Getting Your Boyfriend Back - It's A Lot Easier Than You Think

Did your boyfriend dump you in the middle of what you thought was a good relationship? If you're not ready to walk away, you could be thinking of ways to repair your romance. Getting your man back isn't as hard as you might originally think, especially if you can learn a few simple rules about what your ex boyfriend is thinking right now.

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Getting your boyfriend back:
It's only as hard as you make it.

Getting dumped by a boyfriend. You'll read a thousand articles on what to do in this situation - everything from giving him space to being super patient. People will tell you to be nice to him... to remind him of how much you love him... to let him pretty much walk all over you while he decides whether or not he wants you back.

By being totally passive, he's somehow expected to miraculously realize how much he loves you and come running back to you with tears in his eyes.

Maybe these people are watching too many romantic comedies.

Breaking up sucks, but it happens. Yet the break up itself isn't all that important: it's what you do immediately afterward defines whether or not you can get your boyfriend back. Make the right moves, and you can renew your ex boyfriend's interest in you once again. Make the wrong moves, or act at the wrong time, and you'll send him running double-speed in the opposite direction.

The good news is that ANY breakup can be reversed. The bad news is that most women don't know how to go about doing it. In their haste and desperation to do something - anything - to stop the break up from happening, these same women will make catalysmic, irreversible mistakes that could cost them any chance of ever dating their ex again.

First Moves To Consider After Your Boyfriend Breaks Up With You

Let me let you in on a little secret: your breakup already happened. Your boyfriend is single again, and so are you. Trying to "save" your relationship puts you at a tremendous disadvantage, and you surrender any and all control you might've had left over the relationship.

Acting for the sake of acting will always lead to failure. If you've begged, pleaded, and cried for your boyfriend to give your relationship another chance, you've just eroded away some of the respect he had for you. Getting him back will be tougher now, because he's already seen your cards. You've tipped your hand, and he knows he's got you beat.

Even if your ex boyfriend happens to be having some second thoughts about the breakup, he now knows exactly where he stands with you... he can get you back any time he wants with the snap of two fingers. This makes him feel invulnerable as he goes out, enjoys the single life, and sees if there's any other girls out there who might be a better fit than you.

So what should you do when your boyfriend breaks up with you? Great question. But an even better question would be what shouldn't you do.

Post-Breakup Mistakes That Always Push Your Boyfriend Away

When your boyfriend ends your relationship, it's time to walk away. No words, no big flowery speech... don't tell him you still love and care for him, just walk away. If your ex had a heart, he's going to feel sorry for you and feel badly about hurting your feelings. His next step is to call - or email - or maybe send a text message asking if you're alright. But all of that stuff? It should fall on deaf ears. Because at this point your phone should already be turned off.

You don't call your ex, and you don't take his call. You don't answer or read his text-messages - in fact, it's probably best to turn off your phone for the next week or two. Should you update your Facebook status? C'mon... you already know the answer to that. Your boyfriend will be looking at it every single day to see where you stand, and the fact that you haven't been online at all will perplex him.

You cannot, and I repeat CANNOT respond to the break up right now. Don't log on to check your ex's activities or to see what he's been up to. Go out, do something constructive, or see your friends to take your mind off your ex. Getting your boyfriend back is all about doing your own thing, and making yourself desirable again in his eyes.

Understand something: your boyfriend broke up with you, but he expected to do it on his terms. This means he wanted a gradual withdrawl, so he could be sure of his decision. Instead, you're yanking the rug out from under him all at once. By taking yourself completely out of the equation - and his life - you're making your boyfriend immediately miss you. And not only will he miss you, but he's going to wonder where you are, what you're doing, and whether or not another guy is involved.

Why aren't you chasing him? How come you haven't called, or tried to get him to come back? Left with no other information, your ex's mind will turn on him. He'll create scenarios in his mind where you've already moved on. He'll take your silence as an indication that you really don't care... after all, why wouldn't you be trying to win him back? The fact that you've put zero effort into fixing the break up will weigh heavily on his mind, even if he fully intended to carry out the break up.

THIS is what will make your ex boyfriend want you again. The curiousity created by not being around will always make a guy want you back. Men are strange like that - we always want the thing we can't have. But tell us we can have it any time we want? Suddenly we're no longer interested.

Actions You Should Take After The Breakup Has Resolved

Most of this article has been about things you shouldn't do when your boyfriend breaks up with you. But what about the stuff you should be doing? Are there actions you can take to accelerate the process of getting back together with your ex?

In short, yes. There are instant methods and techniques that will immediately recapture your ex's interest, even if you've been broken up a while. Even (and especially) in the case where he hasn't seemed to notice you, there are things you can do that will draw upon your ex boyfriend's old emotions and feelings toward you. Best of all, most of these actions can be taken without your ex even knowing that you initiated them at all.

Getting your boyfriend back requires a proven step by step plan. You can't just roll the dice and hope for the best. You can't just sit at the phone and pray for it to ring. Only be being proactive about your breakup can you finally get started on the path back together again.

Woman Men Adore

Ever wonder why some guys are overwhelming attracted to certain girls? What exactly do they have that makes men so interested in them? And can you duplicate that same type of success?

The Woman Men Adore is an insanely-popular guide to what makes your boyfriend WANT you... and what makes him want to look elsewhere. Relationship Doctor Bob Grant dives head-first into the male persona, male psyche, and male-driven behavioral patterns to show you what men really want when it comes to maintaining a connection.

The full title of this instantly-downloadable resource is The Woman Men Adore and never want to leave. It's this part that's interesting, because Bob Grant shows you what KEEPS a man as opposed to what makes him want to stray or leave.

It's obvious that the male mind is programmed differently than the female one. If you want to win back an ex boyfriend, the author teaches that you MUST use this knowledge to your advantage. Trying to get back together through trial and error will usually result in failure, or at most in a temporary reconciliation that will only fall back apart after weeks or months.

Bob Grant teaches you the 5 things men crave in a relationship, and the number one reasons why men choose to get married and stay with a partner rather than look for someone else. He also analyzes a woman's behavior, showing you which simple things you may unknowingly be doing to poison your relationship and actually keep your man from becoming close to you. Most women don't even realize this type of behavior is hurting their chances, and it causes an overwhelming number of unwanted breakups.

Within the many chapters of this relationship repair guide you'll find truthful advice on why men don't always listen when you talk to them, and how to get your man to REALLY comprehend what you're saying to him. You'll also learn which traits men find most attractive over all others, and how you can make small adjustments to your current situation in order to regain your ex boyfriend's respect, admiration, and especially, desire.

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