An Ex Boyfriend Relationship - The Good and the Bad

So you broke up... but you still think you're compatible. Can you and your ex boyfriend still carry on some kind of relationship?

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The ex boyfriend friendship: can it really work?

Think about that for a minute. Can you really be friends with an ex? Or is the friendship doomed from the very beginning... because one of you still likes the other?

Sometimes you feel in your heart that something might not be a good idea, yet you still try to do it anyway. In the case of staying friends with your boyfriend after breaking up, your heart might feel confident that you can make such an arrangement work.

At the same time, your head might be telling you that you're eventually going to get hurt. These conflicting thoughts determine whether or not you should carry on a post-breakup friendship, and as usual in cases involving romance, the heart wins out.

The Myths and Truths About Staying Friends After Breaking Up

Being friends with your ex after breaking up might immediately seems like a good idea. If you're hurting at the thought of not being able to see or hear from your ex again, this may be one way to ease the pain. By maintaining an ex boyfriend relationship, you get to still talk to him. You get to email him, text-message him, and even see him from time to time.

Some girls even believe they can carry the more physical aspects of their relationship into the friendship as well (i.e. "friends with benefits"). Sleeping with your ex boyfriend is the last piece of the puzzle... he now has everything he had before while he was still dating you, minus the responsibility of being faithful and monogomous.

Friends With Your Ex Boyfriend: Taking the Good with the Bad

The good part of carrying on a relationship with your exboyfriend is that you delay the pain of the break up. Stretching it out over a long period of time you might even think you're avoiding it. But the bad part? All of the above thoughts are way too optimistic. Because in 99% of all cases, being friends with an ex boyfriend is only going to end in disaster.

First, since you're not single, you're free to date other people. If you still love your ex, you might be thinking "no problem... I'm swearing off men for a while anyway". But you know what your exboyfriend is thinking? "Who am I going to date first?" He's newly single, and will start seeing other people pretty quickly. Since you're now his friend, you can't say a thing about it. In fact, you have to wish him well. You're his buddy now, and you should be wanting all happy things for him, right?

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Just how far does your friendship go?
Are you sleeping with your ex to get him back?

Of course, your ex's new girlfriends might not be happy with your little friendship. You'll get anything from snarling, dirty looks to them forbidding your ex to see you anymore. To say this will put a strain on your ex boyfriend relationship is only putting it mildly. You'll feel anger and bitterness and resentment toward him as he doesn't stand up for you, taking his new girlfriend's side. And things are going to get very, very lonely once he starts spending almost all of his time taking his new girl out to places the two of you used to go together.

If this all sounds harsh, it's because it is. Save yourself the pain of trying to be friends with your ex. If you want your boyfriend back? Get him! Don't play around in some pretend role, thinking you can keep things platonic until he miraculously comes to his senses. How long do you think it will take? When will your ex want you back? If you're his friend, you're already giving him virtually everything he had while he was dating you: love, laughter, companionship, maybe even sex. What's his incentive to say "Hey, let's be boyfriend and girlfriend again!" The answer: there is no incentive. He'll happily continue with the way things are, while you get pushed further and further back into a friendship role that you really don't want.

Why Does My Ex Boyfriend Even Want To Be Friends With Me?

Okay, here's at least one piece of good news: If your ex boyfriend still wants a relationship with you? It means he's not totally over you yet. Just as you may be hanging onto the idea of dating him again, he's still hanging onto the idea of keeping you around - for the exact same reason.

Maybe he's not ready to get back into a full-blown relationship with you right away, but he does want to keep you at arm's length. Knowing where you are and what you're doing makes him feel safe and secure... which is why you need to rattle his world by refusing the role of his friend. Sound crazy? It's not. It's just one of the bigger steps you can take that will help win back your boyfriend.

There are 8 Individual Steps that will Get Back Your Ex Boyfriend, so find out what they are! The quicker you realize that a friendship type of relationship just won't work, the faster you can get started on the road to reconciliation.

Ex Factor Exboyfriend

To fix a breakup in which your boyfriend dumped you, you'll need a male's viewpoint, brutal honesty, and straight-forward advice. And this is exactly where the Ex Factor Guide, by Brad Browning, comes into play.

Written exclusively for women trying to get back with an ex boyfriend, Ex Factor Guide is just that: a complete, step-by-step guide to not only getting your man back, but also keeping him around for as long as you want him.

The written guidebook and video files downloaded here go WAY beyond the more common breakup tips and tactics you may have already read. Author and relationship expert Brad Browning brings you deeper and deeper into your ex boyfriend's mind and mindset, showing you exactly what he's thinking before, during, and just after he breaks up with you.

The system goes into great detail as to why your ex boyfriend might currently be coldly ignoring you, and what you can do to draw him closer instead of shoving him unintentionally away. You'll learn tips and tactics for turning the tide, regaining control, and seizing back some semblance of power over whether or not you continue the relationship. Browning shows you what you're doing right now that may be inhibiting or preventing you from getting your ex back, as well as simple adjustments that will make your ex start wanting and needing you again.

One of the strengths of Ex Factor Guide is the author's no-bullshit approach and brutal honesty. He makes no apologizes as he dives into the male psyche, showing you why guys react to certain relationship situations the way they do. Over the course of the system's many video files, you'll gain new insight as to what may have caused your breakup... and how you can easily reverse it with a minimum of effort.

At the very least, check out this FREE 8-minute video of how you should be handling the initial stages of your breakup, and how you can regain your ex boyfriend's interest and attention even when it seems he might be 'over' the relationship.

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