerate the process of getting back together with your ex?
In short, yes. There are instant methods and techniques that will immediately recapture your ex's interest, even if you've been broken up a while. Even (and especially) in the case where he hasn't seemed to notice you, there are things you can do that will draw upon your ex boyfriend's old emotions and feelings toward you. Best of all, most of these actions can be taken without your ex even knowing that you initiated them at all.
Getting your boyfriend back requires a proven step by step plan. You can't just roll the dice and hope for the best. You can't just sit at the phone and pray for it to ring. Only be being proactive about your breakup can you finally get started on the path back together again.
The Ex Back System is a fully-complete, step by step blueprint to fixing your breakup from START to FINISH. Because no matter where you are along the way? Author Brian Bold picks you up, dusts you off, and shows you exactly what needs to be done.
Male or female, the goal is always the same: you want to get your ex boyfriend or girlfriend to fall right back in love with you again. Here's where you need to be careful, because while the right approach will put your ex back in your arms again, the wrong approach can actually do irrepairable damage to the future of your relationship.
If you've already tried some reconciliation techniques and are struggling with what to do next, the Ex Back System is especially important. Learn to identify behaviors that will drive your ex away, as well as which ones can actually get them thinking about and attracted you again - without you doing much of anything at all.
This instantly-downloadable breakup repair guide includes just some of the following:
- How to handle your breakup the RIGHT way, even if it's been weeks since you last saw your ex.
- Techniques for using your social life to affect (and speed up) the reconciliation process.
- Learn the first three phases of ANY breakup: Recession, Reconstruction, and Reconnection.
- Find out the best ways to establish contact with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend once again.
- Deal with special breakup situations: cheating, infidelity, or when your ex is already dating again.
In the end, The Ex Back System proves that you can't undo a stubborn breakup without one important thing: knowledge. The more informed you are? The more successful you'll be.
This 9-chapter, step-by-step system helps guide you through every twist and turn, showing you precisely what to do (and more importantly, when to do it) on the road to getting back with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Check it out here.
